Hi! Everyone,
Have you ever experienced
being disappointed, demoralized and
depressed when the people you have depended on, lets you down?
I do have an unfortunate and
agonizing experience. It all began 17 years ago when my wife and I took our 1
year old son to be warded in a modern and well-equipped Hospital because of
illness.
Unfortunately, my wife, who
was 30 plus weeks into her pregnancy, began complaining about abdominal pains
at the same time, and was sent to the delivery ward at the same hospital.
Talk about a double whammy! I
was not prepared for what happened next!
The 'state of art' hospital
then HARASSED me with phone calls to my mobile phone demanding me to settle my
wife's consultancy fee at the counter immediately. I said I would, but pleaded
to stay with my frightened ill son for a while. The hospital was nastily
adamant and I had no other choice, I threw the phone down to the floor as I was
very upset and began regretting my choice of hospital!
Again, my wife began
complaining about a second, more acute, pain just a short while upon her
return.
We wheeled her off to the
emergency ward but were referred to the delivery ward, after few rounds of
hassle with the medical staff.
We then returned to consult
the same midwife that attended to my wife the first time. She took 3 tests
which annoyingly lasted nearly an hour with her irrational excuses that the
earlier tests were not accurate.
But in the given
circumstances, I literally had to bite my tongue and swallow my anger with all
these ridiculous explanations. She finally contacted the gynecologist and
mentioned something of heavy technical flow which made me sensed strongly that
something was amiss.
After 20 minutes, the gynecologist
arrived and immediately contacted the operating theater's personnel through
phone without much explanation.
After a short talk, he
slammed down his phone and rushed to the operating theater to operate my wife.
Whilst being gratified with the gynecologist’s efficiency and devotion, I had
to push the other staff hard because they worked like snails with irking
lackadaisical attitude and slapdash mannerism. Hey, this was totally different
from what I saw from the TV series of 911 documentary movies.
After a long wait of 2 hours
for the operation, the gynecologist came back, with both good and sad
announcements. He claimed he had done all his best and saved my wife, but the
bad news was that our child was stillborn. Can you visualize how distraught and
devastated I was? I simply could not accept this second fact, knowing what all
those ludicrous actions and omissions committed by the Hospital before the
operation.
But my agonizing and
antagonizing trip to Hell did not end there.
I was flabbergasted when I
found out later that my wife's medication was mixed up with that of another
patient. Guess what? The hospital just casually informed that the mix up was
not a big matter, because it only involved some vitamins. Of course, it was not
acceptable even if it was true. I decided to pursue the whole matter to a
higher level for our justice and fairness.
The Hospital's CEO eventually
interfered and proposed to meet me at a Hotel to resolve my grievance with
conditions that no recording device and reporter were allowed. Unfortunately,
our meetings were not fruitful. What happened in the end?
You are right, nothing
constructive happened after that and this matter just died at natural death.
Today, I have forgiven, though I did not forget.
My friends, my message is :
always cultivate and nurture your good health. But if you do need medical
treatment, please be vigilant of the medical establishment you choose.
Most importantly, whenever
any ordeal hits you, never let your past experiences
impair your future. Your past cannot be altered and your future does not deserve
punishment. Learn to let go and move on with open mind, happilly soul and
forgiving heart.
Just remember - a sound emotional and physical health are much
greater wealth.
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Do you have any tips or suggestions that have helped you to get unstuck and create change in your life? Or have you had an experience that has helped you to create change, even if you found it hard?
Please share you views and experiences in the comments below so that we can all learn from each other.
