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Saturday, February 13, 2010
Moral story Part II
Happy day! Everyone,
Bye and Gong Xi Fa Chai,
James OH
NOW .......
Enough of that crap. The donkey later came back,
and bit the farmer who had tried to bury him.
The gash from the bite got infected and
the farmer eventually died in agony from septic shock.
MORAL FROM TODAY'S LESSON:
When you do something wrong, and try to cover
your ass, it always comes back to bite you.
Bye and Gong Xi Fa Chai,
James OH
Friday, February 5, 2010
Moral for today Part I
Dear Everyone,
I am very pleased to share this meaningful story with you which I believe you will love it as I do :--
One day a farmer's donkey fell down into a
well. The animal cried piteously for hours as
the farmer tried to figure out what to do.
Finally, he decided the animal was old, and the
well needed to be covered up anyway;
it just wasn't worth it to retrieve the donkey.
He invited all his neighbors to come over and
help him. They all grabbed a shovel and began
to shovel dirt into the well. At first, the
donkey realized what was happening and cried
horribly. Then, to everyone's amazement he
quieted down.
A few shovel loads later, the farmer finally
looked down the well. He was astonished at what
he saw. With each shovel of dirt that hit his
back, the donkey was doing something amazing.
He would shake it off and take a step up.
As the farmer's neighbors continued to shovel
dirt on top of the animal, he would shake it
off and take a step up.
Pretty soon, everyone was amazed as the donkey
stepped up over the edge of the well and
happily trotted off!*****Life is going to shovel dirt on you, all kinds
of dirt. The trick to getting out of the well
is to shake it off and take a step up. Each of
our troubles is a stepping stone. We can get out
of the deepest wells just by not stopping,
never giving up! Shake it off and take a step up.
That's all for today. Please stay tuned for Part II
Remember the five simple rules to be happy:
Free your heart from hatred - Forgive.
Free your mind from worries - Most never happen.
Live simply and appreciate what you have.
Give more (strokes in golf)
Expect less (strokes in golf)
Look forward to seeing you again,
Cheers,
James Oh
Saturday, January 30, 2010
PROCRASTINATION AND ITS COMMON JUSTIFICATIONS
Hi! everyone.
I hope that my articles are serving you well and putting you in a better position to grow further.
In my previous article we have learned how Procrastination is a silent killer and ways to beat it.
Today's article, I am going to discuss in detail the common justifications for procrastination, which you should be aware of:-
1. I do it tomorrow
Some of you may have heard or used such an excuse for delaying the matter till tomorrow. Tomorrow never ends because there is always tomorrow so long as we still stay alive. We can continue to postpone our action and use other reasons for to justify the delay. After all, waiting for just one more day won't upset too many people. I guess some of you are so familiar with this because this is the most frequently used justification for procrastination. To me, everyday brings a new batch of opportunities and things to do. If I were bogged down by uncompleted yesterday's tasks, how can I take myself in the running for today's prize.
2. I wait because I can't do it perfectly.
The person who has such an attitude has denied the reality that none of us will ever do anything perfectly. From my personal experience, I learned after I have began with it . Many times, when I start doing something new, I discover they are not as difficult as they initially appear. So, if you want to wait until a time where everything is perfect, then such a time will never arrive. Therefore, it is more sensible that we start doing and improving at the same time.
3. I wait because I don't have everything I need.
This statement also sounds familiar with some of you. The list of thing we don't have can be go on forever such as marketing brochure, new pricing lists and no written procedures. I believe that there is always something we can always begin with, regardless whether the list of things we need is complete or not. All we have to do is to be honest with it and look for what we can begin with.
4. I wait because someone else can do it better than me.
This excuse indicate lack of confidence. No doubt that there is always someone else who can do it better than you. But it is equally true that many of the best ones presently were not the best in the past or at the time they began with. They became the best because they tried and persistently improved on it.
Some people believe procrastination is rooted in the fear of failure. Whereas, some, especially psychologists believe all procrastination is rooted in the fear of success. Many people do not want to look bad and are afraid to expose themselves to failures. Procrastination is a tool used by many people to shield themselves from failure, which they falsely believed in. But the real truth is that procrastination will guarantee failure.
5. I don't have time right now.
This is also another convenient way to justify your action. You may have experienced lots of things done not because of the right time, but rather when you take one step further. By accumulating and adding up the tasks your work remains incomplete. The crucial point is that having such a short amount of time is not a valid reason for permitting us not to do anything. We do not have to do it later if we can do it now. The result is that we will accomplish the project quicker and will not turn out to be a victim of procrastination. If we can do what we can when we can, the results will then speak for themselves.
Many of us may have encountered situations whare we failed to take action on things that offer good opportunities for us. We may have used the above excuses that caused us to miss these opportunities to achieve and grow. When you have the opportunity to do it, you need to do it and don't let someone else seize the opportunity. Be bold and take up the courage to take up the task.
Hope this article will give you the light and wish you success,
Saturday, January 23, 2010
EFFECTIVE PERSON AND THEIR CHARACTERISTICS
Happy day to everyone,
In today's information age, competitiveness is so great everywhere. In order to compete and survive, we need to be effective. What is the real meaning of effective?
Effective Person is one who always make more things happen with least resources, in the shortest possible time. Sounds like magic and could this be possible? This is possible because effective people are consistently seeking new means to do things better i.e. to be more effective and efficient that is their secret. To them, getting things done and accomplishing results are the proof of success. As such, they always stay focus at their end results and continue to explore new and better ways to deliver more outputs.
How are they different from others.? Effective people account for their own lives, and not to others. As such, they hold themselves accountable for their own actions and never give excuses for failure nor do they blame others. In doing so, they gain respect and admiration from others. Accepting responsibility demonstrates honesty, trustworthiness and courage. Their quality values naturally attract others who want to help them to succeed, which is a crucial necessity for consistent achievement.
On the other hand, people who deny responsibility often cannot see things as they really are and they refuse to admit their mistakes. Hence they cannot learn from their own mistakes and thus stunt further growth in their abilities.
Because of their open minded nature, they are eager to learn. They replace their flaw beliefs which hinder them from achieving their results effectively. These beliefs will be their rock, serving as foundation to build their plan and action to deliver more with less. They are more open to new concepts and ideas. Naturally, they will attract many trusted people to join them in incorporating new ways of doing things so as to achieve timely results. Here, we can see that change is a very natural thing in the eyes of effective people. They rather take the ride of the natural wave and not fight against it. Hence, they rather make necessary adjustments to gear themselves for new progress and continually look for faster and better means to get thing done.
To them, every issue has a solution. To be fruitful, they rather focus their attention, effort and time to seek improvement in every aspect to enhance their output. As such, they will keep themselves busy with activities that produce results.
They are results oriented people, who take ownership to get the task done. They are interested in result and not meaningless activity. They are "can do" people who initiates action speedily and make sensible decision to resolve issues. They are proactive people who seek solutions to rectify issues so as to improve further.
Another great characteristics of effective people is that they are always full of energy and enthusiasm. They consistently generate output that is much higher than reasonably expected of them. They have all the necessary key ingredients such as persistence, determination, will power, stamina to accomplish long term objectives. In short, they have passionate, convinced and convicted commitment to make their dreams into reality. They enjoy every task with self motivation and they are able to set priorities according to their ultimate objectives.
Effective people also have the necessary required competence to get things done appropriately. They are the people who constantly polish their skill and explore new means of getting their things done effectively and efficiently. They are also improvement oriented and always explore further to enhance their track records. They are the people who constantly discharge their tasks diligently with full responsibility consistently with their beliefs system. They do what they preach because they know that this is the only way that can produce long lasting results.
Now, the choice is at your court whether you choose to cultivate some of the above proven characteristics that I have learned from those great masters who have a great impact on my life.
Thanks for your precious time and I hope that your time is well spent.
James Oh
Effective Person is one who always make more things happen with least resources, in the shortest possible time. Sounds like magic and could this be possible? This is possible because effective people are consistently seeking new means to do things better i.e. to be more effective and efficient that is their secret. To them, getting things done and accomplishing results are the proof of success. As such, they always stay focus at their end results and continue to explore new and better ways to deliver more outputs.
How are they different from others.? Effective people account for their own lives, and not to others. As such, they hold themselves accountable for their own actions and never give excuses for failure nor do they blame others. In doing so, they gain respect and admiration from others. Accepting responsibility demonstrates honesty, trustworthiness and courage. Their quality values naturally attract others who want to help them to succeed, which is a crucial necessity for consistent achievement.
On the other hand, people who deny responsibility often cannot see things as they really are and they refuse to admit their mistakes. Hence they cannot learn from their own mistakes and thus stunt further growth in their abilities.
Because of their open minded nature, they are eager to learn. They replace their flaw beliefs which hinder them from achieving their results effectively. These beliefs will be their rock, serving as foundation to build their plan and action to deliver more with less. They are more open to new concepts and ideas. Naturally, they will attract many trusted people to join them in incorporating new ways of doing things so as to achieve timely results. Here, we can see that change is a very natural thing in the eyes of effective people. They rather take the ride of the natural wave and not fight against it. Hence, they rather make necessary adjustments to gear themselves for new progress and continually look for faster and better means to get thing done.
To them, every issue has a solution. To be fruitful, they rather focus their attention, effort and time to seek improvement in every aspect to enhance their output. As such, they will keep themselves busy with activities that produce results.
They are results oriented people, who take ownership to get the task done. They are interested in result and not meaningless activity. They are "can do" people who initiates action speedily and make sensible decision to resolve issues. They are proactive people who seek solutions to rectify issues so as to improve further.
Another great characteristics of effective people is that they are always full of energy and enthusiasm. They consistently generate output that is much higher than reasonably expected of them. They have all the necessary key ingredients such as persistence, determination, will power, stamina to accomplish long term objectives. In short, they have passionate, convinced and convicted commitment to make their dreams into reality. They enjoy every task with self motivation and they are able to set priorities according to their ultimate objectives.
Effective people also have the necessary required competence to get things done appropriately. They are the people who constantly polish their skill and explore new means of getting their things done effectively and efficiently. They are also improvement oriented and always explore further to enhance their track records. They are the people who constantly discharge their tasks diligently with full responsibility consistently with their beliefs system. They do what they preach because they know that this is the only way that can produce long lasting results.
Now, the choice is at your court whether you choose to cultivate some of the above proven characteristics that I have learned from those great masters who have a great impact on my life.
Thanks for your precious time and I hope that your time is well spent.
James Oh
Wednesday, January 20, 2010
LEFT OVER ONIONS ARE POISONOUS
Hi! everyone,
This is the message I received from my contacts, which I am more than happy to share with you.
I have used an onion which has been left in the fridge, and sometimes I don't use a whole one at one time, so save the other half for later.
Now with this info, I have changed my mind....will buy smaller onions in the future.
I had the wonderful privilege of touring Mullins Food Products, Makers of mayonnaise. Mullins is huge, and is owned by 11 brothers and sisters in the Mullins family. My friend, Jeanne, is the CEO.
Questions about food poisoning came up, and I wanted to share what I learned from a chemist.
The guy who gave us our tour is named Ed. He's one of the brothers Ed is a chemistry expert and is involved in developing most of the sauce formula. He's even developed sauce formula for McDonald's.
Keep in mind that Ed is a food chemistry whiz. During the tour, someone asked if we really needed to worry about mayonnaise. People are always worried that mayonnaise will spoil. Ed's answer will surprise you. Ed said that all commercially- made Mayo is completely safe.
"It doesn't even have to be refrigerated. No harm in refrigerating it, but it's not really necessary.." He explained that the pH in mayonnaise is set at a point that bacteria could not survive in that environment. He then talked about the quaint essential picnic, with the bowl of potato salad sitting on the table and how everyone blames the mayonnaise when someone gets sick.
Ed says that when food poisoning is reported, the first thing the officials look for is when the 'victim' last ate ONIONS and where those onions came from (in the potato salad?). Ed says it's not the mayonnaise (as long as it's not homemade Mayo) that spoils in the outdoors. It's probably the onions, and if not the onions, it's the POTATOES.
He explained, onions are a huge magnet for bacteria, especially uncooked onions. You should never plan to keep a portion of a sliced onion.. He says it's not even safe if you put it in a zip-lock bag and put it in your refrigerator.
It's already contaminated enough just by being cut open and out for a bit, that it can be a danger to you (and doubly watch out for those onions you put in your hotdogs at the baseball park!)
Ed says if you take the leftover onion and cook it like crazy
you'll probably be okay, but if you slice that leftover onion and put on your sandwich, you're asking for trouble. Both the onions and the moist potato in a potato salad, will attract and grow bacteria faster than any commercial mayonnaise will even begin to break down..
So, how's that for news? Take it for what you will. I (the author) am going to be very careful about my onions from now on. For some reason, I see a lot of credibility coming from a chemist and a company that produces millions of pounds of mayonnaise every year.'
Also, dogs should never eat onions. Their stomachs cannot metabolize onions .Please remember it is dangerous to cut onions and try to use it to cook the next day ,it becomes highly poisonous for even a single night and creates Toxic bacteria which may cause Adverse Stomach infections because of excess Bile secretions and even Food poisoning.
Wishing you a good health,
James Oh
This is the message I received from my contacts, which I am more than happy to share with you.
I have used an onion which has been left in the fridge, and sometimes I don't use a whole one at one time, so save the other half for later.
Now with this info, I have changed my mind....will buy smaller onions in the future.
I had the wonderful privilege of touring Mullins Food Products, Makers of mayonnaise. Mullins is huge, and is owned by 11 brothers and sisters in the Mullins family. My friend, Jeanne, is the CEO.
Questions about food poisoning came up, and I wanted to share what I learned from a chemist.
The guy who gave us our tour is named Ed. He's one of the brothers Ed is a chemistry expert and is involved in developing most of the sauce formula. He's even developed sauce formula for McDonald's.
Keep in mind that Ed is a food chemistry whiz. During the tour, someone asked if we really needed to worry about mayonnaise. People are always worried that mayonnaise will spoil. Ed's answer will surprise you. Ed said that all commercially- made Mayo is completely safe.
"It doesn't even have to be refrigerated. No harm in refrigerating it, but it's not really necessary.." He explained that the pH in mayonnaise is set at a point that bacteria could not survive in that environment. He then talked about the quaint essential picnic, with the bowl of potato salad sitting on the table and how everyone blames the mayonnaise when someone gets sick.
Ed says that when food poisoning is reported, the first thing the officials look for is when the 'victim' last ate ONIONS and where those onions came from (in the potato salad?). Ed says it's not the mayonnaise (as long as it's not homemade Mayo) that spoils in the outdoors. It's probably the onions, and if not the onions, it's the POTATOES.
He explained, onions are a huge magnet for bacteria, especially uncooked onions. You should never plan to keep a portion of a sliced onion.. He says it's not even safe if you put it in a zip-lock bag and put it in your refrigerator.
It's already contaminated enough just by being cut open and out for a bit, that it can be a danger to you (and doubly watch out for those onions you put in your hotdogs at the baseball park!)
Ed says if you take the leftover onion and cook it like crazy
you'll probably be okay, but if you slice that leftover onion and put on your sandwich, you're asking for trouble. Both the onions and the moist potato in a potato salad, will attract and grow bacteria faster than any commercial mayonnaise will even begin to break down..
So, how's that for news? Take it for what you will. I (the author) am going to be very careful about my onions from now on. For some reason, I see a lot of credibility coming from a chemist and a company that produces millions of pounds of mayonnaise every year.'
Also, dogs should never eat onions. Their stomachs cannot metabolize onions .Please remember it is dangerous to cut onions and try to use it to cook the next day ,it becomes highly poisonous for even a single night and creates Toxic bacteria which may cause Adverse Stomach infections because of excess Bile secretions and even Food poisoning.
Please share it with all you love and care.
Wishing you a good health,
James Oh
Saturday, January 16, 2010
EFFECTIVE WAYS TO STRENGTHEN YOUR RELATIONSHIP
Hi! everyone,
As the world is becoming more and more integrated, no man can live on his own. Therefore, integration and staying well connected become crucial and important in our lives. To be successful, you need to maintain good and lasting relationship with others. You can only grow further through this healthy relationship
1. Respecting each other is an absolutely fundamental pillar in establishing good relationship. This means that we have to accept who they are; caring and loving them for their uniqueness and differences. However, many people expect others to conform in ways they deem appropriate. This is more inclined to slavery than love! Bear in mind that others are not neither your private property, nor your slave. Needless to say, it is not conducive for you to have a happy relationship when you restrict their freedom by treating them in the above manner. Most human beings may want to grow in ways, not to your liking or your comfort, but preventing their growth will stifle both you and them. Instead of restricting others' freedom, it is far better to encourage them to grow and become the persons they want to be. Indeed, the only way that can assure a person can flourish is through true love.
2. None of us is perfect. Therefore to have successful relationships with others, we need to tolerate each other's imperfectness. Understanding others will help us to see things from their perspective, and not from ours. Through this, we will not only become wiser, but will also reduce conflicts through better understanding of each other. This means tolerance will serve to maintain harmony and strengthen relationship. We must be aware that every one has his own belief, culture, liking and preferences. Therefore you need more than love to build a long lasting relationship. Without tolerance and compromise, there will be no true relationship. Extra care is required especially in the multi-racial environment. True harmony will not be achieve if any particular race remains more superior than the others because it acts against the profound human principle of equality. Good and sound relation will not take place if there is no true acceptance of each other and no true equality in that sense. These will create hatred due to lack of trust among them.
3. Argument is the worst way to spoil relationship, if left unchecked, because the tendency is for the person is to win and to be right. So, watch out for this DEADLY trait. Argumentative people have a great tendency to argue until they "win" about everything and anything. They will not listen and consider others' viewpoints. This is because they are rarely compromise. You must bear in mind that any criticism, however fair and justified will be met with opposition. Therefore, it is wise to not indulge in silly futile arguments. Remember that winning arguments is not the objective, but what is more important is to establish truly good and lasting relationship.
4. Listening and learning are required. Relation is build through understanding each other. As such, you need to listen and learn from others so as to avoid conflict. This serve as a double edge sword that can cut both sides. To ensure lasting and healthy relations, we cannot lack these skills. Without these, there is no true understanding. We need to polish our listening and learning skill for us to grow beyond our personal capabilities.
5. Open minded. A fundamental prerequisite for learning is an open mind. No one can learn without doing so. The undeniable truth is that who we are is what we believe in. The things we believe control our lives. We pass judgment based on our beliefs and we perceive things from our own belief windows. How can we see others' perspectives if we are restricted by our own beliefs? To accept change and new idea, we need to change our core belief that allow us to open our heart to listen to the new idea. Without doing so, there is no way we can acquire new ideas because our belief has rejected them in the first place prior to listening.
I challenge you to give the above serious thought and I hope that the proven recipes will not only assist you in strengthening your relationship with others, but also ensure that you enjoy long lasting happiness and a deeper loving bond.
Please do voice out your thoughts via comments so as we can enrich our discussion. Thank you in advance for your kind participation.
Wish you a success,
James Oh
1. Respecting each other is an absolutely fundamental pillar in establishing good relationship. This means that we have to accept who they are; caring and loving them for their uniqueness and differences. However, many people expect others to conform in ways they deem appropriate. This is more inclined to slavery than love! Bear in mind that others are not neither your private property, nor your slave. Needless to say, it is not conducive for you to have a happy relationship when you restrict their freedom by treating them in the above manner. Most human beings may want to grow in ways, not to your liking or your comfort, but preventing their growth will stifle both you and them. Instead of restricting others' freedom, it is far better to encourage them to grow and become the persons they want to be. Indeed, the only way that can assure a person can flourish is through true love.
2. None of us is perfect. Therefore to have successful relationships with others, we need to tolerate each other's imperfectness. Understanding others will help us to see things from their perspective, and not from ours. Through this, we will not only become wiser, but will also reduce conflicts through better understanding of each other. This means tolerance will serve to maintain harmony and strengthen relationship. We must be aware that every one has his own belief, culture, liking and preferences. Therefore you need more than love to build a long lasting relationship. Without tolerance and compromise, there will be no true relationship. Extra care is required especially in the multi-racial environment. True harmony will not be achieve if any particular race remains more superior than the others because it acts against the profound human principle of equality. Good and sound relation will not take place if there is no true acceptance of each other and no true equality in that sense. These will create hatred due to lack of trust among them.
3. Argument is the worst way to spoil relationship, if left unchecked, because the tendency is for the person is to win and to be right. So, watch out for this DEADLY trait. Argumentative people have a great tendency to argue until they "win" about everything and anything. They will not listen and consider others' viewpoints. This is because they are rarely compromise. You must bear in mind that any criticism, however fair and justified will be met with opposition. Therefore, it is wise to not indulge in silly futile arguments. Remember that winning arguments is not the objective, but what is more important is to establish truly good and lasting relationship.
4. Listening and learning are required. Relation is build through understanding each other. As such, you need to listen and learn from others so as to avoid conflict. This serve as a double edge sword that can cut both sides. To ensure lasting and healthy relations, we cannot lack these skills. Without these, there is no true understanding. We need to polish our listening and learning skill for us to grow beyond our personal capabilities.
5. Open minded. A fundamental prerequisite for learning is an open mind. No one can learn without doing so. The undeniable truth is that who we are is what we believe in. The things we believe control our lives. We pass judgment based on our beliefs and we perceive things from our own belief windows. How can we see others' perspectives if we are restricted by our own beliefs? To accept change and new idea, we need to change our core belief that allow us to open our heart to listen to the new idea. Without doing so, there is no way we can acquire new ideas because our belief has rejected them in the first place prior to listening.
I challenge you to give the above serious thought and I hope that the proven recipes will not only assist you in strengthening your relationship with others, but also ensure that you enjoy long lasting happiness and a deeper loving bond.
Please do voice out your thoughts via comments so as we can enrich our discussion. Thank you in advance for your kind participation.
Wish you a success,
James Oh
Tuesday, January 12, 2010
SUCCESS ACCELERATION : HOW TO
Hi! everyone,
Before we discuss three main core elements in success acceleration process, we must first fulfill the requirement of willing to CHANGE. These main core elements are basically Basic fundamental, Right Strategies and Technique/Know how. In short, if a person know precisely what he is doing ( Basic fundamental), fully aware what he needs to do ( Right Strategies) and adapt his action accordingly (Right technique), then he is able to expedite his achievement.
I) Basic fundamental comprises of the following:-
a. Free from limiting beliefs
He must not be a captive of his limiting beliefs. To overcome this, he need to have an open mind and be willing to listen to new ideas so that existing limiting beliefs can be kept in check constantly. By doing so, he will be able to identify these limiting beliefs one by one and replace them with unlimited beliefs. Eventually he will set himself entirely free from these limiting beliefs. Hence, he will accelerate his success.
b. Skill
Those who lack overall wellness management skill will have difficulty in maintaining the discipline that produce continued success. For sustaining and continuous growth in success, he needs to manage all his time and resources effectively and efficiently by optimizing the overall wellness of his life be it spiritual, educational, financial, health, family and social. No matter how difficult his situation might be, he always give himself time to change. He always have hope so long as he is breathing.
c. Winning formula
To achieve anything, you need to have the necessary ingredients to achieve it. Similarly to success. Confidence, persistence and enthusiasm are key ingredients for this winning formula, which will form the driving force towards success. They serve as fertile soil which provide nourishment and yield crops.
All the above three are integrated and function as one so as to ensure optimal growth at all times. These three continuously interact with each other and sharpen each other persistently so as to produce the highest possible result.
II) Right Strategies basically comprises of :-
a. Action
Here, action refers to continuous acts, which must be consistent with plans, objectives and beliefs. Every team member is well aware of them and constantly takes his best action working towards ultimate goals. As the foundation is well laid in each and every member's heart and mind, the entire team will function like one body well connected with the mind. As you are well aware that a well thought plan for success requires a tremendous amount of mental focus and emotional energy before action can be implemented.
b. Maximising effectiveness
To accelerate success, you need to constantly manage your time and resources effectively so as to reap the maximum outputs at all times. An opened mind, willingness to learn and listening skills are basic ingredients to obtaining maximum outputs. Hence, continuous improvement in every possible aspect is always made possible.
c.Vision, Plan, Goal setting
Significant accomplishments always begin with a vision or dream. Plan and goal setting will be an effective tool for you to manage your resources towards your ultimate goal. To achieve accelerated success, you need to ensure that productivity and speed are the end results.
III) Technique/ know how
a. Leverage
No one has all the abilities, talents and competence in every aspect. No one is perfect either. As such, to accelerate success we need to use the strengths from every team member to function as a body. The body should be controlled by one brain to organise, co-ordinate and execute each plan accordingly to reap its best performance. Using the concept of leverage, we not only achieve more, but also achieve it much faster. A very good illustration is comparing the pipeline builder and the bucket carrier. The pipeline builder only carries out the task once, but enjoy the fruit for a much longer period than the latter who has water only after the return trip from the well. You see the difference now.
b. Learning from the real experts
Learn to follow and benchmark successful people. You need to constantly observe and study from those who has made it. Through closely monitoring, you will also not only monitor your progress, but also raise your standards as you progress. You will benefit in two ways, - i) you will avoid disappointment over unrealistic targets, and ii) you will raise your standard to propel yourself in a better position. No doubt, you can't use similar ways to achieve any breakthrough results, however you will have an unshakeable foundation to grow further. With such insight, you will give yourself a much better chance to reap more outstanding results.
c. Good relationship
By now, you should able to see that to stay well connected with others, you need to establish good relationship with others. To become successful, you need to be skillful in convincing and persuading other people to take your desired action on your behalf as a team. You need to gain self respect from others so as to ensure you are trusted and likeable person. Your daily action must be reflected consistently to what you preach. It is vitally important so that they are fully convicted and convinced.
d. Practise, practise and practise
Nothing can beat procrastination in causing failure. You must be fully aware that everything has to be just right or even perfect before one can begin the fundamental concept. Procrastination creates a false belief that it can save one from failure. The truth is that it will guarantee failure. As such, practise, practise and practise is the answer. Through practise, you can perfect any skill or trade. It is interesting to note that parallel progress allows you to accomplish more things faster, rather than simply completing each task separately with chronological steps. As such, you need to go for parallel progress if you want to accelerate success.
I hope I have given you an insight of those key principles that can assist you to expedite your success. I am throwing the ball to your court and now it is up to you whether to accept the necessary changes. It is not too late to change and I am more than happy to work hand in hand with you to accomplish our mutual objectives. To me, each of us has his own strength and to accelerate our goals, we need to use our individual's strength to complement our individual's weakness so that we can achieve more.
As usual, please forward your ideas, experience, wisdom and thought through comments so as we can continue to learn from each other. Thank you in advance for your kind participation.
Thank you for your precious time and wish you success.
Get ready for an exciting life.
James Oh
Before we discuss three main core elements in success acceleration process, we must first fulfill the requirement of willing to CHANGE. These main core elements are basically Basic fundamental, Right Strategies and Technique/Know how. In short, if a person know precisely what he is doing ( Basic fundamental), fully aware what he needs to do ( Right Strategies) and adapt his action accordingly (Right technique), then he is able to expedite his achievement.
I) Basic fundamental comprises of the following:-
a. Free from limiting beliefs
He must not be a captive of his limiting beliefs. To overcome this, he need to have an open mind and be willing to listen to new ideas so that existing limiting beliefs can be kept in check constantly. By doing so, he will be able to identify these limiting beliefs one by one and replace them with unlimited beliefs. Eventually he will set himself entirely free from these limiting beliefs. Hence, he will accelerate his success.
b. Skill
Those who lack overall wellness management skill will have difficulty in maintaining the discipline that produce continued success. For sustaining and continuous growth in success, he needs to manage all his time and resources effectively and efficiently by optimizing the overall wellness of his life be it spiritual, educational, financial, health, family and social. No matter how difficult his situation might be, he always give himself time to change. He always have hope so long as he is breathing.
c. Winning formula
To achieve anything, you need to have the necessary ingredients to achieve it. Similarly to success. Confidence, persistence and enthusiasm are key ingredients for this winning formula, which will form the driving force towards success. They serve as fertile soil which provide nourishment and yield crops.
All the above three are integrated and function as one so as to ensure optimal growth at all times. These three continuously interact with each other and sharpen each other persistently so as to produce the highest possible result.
II) Right Strategies basically comprises of :-
a. Action
Here, action refers to continuous acts, which must be consistent with plans, objectives and beliefs. Every team member is well aware of them and constantly takes his best action working towards ultimate goals. As the foundation is well laid in each and every member's heart and mind, the entire team will function like one body well connected with the mind. As you are well aware that a well thought plan for success requires a tremendous amount of mental focus and emotional energy before action can be implemented.
b. Maximising effectiveness
To accelerate success, you need to constantly manage your time and resources effectively so as to reap the maximum outputs at all times. An opened mind, willingness to learn and listening skills are basic ingredients to obtaining maximum outputs. Hence, continuous improvement in every possible aspect is always made possible.
c.Vision, Plan, Goal setting
Significant accomplishments always begin with a vision or dream. Plan and goal setting will be an effective tool for you to manage your resources towards your ultimate goal. To achieve accelerated success, you need to ensure that productivity and speed are the end results.
III) Technique/ know how
a. Leverage
No one has all the abilities, talents and competence in every aspect. No one is perfect either. As such, to accelerate success we need to use the strengths from every team member to function as a body. The body should be controlled by one brain to organise, co-ordinate and execute each plan accordingly to reap its best performance. Using the concept of leverage, we not only achieve more, but also achieve it much faster. A very good illustration is comparing the pipeline builder and the bucket carrier. The pipeline builder only carries out the task once, but enjoy the fruit for a much longer period than the latter who has water only after the return trip from the well. You see the difference now.
b. Learning from the real experts
Learn to follow and benchmark successful people. You need to constantly observe and study from those who has made it. Through closely monitoring, you will also not only monitor your progress, but also raise your standards as you progress. You will benefit in two ways, - i) you will avoid disappointment over unrealistic targets, and ii) you will raise your standard to propel yourself in a better position. No doubt, you can't use similar ways to achieve any breakthrough results, however you will have an unshakeable foundation to grow further. With such insight, you will give yourself a much better chance to reap more outstanding results.
c. Good relationship
By now, you should able to see that to stay well connected with others, you need to establish good relationship with others. To become successful, you need to be skillful in convincing and persuading other people to take your desired action on your behalf as a team. You need to gain self respect from others so as to ensure you are trusted and likeable person. Your daily action must be reflected consistently to what you preach. It is vitally important so that they are fully convicted and convinced.
d. Practise, practise and practise
Nothing can beat procrastination in causing failure. You must be fully aware that everything has to be just right or even perfect before one can begin the fundamental concept. Procrastination creates a false belief that it can save one from failure. The truth is that it will guarantee failure. As such, practise, practise and practise is the answer. Through practise, you can perfect any skill or trade. It is interesting to note that parallel progress allows you to accomplish more things faster, rather than simply completing each task separately with chronological steps. As such, you need to go for parallel progress if you want to accelerate success.
I hope I have given you an insight of those key principles that can assist you to expedite your success. I am throwing the ball to your court and now it is up to you whether to accept the necessary changes. It is not too late to change and I am more than happy to work hand in hand with you to accomplish our mutual objectives. To me, each of us has his own strength and to accelerate our goals, we need to use our individual's strength to complement our individual's weakness so that we can achieve more.
As usual, please forward your ideas, experience, wisdom and thought through comments so as we can continue to learn from each other. Thank you in advance for your kind participation.
Thank you for your precious time and wish you success.
Get ready for an exciting life.
James Oh
Saturday, January 9, 2010
THINK POSITIVE : SIMPLE AND EFFECTIVE 13
Hi! everyone,
Glad to see you again.
This is always nice to finding positive out of every negative thing, which we don't always manage to do.
I am thankful...
13. For the alarm that goes off in the early morning hours because it means that I am still alive.
HAVE A NICE DAY !!!
Think Positive!!
Live happily,
James Oh
Glad to see you again.
This is always nice to finding positive out of every negative thing, which we don't always manage to do.
I am thankful...
13. For the alarm that goes off in the early morning hours because it means that I am still alive.
HAVE A NICE DAY !!!
Think Positive!!
Live happily,
James Oh
Tuesday, January 5, 2010
FIVE KEY WAYS TO IMPROVE YOUR LISTENING SKILLS
Hi! everyone,
Good listening is not only an essential ingredient of effective communication, but it also helps us to stay well connected with others. Most of us aren't good listeners; however, listening is a skill that everyone can master, if we choose to do so. You may find some of the tips below useful:-
1. Make it your mission to understand
To achieve anything successfully, you need to have a mission. Similarly in the mastery of the listening skill, a mission is required. We must always seek first to understand the speaker, what he intends to tell you, what is his intention. To be a good listener, you have to listen attentively after you have acknowledged what he had said.
2. Acknowledge everything the speaker says
Acknowledging everything that the speaker says is totally in contrast to ignoring or disregarding the speaker. You need to respond positively by validating what he says. This will encourage him to tell you more since you show interest in listening to his story. You may acknowledge him through verbal and non-verbal response such as nodding your head, maintaining eye contact or other expression you deem fit. Counter response is important as it shows two ways of communication instead of one way. To be effective, you must respond similarly to the speaker's action. If he whispers to you, whisper back to him. Flow with him is the answer.
James Oh
Good listening is not only an essential ingredient of effective communication, but it also helps us to stay well connected with others. Most of us aren't good listeners; however, listening is a skill that everyone can master, if we choose to do so. You may find some of the tips below useful:-
1. Make it your mission to understand
To achieve anything successfully, you need to have a mission. Similarly in the mastery of the listening skill, a mission is required. We must always seek first to understand the speaker, what he intends to tell you, what is his intention. To be a good listener, you have to listen attentively after you have acknowledged what he had said.
2. Acknowledge everything the speaker says
Acknowledging everything that the speaker says is totally in contrast to ignoring or disregarding the speaker. You need to respond positively by validating what he says. This will encourage him to tell you more since you show interest in listening to his story. You may acknowledge him through verbal and non-verbal response such as nodding your head, maintaining eye contact or other expression you deem fit. Counter response is important as it shows two ways of communication instead of one way. To be effective, you must respond similarly to the speaker's action. If he whispers to you, whisper back to him. Flow with him is the answer.
3. Avoid interrupting.
I hate to say this - You cannot do both talking and listening simultaneously. You may do it directly or indirectly. Indirect way happens when you assume what the speakers are going to say before they say it, you not only annoy them, but you will also miss the real message. Ask questions if you have doubts and try to see the other person's point-of-view. If you are unsure of the meaning ask for clarification and then if you are still not sure repeat it back to them, for instance, "So, what are you saying is, you don't like this article because this topic is not your cup of tea and it has nothing to do with its author, is that correct?"
4. Agree with everything you are told
Please don't get me wrong to mean that you have to agree exactly what they say. For the above example, you know the reason why he dislike this article. It is nothing wrong for you to agree with him if this article is also not your cup of tea. You are looking from his perspective, and not your perspective. Do you see the difference? Here, you are agreeing with the reason he told you. Can you see how the art of true listening operates.
5. Be patient
Especially when you don't understand what they say. Never get upset because it won't solve any issues but will only create more. Ask politely after the speaker has finished speaking what they wanted to say.
I trust the above is helpful to you. Please feel free to add in any other tips which you think is helpful. Thank you in advance for your kind participation. By now, you may able to see that to live happily, you need to stay well connected with others. Therefore, good listening skill is crucial in establishing good relationship.
I hate to say this - You cannot do both talking and listening simultaneously. You may do it directly or indirectly. Indirect way happens when you assume what the speakers are going to say before they say it, you not only annoy them, but you will also miss the real message. Ask questions if you have doubts and try to see the other person's point-of-view. If you are unsure of the meaning ask for clarification and then if you are still not sure repeat it back to them, for instance, "So, what are you saying is, you don't like this article because this topic is not your cup of tea and it has nothing to do with its author, is that correct?"
4. Agree with everything you are told
Please don't get me wrong to mean that you have to agree exactly what they say. For the above example, you know the reason why he dislike this article. It is nothing wrong for you to agree with him if this article is also not your cup of tea. You are looking from his perspective, and not your perspective. Do you see the difference? Here, you are agreeing with the reason he told you. Can you see how the art of true listening operates.
5. Be patient
Especially when you don't understand what they say. Never get upset because it won't solve any issues but will only create more. Ask politely after the speaker has finished speaking what they wanted to say.
I trust the above is helpful to you. Please feel free to add in any other tips which you think is helpful. Thank you in advance for your kind participation. By now, you may able to see that to live happily, you need to stay well connected with others. Therefore, good listening skill is crucial in establishing good relationship.
Monday, January 4, 2010
THINK POSITIVE : SIMPLE AND EFFECTIVE 12
Hi! everyone,
The best thing to do is to find positive out of every negative.
I am thankful...
12. For weariness and aching muscles at the end of the day because it means I have been capable of working hard.
Good sign and press on.
James Oh
The best thing to do is to find positive out of every negative.
I am thankful...
12. For weariness and aching muscles at the end of the day because it means I have been capable of working hard.
Good sign and press on.
James Oh
Thursday, December 31, 2009
HAPPY NEW YEAR 2010
DEAREST FRIEND,
WISHING YOU AND YOUR FAMILY
HAPPY NEW YEAR !!!
WITH ABUNDANT GOD BLESSING OF
GOOD HEALTH, JOY & WEALTH.
WARMEST REGARDS,
James Oh
Monday, December 28, 2009
LIVE HAPPILY IS THE SMART WAY
Hi, everyone,
Life is a choice. You either choose to be happy or unhappy. The choice is yours. You are the deciding factor, and not others . Why I say so? This is because to live happily, you need to look at life from the right perspective. The secret of happiness does not lies ahead, but lies inside you.
Some may think that money will bring us happiness. Unfortunately, this is not the case and it is a common misconception. It depends very much on its beholders. Why I say so? No doubt, money can buy lots of things. However, it cannot buy things such as peace, sleep, health and happiness. Sometimes, it brings more harm especially when you see siblings fighting for inheritance in the presence of their elderly parents who are in serious illness.
Accept people as they are and it will make you happy because we cannot deny the truth that everyone is unique and is distinct from others. You can't find two persons that are identical, even if they are twins.
Do not try be smart by exerting unnecessary force to lead others to behave the way you want. You may think it will make you happy. That is an illusion. Simply because those who behave in that manner may be trying to obtain your favours when you are of use to them. Once, he has such power, he will then treat you the same manner as you have trained him. Can you see that this way will not lead to happiness in the long run? Instead it will lead you to a rat race situation which is stressful and creates more harm to you, if left unchecked.
Accepting differences in individual not only enhance our understanding and tolerance level of human relationship, but also assist us to master the skill. Hence, it not only makes us wiser, but also turn us to be a more easily approachable person. You will find the key of being happy is to mix well with people, rather than indulge with unhealthy activities by comparing and competing.
In short, money does help, so does power that come from social status, however they are not permanent in nature. This is because there is always someone else wealthier than you or have higher authority than you and whose wants may be different form yours. The truth will then prevail, which will not make you happy.
However, this is not the case when you have good and sincere relationship with people around you that makes you happy. This sort of relationship is more permanent in nature. Life is a relationship with others. It is through caring and sharing that true happiness is created. Sometimes you act as a giver of happiness to those who are in despair. And at other times you act as a receiver of happiness from others who sow upon you.
Relationship will help mould and sharpen your understanding in life. This social network will not only give you a more healthier environment to flourish your life, but also bring happiness to you. Health is also wealth.
I hope that this article paints you a right perspective for happy living Let this smart way lead your life and you will live in a truly wealthy manner.
Thanks for your precious time and wish you every success,
James Oh
Life is a choice. You either choose to be happy or unhappy. The choice is yours. You are the deciding factor, and not others . Why I say so? This is because to live happily, you need to look at life from the right perspective. The secret of happiness does not lies ahead, but lies inside you.
Some may think that money will bring us happiness. Unfortunately, this is not the case and it is a common misconception. It depends very much on its beholders. Why I say so? No doubt, money can buy lots of things. However, it cannot buy things such as peace, sleep, health and happiness. Sometimes, it brings more harm especially when you see siblings fighting for inheritance in the presence of their elderly parents who are in serious illness.
Accept people as they are and it will make you happy because we cannot deny the truth that everyone is unique and is distinct from others. You can't find two persons that are identical, even if they are twins.
Do not try be smart by exerting unnecessary force to lead others to behave the way you want. You may think it will make you happy. That is an illusion. Simply because those who behave in that manner may be trying to obtain your favours when you are of use to them. Once, he has such power, he will then treat you the same manner as you have trained him. Can you see that this way will not lead to happiness in the long run? Instead it will lead you to a rat race situation which is stressful and creates more harm to you, if left unchecked.
Accepting differences in individual not only enhance our understanding and tolerance level of human relationship, but also assist us to master the skill. Hence, it not only makes us wiser, but also turn us to be a more easily approachable person. You will find the key of being happy is to mix well with people, rather than indulge with unhealthy activities by comparing and competing.
In short, money does help, so does power that come from social status, however they are not permanent in nature. This is because there is always someone else wealthier than you or have higher authority than you and whose wants may be different form yours. The truth will then prevail, which will not make you happy.
However, this is not the case when you have good and sincere relationship with people around you that makes you happy. This sort of relationship is more permanent in nature. Life is a relationship with others. It is through caring and sharing that true happiness is created. Sometimes you act as a giver of happiness to those who are in despair. And at other times you act as a receiver of happiness from others who sow upon you.
Relationship will help mould and sharpen your understanding in life. This social network will not only give you a more healthier environment to flourish your life, but also bring happiness to you. Health is also wealth.
I hope that this article paints you a right perspective for happy living Let this smart way lead your life and you will live in a truly wealthy manner.
Thanks for your precious time and wish you every success,
James Oh
Sunday, December 27, 2009
THINK POSITIVE : SIMPLE AND EFFECTIVE 11
Happy day! everyone,
This is nice - finding positive out of every negative - which we don't always manage to do.
I am thankful...
11. For the pile of laundry and ironing because it means I have
clothes to wear.
Please let us know if you find something positive out of any negative incident. We can always pool our minds together to work it out.
Thanks and stay tuned for more good news ahead.
James Oh
This is nice - finding positive out of every negative - which we don't always manage to do.
I am thankful...
11. For the pile of laundry and ironing because it means I have
clothes to wear.
Please let us know if you find something positive out of any negative incident. We can always pool our minds together to work it out.
Thanks and stay tuned for more good news ahead.
James Oh
Wednesday, December 23, 2009
Merry Christmas and Happy New Year 2010
Hi! everyone,
May you and your family have a
May you and your family have a
Joyful Christmas, a fruitful New Year
And
wishing you all a Blessed Christmas.
Hope the New Year will bring peace, health and success
Hope the New Year will bring peace, health and success
to everyone…..
&
HAPPY NEW YEAR 2010 !!
| |
See you again,
James Oh
Monday, December 21, 2009
SIX KEY WAYS SELF DEFEATING BEHAVIORS THAT CAUSE FAILURE
Hi everyone,
Most people have a misconception that our rivals are our greatest enemies. In actual fact, we are our own greatest enemy. It is more often that our self-sabotaging behavior prevents us from achieving success. I cannot find any better phrases than that described by Jan Christian Smuts, a prime minister of South Africa, "A man is not defeated by his opponents but by himself." Therefore, it is more important to learn how to overcome ourselves than overcome our rivals.
In this article, I am going to take you through these 6 key self -sabotaging behaviors that most of time cause failure.
1. EXPECTING FAILURE
If you are expecting failure then sooner or later you will get what you expect. This is because your subconscious mind will transmit to your subconscious mind and commands your conscious mind that you are going to fail. Expecting failure and preparing for failure are two different things. The latter is inclined to accept any outcome after all his hard work and preparation which he believes he has done his best whereas the former does not have any confidence and truly believe that he will not succeed whether he tries or not.
2. PROCRASTINATION
It is one of the major causes of failure. Life means risk. These people do not give themselves any chance, but keep waiting for opportunities even though they will miss these opportunities most of times. They always wait for the right time and that "right" time never comes. As such, if you want to reach your potential, you have to take chances. We must be aware that there are more ways to be successful that do not involve any physical or violent exploitation than the past.
3. LETTING FAILURE DEFEAT THEM
Failure is the root of success. Everybody experiences losses. However, the successful person will not allow himself to be stopped by these failures. Therefore, we must prepare ourselves for failure. What is more important is not failure, but bouncing back from it when it occurs. This is the difference with people who have positive attitude, they will get up and keep on trying.
4. NO SPECIFIC PURPOSE
In life, you can not hope to succeed in anything if you do not have a specific purpose. If you are caught in this scenario, you will then jump from one activity to another with no success. Therefore, it is no surprise that statistics shows more than 90% of people think and act in this manner, and that is the major reason that caused them to fail.
5. LACK OF KNOW HOW
Most of the successful people are either "self educated" or "self made" jndividuals, who know precisely how to make use of applied knowledge coupled with his plan of action to achieve success. Here, we must know how to differentiate between tactics knowledge and applied knowledge. It is equally important to know that knowing is one thing and doing is totally different altogether
6. LACK OF FOCUS
This is a typical mistake by putting their energy and efforts on multiple causes rather than concentrating on one particular cause. Thereafter, they realize that they are not able to accomplish or not succeed any of them. Therefore, they quit.
Be honest and deal with it appropriately. The success will be yours. Try it out and share with us your personal experience. Thank you in advance for your kind participation.
James Oh
Most people have a misconception that our rivals are our greatest enemies. In actual fact, we are our own greatest enemy. It is more often that our self-sabotaging behavior prevents us from achieving success. I cannot find any better phrases than that described by Jan Christian Smuts, a prime minister of South Africa, "A man is not defeated by his opponents but by himself." Therefore, it is more important to learn how to overcome ourselves than overcome our rivals.
In this article, I am going to take you through these 6 key self -sabotaging behaviors that most of time cause failure.
1. EXPECTING FAILURE
If you are expecting failure then sooner or later you will get what you expect. This is because your subconscious mind will transmit to your subconscious mind and commands your conscious mind that you are going to fail. Expecting failure and preparing for failure are two different things. The latter is inclined to accept any outcome after all his hard work and preparation which he believes he has done his best whereas the former does not have any confidence and truly believe that he will not succeed whether he tries or not.
2. PROCRASTINATION
It is one of the major causes of failure. Life means risk. These people do not give themselves any chance, but keep waiting for opportunities even though they will miss these opportunities most of times. They always wait for the right time and that "right" time never comes. As such, if you want to reach your potential, you have to take chances. We must be aware that there are more ways to be successful that do not involve any physical or violent exploitation than the past.
3. LETTING FAILURE DEFEAT THEM
Failure is the root of success. Everybody experiences losses. However, the successful person will not allow himself to be stopped by these failures. Therefore, we must prepare ourselves for failure. What is more important is not failure, but bouncing back from it when it occurs. This is the difference with people who have positive attitude, they will get up and keep on trying.
4. NO SPECIFIC PURPOSE
In life, you can not hope to succeed in anything if you do not have a specific purpose. If you are caught in this scenario, you will then jump from one activity to another with no success. Therefore, it is no surprise that statistics shows more than 90% of people think and act in this manner, and that is the major reason that caused them to fail.
5. LACK OF KNOW HOW
Most of the successful people are either "self educated" or "self made" jndividuals, who know precisely how to make use of applied knowledge coupled with his plan of action to achieve success. Here, we must know how to differentiate between tactics knowledge and applied knowledge. It is equally important to know that knowing is one thing and doing is totally different altogether
6. LACK OF FOCUS
This is a typical mistake by putting their energy and efforts on multiple causes rather than concentrating on one particular cause. Thereafter, they realize that they are not able to accomplish or not succeed any of them. Therefore, they quit.
Be honest and deal with it appropriately. The success will be yours. Try it out and share with us your personal experience. Thank you in advance for your kind participation.
James Oh
Sunday, December 20, 2009
THINK POSITIVE : SIMPLE AND EFFECTIVE 10
Hi! everyone,
This is another good example, you can find positive out of negative circumstance which we don't always manage to do.
I am thankful...
10. For the noise I have to bear from my neighbours because it means that I can hear.
If you can tolerance and bear with that noise, it indicate well that you are stay in control of your emotion. Congratulation to you because you have achieved some success.
James Oh
This is another good example, you can find positive out of negative circumstance which we don't always manage to do.
I am thankful...
10. For the noise I have to bear from my neighbours because it means that I can hear.
If you can tolerance and bear with that noise, it indicate well that you are stay in control of your emotion. Congratulation to you because you have achieved some success.
James Oh
Friday, December 18, 2009
Best Blog Award
Hi, everyone,
I have a good news for you.
I am very pleased to inform you that the above lovely award is given by my lovely friend, Sashindoubutsu. Her blog Snapping Panda is one of my favorites. She has explained why she gave me such an award and I am deeply touched by her thought and action.
As the rule goes, the recipient should pass the award to 15 others who deserve it. After serious consideration, I decided to pass this Best blog award to all of you who share your thoughts with me. I love to hear your feedback, which sharpen my thoughts and I learn more and more from you here, because you teach me. I have also always loved different opinions and thoughts. To me, you all are the most interesting persons in my life.
I hope that you will continue to give me your feedback and we can always stay connected forever.
With love,
James Oh
I have a good news for you.
I am very pleased to inform you that the above lovely award is given by my lovely friend, Sashindoubutsu. Her blog Snapping Panda is one of my favorites. She has explained why she gave me such an award and I am deeply touched by her thought and action.
As the rule goes, the recipient should pass the award to 15 others who deserve it. After serious consideration, I decided to pass this Best blog award to all of you who share your thoughts with me. I love to hear your feedback, which sharpen my thoughts and I learn more and more from you here, because you teach me. I have also always loved different opinions and thoughts. To me, you all are the most interesting persons in my life.
I hope that you will continue to give me your feedback and we can always stay connected forever.
With love,
James Oh
Tuesday, December 15, 2009
CHANGE
Hi! everyone,
Change is the natural phenomenon and it is the truth. One good news is that we are designed to adapt to daily changes due to aging, climate, environment whether you like it or not. We are not exempted from changes because our body is changing every minute. We are naturally designed to respond automatically to all these changes. As such, we should have the courage to celebrate this truth rather than resist change.
It is a big lie if anyone claims that he resists changes. Why I dare to say so? Simply because whoever truly resist change must be willing to restore to his initial position. You can not have both. Everything changes through time. It comes with package of pros and cons. We can't running a car with petrol at the same time not polluting the air. You can't be selective and keep the changes that bring good to you and refuse to accept those bad changes that come along with it - that is the truth. In short, sometime you gain, sometime you learn.As such, if you prepare and accept this truth, you are already set free and not living as the slave of limited beliefs. In reality, these limited beliefs have been ingrained in the system and have a strong influence on us causing us to be deceived. This illusion was planted so that we continuously believe it to be the truth without realising it. Consequently, we create a false "comfort zone" . Once this comfort zone disappears, we will face reality as we have seen in the recent financial crisis in America.
Therefore, it is vitally important to accept this truth that changes are inevitable and good. It makes life more colourful and more meaningful. We have to realize that there is no progress without change.
Once you understand this truth, you will agree with me that it is true to say that people resist change. To illustrate my point further, may I allowed to ask you the following questions:-
a. Does any adult wants to keep his child born brain intact throughout his whole life ?
b. Does any adult wants to crawl with their hands and legs instead of walking with their legs?
c. Are you happy to reclaim your hunter role in the jungle that humans initially began with?
d. Are you happy to return to live in the jungle as humans began with?
If all these answers are in the resounding No. Then, it proves the points we all are agree unanimously that we are in favour of changes. Then what make you to argue that people refused changes? truly inconsistent with our findings.
In this article I am going to explore why such a lie is planted into our belief system:-
1. For those who argue that people resist change because they are afraid of their personal loss. In reality, you gain some, you loss some. For those who can't see the whole picture clearly wanted to keep themselves status quo. They are unrealistic and do not have the courage to accept the truth. As a result, they have created unnecessary stress or pressure on themselves to suppress this truth. Be wise, do not fight against the wave, but ride the wave of change that gives you new hope.
2. Because they are afraid of losing "false" control over their dominion. They forget that whatever their greatest strength is also their greatest weakness. The higher the suppression, the higher the rebellion will be. It is very sad that they refused to accept that the false control are in a way exposing them to higher risks. If it is left unchecked, it may drive them insane. Very good example is the Emperor Qin Shi Huang.
3. To argue that people feel awkward to change does not hold water. We are exposed to the truth that we are designed for changes. We begin with crawling, walking and running. It is a law of nature, how can we argue otherwise.
4. It is never up to us to say " Timing is not right for change" if we are not prepared for change. Are we ready for climate change? Is the timing ever right for the climate change? It illustrates the point that it is also another big lie if we say that timing is not right for change.
5. To argue that tradition is against change is not appropriate because tradition also evolves over time. Very good example is that wearing coat and tie is an universally accepted formal dress today regardless whether in the west or east. It is very clear that this does not hold water anymore.
By now, you should able to see clearly that people who tend to choose what to keep intact and what to change actually look from their own perspectives and not from the truth sense. However, the truth is that truth will be ultimately revealed. I like to let the song "the wind of change" sum up our discussion on changes.
Sunday, December 13, 2009
HOW TO ACQUIRE SPEEDY READING SKILL
Hi! everyone,
Nice to see you again.
In today's information society, we need to read and digest information daily as information can change by the minute. However, most of us do not have the luxury of time to read whatever information that come to our hands. Therefore, as we are pressed for time, speed reading is no longer a luxury, but a necessity. Equally essential is that readers must be able to grasp and fully understand the message that come out from the reading materials.
To expedite the process of retaining information, we may need to use some of the tips listed below:-
1. Stay focus on what you need
You don't need to read every word from the piece of information you have. Stay focus on what you need, skipping process may be useful here. Take an bird's eye view at the table of contents. Look at the specific topics that can provide you with the specific information you need. Alternatively, you can make a quick assessment on how you can relate it with the specific topic you have in mind. If the information is not relevant and currently not required, then drop it.
2. Retain peace of mind
Stay cool and try not to be in a stressful state, it would not help you, but will make it more difficult to concentrate in reading that material. As such, the information will not sink into your mind and heart.
Retaining peace is a skill and you need to master the skill to empower your concentration power, just like the dried sponge merge into water.
3. Repetition is the key of mastering
To master any skill of trade, you need to keep on repeating the process. Same as in speed reading. Setting a goal and consistently raising your bar to the best you can cope with will keep you out of disappointment. Don't set unrealistic targets. No doubt, this takes time and practice, but it is worth your effort. Raise the bar as you progress and after you have gained confidence.
4. Sustaining your progress
James Oh
Nice to see you again.
In today's information society, we need to read and digest information daily as information can change by the minute. However, most of us do not have the luxury of time to read whatever information that come to our hands. Therefore, as we are pressed for time, speed reading is no longer a luxury, but a necessity. Equally essential is that readers must be able to grasp and fully understand the message that come out from the reading materials.
To expedite the process of retaining information, we may need to use some of the tips listed below:-
1. Stay focus on what you need
You don't need to read every word from the piece of information you have. Stay focus on what you need, skipping process may be useful here. Take an bird's eye view at the table of contents. Look at the specific topics that can provide you with the specific information you need. Alternatively, you can make a quick assessment on how you can relate it with the specific topic you have in mind. If the information is not relevant and currently not required, then drop it.
2. Retain peace of mind
Stay cool and try not to be in a stressful state, it would not help you, but will make it more difficult to concentrate in reading that material. As such, the information will not sink into your mind and heart.
Retaining peace is a skill and you need to master the skill to empower your concentration power, just like the dried sponge merge into water.
3. Repetition is the key of mastering
To master any skill of trade, you need to keep on repeating the process. Same as in speed reading. Setting a goal and consistently raising your bar to the best you can cope with will keep you out of disappointment. Don't set unrealistic targets. No doubt, this takes time and practice, but it is worth your effort. Raise the bar as you progress and after you have gained confidence.
4. Sustaining your progress
Reaching the top is very much easier than staying on top. The same analogy can be drawn between making decision and managing decision. Once the decision is made, monitoring and managing that decision is more crucial to lead us to success. That's why you see lots of good and sound decisions fail to bear fruit.
5. Have faith in it
In life, you will get what you expect. As such, it is important for you to understand that you can't obtain something you do not believe in. So, you must have the right perspective and keep on moving towards your goals. No doubt, you will face with some challenges along the way, which will mould and shape you accordingly, before you can move to the next level of success. The higher the level of success you have, the stronger the strength you need to sustain it. This is the law of nature which has been proven in mankind's history.
I hope you find the above tips useful and beneficial. I am sure you may have other useful tips which I may not know about. In this regard, I appeal to you to forward it either through comments, or email to me at jamesoh2003@yahoo.co.uk. I look forward to hearing from you,
Thank you for your precious time and wish you success,
Saturday, December 12, 2009
THINK POSITIVE : SIMPLE AND EFFECTIVE 9
Hi! everyone,
Let this positive sink into our minds and hearts:-
I am thankful...
9. For the parking spot I find at the far end of the parking lot because it means I am capable of walking and that I have been blessed with transportation.
and it is also a blessing that I am able to see thing in this light.
James Oh
Let this positive sink into our minds and hearts:-
I am thankful...
9. For the parking spot I find at the far end of the parking lot because it means I am capable of walking and that I have been blessed with transportation.
and it is also a blessing that I am able to see thing in this light.
James Oh
Thursday, December 10, 2009
HOW TO PROFIT FROM FAILURE
Hi! everyone,
Failure is a relatively and loosely used term without a precise meaning. Why I say so? This is because in reality, every thing is not stationary at any particular point permanently. Therefore, what we see is at a particular point of time during our journey.
If we are not careful, we may let this powerful negative vocabulary manipulate our mind to believe that we have truly failed and that may lead us to give up.
Therefore, we need to stay in control and conquer failure. In short, how can we profit from failure?
1. Accept the true fact
Doing is the first step towards failure. The truth is that doing does not guarantee success. However not doing anything definitely means no success. How to ensure success? My answer is keep on doing and doing it better the next time. Then the success will be yours. Simple, right?
On the other hand, laziness is the companion of failure. Often, people give up or are lazy to try harder to find a better solution than what was done. It is insane to expect something different when we continue doing something in the same manner. Here, I love to make a comparison between carrying water bucket and building a pipeline. For the former, he is working successfully because he has water daily after his return trip from the well.
Whereas the pipeline builder may appear to be not working, from the planning stage, preparation work till completion of the pipeline from the bystander's point, who does not have any clue as how the pipeline looks like. The builder can not claim success until water really flows from his pipeline.
2. Prepare to pay for the price
The bigger the success the higher the risk. It is more likely proportionate to the rate of its gravity. Anyone who desire to achieve something significant had to overcome the odds. For successful person, what they really care is the success itself, and not the odds. Always remember that if you don't succeed, then you should realize that you are running on average speed. So, what is important is that you have to accelerate your speed.
3. Let failure shape you
Failure is the root of success. So, do not feel hurt when you failed. What you should do is to let failure lead you to success. From failure, you will know that this is not the right way. you should eliminate it and try other ways until your plan really works. Here, you can only profit by adjusting or altering your approach until you achieve your destination.
Alternatively, you may stick to the cause and find different products which suit other communities. As society grows more diverse, it is also right to say that the chances of achieving success is even higher.
4. Never quit
Quitting is the easiest way to ensure failure. Otherwise, failure does not mean that you will not succeed. It simply means that you will take longer time to succeed. For further illustration of the above example, so long as you have not seen water flowing out from the pipeline, you have not achieve success despite the fact that you are on the way to claim the success.
5. Have the right perspective
Success is a journey, rather than a destination. So is failure. No one, no matter how successful he is, is exempted from failure. As such, it is a daily process, and not a one time event. In reality, it reflects how you deal with life along the way. True, everyone makes mistakes, but it is too early to conclude that you are a failure until you breathe your last breath. Truth will prevail in time. So long as you are still in the process, there is still time for you to turn events around. To have the right perspective, always remember that it is not the end yet. Do not submit to it and never give up and permanently rest in the house of failure.
Give the tips a serious thought and please share through comments or email me at jamesoh2003@yahoo your experience as how you overcome it. I love to learn from you and look forward to hearing from you.
Thanks for your precious time and wish you success,
James Oh
Failure is a relatively and loosely used term without a precise meaning. Why I say so? This is because in reality, every thing is not stationary at any particular point permanently. Therefore, what we see is at a particular point of time during our journey.
If we are not careful, we may let this powerful negative vocabulary manipulate our mind to believe that we have truly failed and that may lead us to give up.
Therefore, we need to stay in control and conquer failure. In short, how can we profit from failure?
1. Accept the true fact
Doing is the first step towards failure. The truth is that doing does not guarantee success. However not doing anything definitely means no success. How to ensure success? My answer is keep on doing and doing it better the next time. Then the success will be yours. Simple, right?
On the other hand, laziness is the companion of failure. Often, people give up or are lazy to try harder to find a better solution than what was done. It is insane to expect something different when we continue doing something in the same manner. Here, I love to make a comparison between carrying water bucket and building a pipeline. For the former, he is working successfully because he has water daily after his return trip from the well.
Whereas the pipeline builder may appear to be not working, from the planning stage, preparation work till completion of the pipeline from the bystander's point, who does not have any clue as how the pipeline looks like. The builder can not claim success until water really flows from his pipeline.
2. Prepare to pay for the price
The bigger the success the higher the risk. It is more likely proportionate to the rate of its gravity. Anyone who desire to achieve something significant had to overcome the odds. For successful person, what they really care is the success itself, and not the odds. Always remember that if you don't succeed, then you should realize that you are running on average speed. So, what is important is that you have to accelerate your speed.
3. Let failure shape you
Failure is the root of success. So, do not feel hurt when you failed. What you should do is to let failure lead you to success. From failure, you will know that this is not the right way. you should eliminate it and try other ways until your plan really works. Here, you can only profit by adjusting or altering your approach until you achieve your destination.
Alternatively, you may stick to the cause and find different products which suit other communities. As society grows more diverse, it is also right to say that the chances of achieving success is even higher.
4. Never quit
Quitting is the easiest way to ensure failure. Otherwise, failure does not mean that you will not succeed. It simply means that you will take longer time to succeed. For further illustration of the above example, so long as you have not seen water flowing out from the pipeline, you have not achieve success despite the fact that you are on the way to claim the success.
5. Have the right perspective
Success is a journey, rather than a destination. So is failure. No one, no matter how successful he is, is exempted from failure. As such, it is a daily process, and not a one time event. In reality, it reflects how you deal with life along the way. True, everyone makes mistakes, but it is too early to conclude that you are a failure until you breathe your last breath. Truth will prevail in time. So long as you are still in the process, there is still time for you to turn events around. To have the right perspective, always remember that it is not the end yet. Do not submit to it and never give up and permanently rest in the house of failure.
Give the tips a serious thought and please share through comments or email me at jamesoh2003@yahoo your experience as how you overcome it. I love to learn from you and look forward to hearing from you.
Thanks for your precious time and wish you success,
James Oh
Wednesday, December 9, 2009
THINK POSITIVE : SIMPLE AND EFFECTIVE 8
Hi! everyone,
This time I am thankful...
8. For all the complaining I hear about the government because it means that we have freedom of speech.
Give it a serious thought. It still apply to those countries with both OSA and ISA. But the freedom is a very limited one.
But it does not mean that you are not doing anything about it.
James Oh
This time I am thankful...
8. For all the complaining I hear about the government because it means that we have freedom of speech.
Give it a serious thought. It still apply to those countries with both OSA and ISA. But the freedom is a very limited one.
But it does not mean that you are not doing anything about it.
James Oh
Monday, December 7, 2009
HOW TO HAVE BREAKTHROUGH HEALTH RESULTS
Hi! everyone,
In this article, I am going to discuss how to have breakthrough results. This automatically triggers our minds that we need to make drastic changes to produce it. That is not wrong at all. Why I say so? It is a lengthy process that not only requires a strong and unlimited mindset, but also a winning formula to deliver that remarkable result. Most of the past proven cases illustrate well this precarious point when you have to act against conventional wisdom. A very good illustration is when people at one time believe that the earth is flat. It needed very strong courage and determination to prove otherwise. However, conventional wisdom is equally important for a strong foundation. That foundation cannot be ignored at all.
1. PICTURE THE BREAKTHROUGH RESULTS
To achieve anything, you must be able to visualise your breakthrough results in your mind first. Iit is crucial to begin with a vision and then use the ends to justify your means. For instance, if you want to fly, you must able to see how to fly and let the vision stick in your mind and heart. Then you will make use of the available means to make the end. Throughout the history of new inventions, we learned that the inventors always use means to facilitate their end. No doubt, the end may become clearer and clearer during the processes. In the flying example, the inventor learned that birds need wings to fly. That's how the aircraft was made. Over the years, they persistently improve with additional features to make the aircraft fly at higher altitude and faster speed.
An interesting point to note is that every creation must begin from our mind first. Similarly, to achieve breakthrough results, you need to know your goal and picture the end in your mind. In this regard, you need mental and spiritual qualities to overcome the physical defects.
2. BUILD UP APPROPRIATE AND EFFECTIVE APPROACH
To achieve the end result, an appropriate and effective approach is needed to carry out our task. Through your observations and testings, you are able to incorporate the changes, approaches, plans and actions so as to give you your desired results. Through elimination of the wrong paths, you will finally find the correct path leading to breakthrough results. Deep understanding of the means, system and approach are still relevant and equally important because you still need all these existing means to achieve breakthrough results. By now, you should able to see clearly how your approach need to be modified for desired results.
3. CREATIVE THINKING
You also need to think creatively to find new solution. Here, you need to think out of the box to deliver that result. You need to use your whole brain - i.e the logical and the creative parts to work out the plan and action to generate breakthrough results. Therefore, creative thinking demands more than imagination that will plough through logic to seek for new means. In short, you need to stretch your mind to the maximum and play within the stipulated boundaries, instead of working within the box, which can only produce small incremental improvement.
Hence, creative thinking is really required to explore new ideas that could likely produce results. Needless to say that you can't repeat the same thing to produce different results. Innovative or modified solutions should be used. Change is the answer.
4. APPROPRIATE ACTION
Vision alone is not sufficient. You need to put into action, your brillianct vision and integrate them well with the ultimate objective. Decisons and actions may not guarantee such breakthrough result. You need to stay focused on your ultimate goals, review the mistakes, learn from them and adjust the plan and your next act accordingly, until that remarkable result is achieved. You need a skill that will help you manage in a manner that, constantly produce the best possible results. It is crucial to note that adequate and rightful thinking will produce such results. Open mindset will help you review the feedback objectively and adjust your plan when you have thought more deeply or when things become clearer.
5. POWERFUL AND DYNAMIC MINDSET
Our mindset mould us to have a fixed way of looking at things. So, to have breakthrough results, we need a powerful and dynamic mindset , which has unlimited beliefs. Our mindsets can range from a judgment to a strongly held opinion all the way to a bias or a prejudice. It is not suffice for us to learn or adopt a new mindset for the future, but we need to substitute those limiting ones and grow further.
6. RECHARGE YOURSELF
To stay alert and active, you need time to have adequate and proper rest for your body, mind and soul. This is a skill, rather than an act. To reap maximum benefits, we need to acquire and master this skill. Do not confuse it with idling or inaction. A real relaxation will give us a refreshing feeling. To enhance our understanding, you may draw the same analogy with the performance of batteries after being recharged. This is crucial because your goal need to stay afresh in your mind while you are persistently working towards your end.
7. LEVERAGE
You can't do it alone. You need a system which can empower you to do far more than your own capability. We need to stay connected with others so that we can function as a united force to carry out that specific task. Human beings need connection with others. We especially need people for psychological and emotional support. Other scientific research has accumulated overwhelming evidence that having strong, supportive relationships is good for our mental and physical health.
Trust the above tips are helpful to you to build your path to healthy living. Remember that health, wellness and beauty are integrated issues and not separated as commonly believes.
Wishing you success,
James Oh
In this article, I am going to discuss how to have breakthrough results. This automatically triggers our minds that we need to make drastic changes to produce it. That is not wrong at all. Why I say so? It is a lengthy process that not only requires a strong and unlimited mindset, but also a winning formula to deliver that remarkable result. Most of the past proven cases illustrate well this precarious point when you have to act against conventional wisdom. A very good illustration is when people at one time believe that the earth is flat. It needed very strong courage and determination to prove otherwise. However, conventional wisdom is equally important for a strong foundation. That foundation cannot be ignored at all.
1. PICTURE THE BREAKTHROUGH RESULTS
To achieve anything, you must be able to visualise your breakthrough results in your mind first. Iit is crucial to begin with a vision and then use the ends to justify your means. For instance, if you want to fly, you must able to see how to fly and let the vision stick in your mind and heart. Then you will make use of the available means to make the end. Throughout the history of new inventions, we learned that the inventors always use means to facilitate their end. No doubt, the end may become clearer and clearer during the processes. In the flying example, the inventor learned that birds need wings to fly. That's how the aircraft was made. Over the years, they persistently improve with additional features to make the aircraft fly at higher altitude and faster speed.
An interesting point to note is that every creation must begin from our mind first. Similarly, to achieve breakthrough results, you need to know your goal and picture the end in your mind. In this regard, you need mental and spiritual qualities to overcome the physical defects.
2. BUILD UP APPROPRIATE AND EFFECTIVE APPROACH
To achieve the end result, an appropriate and effective approach is needed to carry out our task. Through your observations and testings, you are able to incorporate the changes, approaches, plans and actions so as to give you your desired results. Through elimination of the wrong paths, you will finally find the correct path leading to breakthrough results. Deep understanding of the means, system and approach are still relevant and equally important because you still need all these existing means to achieve breakthrough results. By now, you should able to see clearly how your approach need to be modified for desired results.
3. CREATIVE THINKING
You also need to think creatively to find new solution. Here, you need to think out of the box to deliver that result. You need to use your whole brain - i.e the logical and the creative parts to work out the plan and action to generate breakthrough results. Therefore, creative thinking demands more than imagination that will plough through logic to seek for new means. In short, you need to stretch your mind to the maximum and play within the stipulated boundaries, instead of working within the box, which can only produce small incremental improvement.
Hence, creative thinking is really required to explore new ideas that could likely produce results. Needless to say that you can't repeat the same thing to produce different results. Innovative or modified solutions should be used. Change is the answer.
4. APPROPRIATE ACTION
Vision alone is not sufficient. You need to put into action, your brillianct vision and integrate them well with the ultimate objective. Decisons and actions may not guarantee such breakthrough result. You need to stay focused on your ultimate goals, review the mistakes, learn from them and adjust the plan and your next act accordingly, until that remarkable result is achieved. You need a skill that will help you manage in a manner that, constantly produce the best possible results. It is crucial to note that adequate and rightful thinking will produce such results. Open mindset will help you review the feedback objectively and adjust your plan when you have thought more deeply or when things become clearer.
5. POWERFUL AND DYNAMIC MINDSET
Our mindset mould us to have a fixed way of looking at things. So, to have breakthrough results, we need a powerful and dynamic mindset , which has unlimited beliefs. Our mindsets can range from a judgment to a strongly held opinion all the way to a bias or a prejudice. It is not suffice for us to learn or adopt a new mindset for the future, but we need to substitute those limiting ones and grow further.
6. RECHARGE YOURSELF
To stay alert and active, you need time to have adequate and proper rest for your body, mind and soul. This is a skill, rather than an act. To reap maximum benefits, we need to acquire and master this skill. Do not confuse it with idling or inaction. A real relaxation will give us a refreshing feeling. To enhance our understanding, you may draw the same analogy with the performance of batteries after being recharged. This is crucial because your goal need to stay afresh in your mind while you are persistently working towards your end.
7. LEVERAGE
You can't do it alone. You need a system which can empower you to do far more than your own capability. We need to stay connected with others so that we can function as a united force to carry out that specific task. Human beings need connection with others. We especially need people for psychological and emotional support. Other scientific research has accumulated overwhelming evidence that having strong, supportive relationships is good for our mental and physical health.
Trust the above tips are helpful to you to build your path to healthy living. Remember that health, wellness and beauty are integrated issues and not separated as commonly believes.
Wishing you success,
James Oh
Sunday, December 6, 2009
THINK POSITIVE : SIMPLE AND EFFECTIVE 7
Hi! everyone,
As usual, this is always nice to find positive out of every negative - which we don't always manage to do.
I am thankful...
7. For a floor that needs mopping, and windows that need cleaning because it means I have a home.
I hope this will serve to remind us to cultivate such healthy habit, which is good for us.
James Oh
As usual, this is always nice to find positive out of every negative - which we don't always manage to do.
I am thankful...
7. For a floor that needs mopping, and windows that need cleaning because it means I have a home.
I hope this will serve to remind us to cultivate such healthy habit, which is good for us.
James Oh
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