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MINDSET SHIFT: EMPLOYEE TO ENTREPRENEUR

MINDSET SHIFT: EMPLOYEE TO ENTREPRENEUR
BY JAMES OH

Friday, March 26, 2010

EIGHT WAYS TO MAKE PEOPLE LIKE YOU

Happy day ! everyone,

Socialising becomes an important part of life. It’s healthy to meet many people who like your presence. Most of us, if not everyone, would  like to make ourselves likeable. After all, becoming popular is a learnable skill. Here are some simple things you can do to have more success in your relationships.

1. Smile

Never underestimate this simple act because its yield its' amazing result. It is the very first step to unlocking doors and getting people to approach you.

However, those who know me much earlier will notice that I am one of those unfortunate folk who has a naturally “serious” face. Smiling isn’t something that comes so naturally for me. Fortunately I have tried hard to smile more often after I realized its importance. I've found it well worth my effort and I do hope you take the courage to do so.

Even though smiling doesn’t come naturally for me I’ve found it well worth the effort. It is very sensible that people prefer to deal with people who smile with them than otherwise. Therefore  a smile will go a long way toward making people like you. Although it does not guarantee  such a response,  yet it is highly possible reaction to your smile .


2. Remember people’s names

It is undeniable truth that the sweetest sound to a person’s ears is his own name. By addressing their name in your conversation, you can get better chance of making people like you. As such, you have to make an effort to remember their names. However, if it too difficult for you, then it is much easier to start by making it your habit. Take it as a new challenge. Grab every chance or situation where the person you are talking to is wearing a name tag, make it a point to use their name. Even if he is just the clerk at the grocery store or when you are in a position to make a purchase from someone and the sales person is wearing a name tag, use their name. Keep practicing until you acquire that habit. I can assure you that you will be amazed by its results.

Remember to use their names in your daily conversation and make people feel important and comfortable to talk to you. This is also one way to build good relationship.

3. To show genuine interest in other people

Do not make the common mistake of trying hard to impress other people. Just imagine when you are dating and the other party is trying to impress you. Wouldn't that will make you uneasy and boring. How about when the other party is shows their genuinely interest in your needs and care. Be genuinely interested in them and their real interests. Do the things they love to do. Affirm their opinions and choices. That will make them more likely stick to you as a buddy.

It is possible to be liked by people who have vastly different values than yours if you deal with it tactfully. No point to win an argument, but terminate a relationship. One of the good examples I can think of someone who really got along exceptionally well with people of differing values is Jesus. He is the son of God, holy man who founded one of the largest religions of all times. Prostitutes, thieves, tax collectors and other criminals called him a “friend of sinners.” These people were strongly attracted to Jesus and liked him despite he didn’t share their values. Why? This is because Jesus had shown them genuine interest in their well being. If you want people to like you then follow His footsteps.

4. Be a good listener

In any conversation, it is not a tough job to be genuinely interested in what the other person is saying.  You can not be thinking about what you are going to say next. So many times the sales people may totally miss that point. Like so many of us they don’t even let their prospect finish what they are saying before they are on to something else. It proves a point that they were not even listening to what the other person was saying in the first place.

The beauty of being a good listener is that you will never have to worry about running out of things to talk about. This is because if you will be able to raise questions to keep the conversation rolling.

Below are some clues to get you asking questions on the issue on:-

a. Family – Where they came from? Do they have kids? Are they married? Etc.

b. Occupation – What is their profession ? Then ask questions about that type of industry they are in and etc.

c. Hobbies – What are their interests?

5. Talk about subjects that are interesting to others

If you want other people to like you, let them do the talking. Generally people are more interested in themselves than any other subject. Therefore it makes more sense that they want to talk about their stuff, not your stuff. At times, it may sound and feel painful. Ask them questions that lead to another story of their own. Be interested in what they are interested in and they will think highly of you.

This principle even works when you are interviewing for a job. You may just keep asking the interviewers, questions about the company, the position, even about the interviewer personally. The common mistake people make is to tell how much they knew and how skilled they were to impress people. But the truth is they are far more impressed by how much interest you have in what is important to them.

6. Be Generous in Praising 

This one is a magic. You must able to pick something you can appreciate about the person you are talking with and let them know it.
Do they have nice things to praise for? hair? Eyes? Clothes? Jewelry? Car? A cool techno-gadget? Make it a point to tell them, follow by questions that get them talking about it. It could lead to other doors open to you. Try it out and let us know the results.


7. Being hygienic

No doubt having good hygiene alone won’t really make you popular, NOT having it is highly likely to be disastrous to your social life. Horrible body odour and bad breath to a certain extent repels people. Therefore, it is crucial to  keep your body clean and odourless by bathing and mouth rinsing daily.

8.    Being successful

Success is the magnet of attraction. People generally like the successful man. That why you find strangers will even come forward to shake the hands of the successful people and ask for their autographs. This way of making people like you is remote but powerful. Therefore, you need to press on to reach that level. Once you are there, the rest is history.

Wishing you success and look forward to hearing from you,


James Oh


Monday, March 22, 2010

Natural Charms of Selangor - the place I am living in

Dear readers,

I am more than happy to share with you the charm of the place I am living in - Natural Charms of Selangor and hope you too enjoy reading it.

It is the most prosperous and industrialised state which lies not far from the capital city of Kuala Lumpur. Its newly launched Selangor Shines campaign for 2010, is blessed with many natural attractions.

One of its most well known natural wonders is the fireflies that glow in the mangrove swamps and remind you of lighted Christmas trees. The best viewing time for the fireflies is in the evening at Kampung Kuantan, Kuala Selangor.


The entrance to Kampung Kuantan Fireflies Park



The picture of a typical firefly 




The chalets are built on stilts and are directly above water. The Firefly Park Resort.


Each house separates by 2 units of wooden walls.


It is no wonder that some people claim that the name of Selangor comes from the Malay word, "selanga", which means a large fly and draws its reference to the abundance of the flies that live in the marshes along the Selangor River in the northwest of the state.

Others say its name is derived from the term, "selang ur", which means land of the straits since "ur" in Tamil means "land" while "selang" in Malay means "straits".

The Melawati Hill in Kuala Selangor offers not just a panoramic view of Selangor's coastline but also used to provide a vantage point to monitor ships in the Straits of Malacca. Remains of the Malawati Fort, which was built to protect the state from intruders, include cannons and its original foundation stories.


 Melawati Fort at Melawati Hill

The fortress was renamed Fortress Alstingburg after its governor general Alting when it was captured by the Dutch. The Chinese nicknamed it "Mai Lau San", which means monkey hill as the place is swarmed by silver leaf monkeys and long-tailed macaques.

A lighthouse, several old colonial houses built during the British era, a poisoned well and the Royal Mausoleum are some of other tourist attractions found here. Sited at its foothill is the Kuala Selangor Nature Park, a great bird watching site.

The coastal town of Kuala Selangor used to be the State's royal capital before it was moved to Klang, Kuala Lumpur and later to Shah Alam, which is renowned for its Blue Mosque. As one of Southeast Asia's largest mosques that can hold 24,000 worshippers, the Blue Mosque, with its four minarets with a height of 142.3 m, is also one of the world's tallest mosques.


Blue Mosque





Another must visit sight in Selangor is the limestone hill of Batu Caves with its scared cave temples. Taking its name from Sungai Batu or Batu River that flows by, this popular Hindu shrine is dedicated to Lord Murugan. You need to climb 272 steps in order to reach it. This attraction is also the focal point of the Thaipusam festival in Malaysia, which attracts over 1.5million pilgrims yearly.


                                                           Batu Caves



Hope you enjoy reading it.

James Oh