HOW TO WIN PEOPLE TO YOUR WAY OF THINKING Part 1

Dear loving readers,

What is the point of winning a battle, but not the war.. Similarly, to win people to your way of thinking, people must able to see its Real benefits before they are willing to change. Below please find some useful tips you may use to guide yourself so as to reap its real benefits:-

1.       TO OBTAIN THE BEST OF AN ARGUMENT, AVOID IT

Do you know that nine out of ten times, an argument ends with each contestant more firmly convinced than ever that he is absolutely right despite any evidence proving otherwise. It is always better to give your path to a dog than be bitten by him in arguing for the right. Even killing a dog would not cure the bite.

As such, to reap real benefits in an argument, it is best to avoid it. However, you do not have to give in or give up your way of thinking, but live in the way you think is right. Let the result convince others when they subsequently realize it.

2.       SHOW RESPECT FOR OTHER PEOPLE'S VIEWS. NEVER SAY, “YOU'RE WRONG"

We always believe that there are more than one path to success. Similarly, there may be more than one right answer in any given situation. You think you are right, that does not mean that your opponent's view is wrong. The difference is that they are looking from different perspectives that give rise to two different right answers. That goes well with these two contradictory statements; Seeing is believing and Seeing is deceiving; both are contradicting but true when applied to any given situation.

Therefore, it is wise not to say they are wrong because it will have struck a direct blow at their intelligence, judgment, pride and self-respect. As such, their tendencies to strike back is always much higher than to change their minds even you have good intention to do so. This has been well proven by Galileo, who have once said that you cannot teach a man anything; you can only help him to find it within himself.

3.     ADMIT IT QUICKLY AND EMPHATICALLY IF YOU ARE WRONG

To do so, always remember that any fool can try to defend his mistake and most fools do, but it give rise to a feeling of nobility to admit one's mistake.  It is equally true that by fighting you will never get enough, but by yielding you get more than you expected. No one is perfect and makes no mistake.

4.      BEGIN IN A FRIENDLY WAY

The use of gentleness and friendliness is well proven by the statement; "a drop of honey catches more flies than a gallon of gall' advocated by Abraham Lincoln. It goes well that gentleness and friendliness are always stronger than fury and force.

5.     GET THE OTHER PERSON SAYING “YES, YES” IMMEDIATELY.

This is exactly illustrated in the Chinese proverb, with the age-old wisdom of the Orient: "He who treads softly goes far." It is always wise to begin the talk by discussing the things on which you agree and not on which you differ. Once you turn the situation to be more conducive, you can then be more effective in dealing with things on which you disagree. Just try out and see the result yourself.

6.  LET THE OTHER PERSON DO A GREAT OF THE TALKING.

Here, it is more effective to stimulate them to talk. So, just listen patiently and with open mind. Do not interrupt even if you disagree with them. It is dangerous and they won't pay attention to you while they still have a lot of ideas of their own crying for expression. Be sincere about them and work with them. Encourage them to tell you their ideas fully. He must be heard.

  

Hope the above tips will assist you to win your way of thinking to get more things done.

Please do not forget to share some of your experience or views should you have any.

Thank you and look forward to hearing from you,

James Oh

Learn from This great man

Dear readers,

Hope you too learn something from the great man below as I do. He is one of my childhood heroes.

 

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Thanks for your time and look forward to hearing from you,

James OH

HOW TO DEVELOP POSITIVE ATTITUDE

Dear loving readers,

To achieve success, you need to master your attitude. It is fundamental to your success. You are what you think. So, your mindset is very closely related to your attitude. Your mindset will determine the type of attitude you desire. No doubts having the right attitude does not guarantee you success, but it can empower you to do so otherwise you would not do it.

Append below please find the roadmap to develop positive attitude.

1. Take responsibility

No doubts, circumstances or personal upbringing may have significant impact on an individual's attitude, if left unchecked. However, we must be aware that attitude does not come from outside ourselves. It comes from within. So, if you are affected by the external factors, it means that you gave implied consent to them, that caused  you to be out of control. At the end, you still have to take personal responsibility for it.  By now, you should be able to see clearly that this is the very first step to take in order to develop positive attitude. You need to make a committed decision to take responsibility and shape your attitude.

2. Assess your present situation

Before you take a step towards building your positive attitude, you need to have a quick review of your present situation. To evaluate and ascertain where you begin with, is an appropriate step so that you can constantly review and monitor your progress. To be effective, you have to assess your attitude objectively. This task may be difficult, especially if you are not aware who you are; where you are heading to; and what is your goal. By doing so, you are able to ascertain your progress with certainty. Through this, you know your required real change and make rectification/modification if this is not what you want.

3. Fan your desire to change

Without real change, there is no improvement. Ironically most people want improvement and at the same time continues to resist change. Change is unavoidable. To take a ride on the changes, you need to be constantly adaptable to changes and move forward. Do not hold on to grudges as they will hold back the changes, which you would otherwise feel much easier to adapt to. Bear in mind that life is in a flux and impermanent. So, you need to think in this manner and maintain this sort of desire to move freely along this wave of change. The crucial question we need to ask ourselves is that "Are we trying to go along the wave or acting against the wave."

4. Change your thoughts

Remember that our action begin from our thought. To develop positive attitude, you need to constantly feed your mind and heart with the right stuff so that you have the right perspective. By convincing and convicting your mind and heart, you are able to develop your positive attitude. I believe that through the positive attitude, one can only reach his own individual potential to the maximum.

5. Make it a habit

Once you have committed to develop such a positive attitude, you need to shift your thinking to think in that manner and act consistently to your thoughts. By doing repeatedly, you are able to affirm and reaffirm your belief. Ultimately you will naturally behave in this manner till it becomes part of you. Both thinking and habit are well connected because your action will be greatly influenced by the way you think. I believe that your belief system will navigate your decision; thinking and action. All these are well integrated and inter dependent on each other. Bear in mind that repetition is the key to mastery. Repeated action will make it be part of you as it will become your behavior. 

6. Manage your attitude daily

Making a decision does not guarantee you success, you need to manage your decision daily so that it does not divert from your ultimate goals. In fact, managing your decision is much more important than decision making. Decision is one off transaction, whereas managing the decision is a daily affair. You need to feed your mind with the appropriate stuff, which can strengthen your mind set and faith. At the same time, you need to constantly and persistently review to ensure that it is in accordance to your goal. You may need to rectify your action should there be any diversion.

Thanks for your precious time and wish you  success.

James Oh

SOME USEFUL TIPS TO LOWER YOUR PHONE BILL

Happy day to everyone,

High Bill - worry not

I hope you are in high spirits as you read this article and hope it fulfill your needs.

Hand phone is widely regard as a convenient communication tool for most of us, if not all of us. It is easily subject to misuse especially when calling someone you like to chat for long hours. As such, its bill may drive some of us crazy, if left unchecked. I hope this article will help shed some light on how to lower your phone bill. At the same time,  you will be made aware of other cheaper means of communication options that are available.

1. One of the encouraging ways  to lower your phone bill is  to use the internet to communicate instead of using phone. If both caller and receiver have access to the internet, then use the internet to communicate. You may make use of Skype, Msn messenger and Yahoo messenger. Using VOIP (voice over internet protocol) options to make online calls will  save your money.

2. Nowadays, most offices and services providers have toll-free numbers. Using toll-free numbers is another good tip to lower your phone bills. Make it a habit to call toll-free numbers.

3. Prepaid plans are  good alternatives as you have full control on your phone usage especially for those who have a tendency to overuse phone services. Once your minutes are up, you need to wait till the end of the month to top-up. By doing so, you have a fixed limit of monthly phone bill.

4. Another way is not only to set a maximum number of phone calls per day for yourself, but also the maximum duration of each call. List down what you want to say in advance and speak straight to the point. Make it a habit so as to be more effective and efficient. To lower your bill further, make use of non peak hours such as late evening to make such calls if possible.

5. Do the same for short message sending (sms). Alternatively, use email if you do not have to respond to a call or text message immediately. By doing so, you are rest assured to lower your phone bills.

6. Do not subscribe to unnecessary entertainment packages which you can transfer to your own MP3 and video files from internet. Hence you can save for not using the phone’s entertainment package.

7. Scrutinise your monthly bill and phone the customer service if you think there is a discrepancy in your phone bill. There have been numerous occasions where phone companies made mistakes in their bills. Take this extra effort to check your phone bills carefully.

8. Sign up for auto-payment of your post-paid phone bills so as to avoid unnecessary charges.

9. You may use fixed line to make free local calls, if available, especially those who are internet subscribers instead of using hand phone. This not only helps you to lower your phone bill, but also reduce your exposure to the radioactive effect of hand phones.

10. Subscribe to service provider packages such as family pack with free calls amongst family members. Check with service providers before you sign up for the most suitable pack for your loved ones.

Now, I want to throw the ball to your court because I believe you may know other cheaper means, which I am not aware of.  Appreciate if you could put forward via comments for the benefits of all the readers. Thank you for your kind participation.

I am look forward to hearing from you,

James Oh

TO-DO LISTS THE KEY TO EFFICIENCY

Hi! everyone,

I am so glad to seeing you all again and I believe that you not only enjoy reading the articles, but are also receiving its value and benefits.

In today's information age world, we have a very hectic lifestyle. The chances that we are caught in the following situations are very high:-

1. We frequently feel overwhelmed by the amount of work we have to do; or

2. We have mountain of deadlines to meet; or

3. We just forget to do something important, so that people have to chase us to get work done.

All of the above are consequences for not maintaining a proper "To-Do List". To-Do Lists are prioritized lists which comprise of all the tasks that need to be done. They list everything that you need to perform, with the indication of priority and dateline.

From my personal experience, there are at least five valuable benefits, as listed below, which I like to share with you:- 

1. Stay in control

This is, by far, the greatest benefit. Our lists will give us a feeling of staying in control of our lives. This is vitally important especially when we don't have a clear, daily list of action steps to help us maintain our activity and stay focused. However, when we keep To-Do lists, we are never at a loss for finding something to do that is important. Even when we work off lists due to unexpected tasks, our minds are always attentive to the things we need to do next. Hence, no time is wasted.

2. Eliminates procrastination

I have to honestly admit that I seldom procrastinate. In fact, I have the habit of doing thing early and focus on completing things ahead of schedule. Those who have worked with me, know that I seldom slip through the cracks or get lost because I am always backed up by To-Do list.

3. Frequent reassessing of priorities

Since it gives us a bird's eye view of all the uncompleted tasks, it constantly helps us to reassess our priorities and at the same time frequently force us to confront items on our list that have made slower progress than expected. By constantly reviewing To-Do list it will not only enhance your productivity, but your deadlines would probably be met.

4. It relieves mental attention

Our lists function similarly as an external quick-access hard drives for storing items that are not currently needed for the immediate tasks at hand. Therefore, by making lists, we relieve our mental attention and eliminates worry. As such, we are less likely to wonder what is going on because we consciously work through everything going on in our lives through the process of updating our lists. This give you peace of mind because we are freed from the burden of having to remember details. 

5. Allow timely reassigning of tasks

By regularly updating the progress, problem areas and bottlenecks will surface much faster and easier. This will prompt you to reassign tasks if necessary or alternatively bring more help to a problematic area. Prevention is always better than cure. So, To-Do lists can assist you to achieve that goal.

6. It will help you to achieve gratification.

You will obtain much gratification by ticking things off as you accomplish them. Thus the immense feeling of satisfaction is always there when you look back at the list and seeing every task with a line through it. You will definitely feel much more gratified at the end of day. This will fan your desire to achieve more with less. Try it out, you will then know what I mean.

For those who have done so, congratulation to you and I believe you will continue to do so because the benefits are overwhelming. For those who have not , I challenge you to try it out and let us know your feedback. You may find it time consuming but I can assure you that each benefit is significant enough to justify your time spent. This may be painful exercise initially, but later you will enjoy working with it because of its overwhelming benefits.

I hope the above solution will ease your life and give you some light to drive you towards greater achievement in life.

Thanks for your time and look forward to hearing from you.

 James Oh

Happy Chinese New Year 2010

Dear readers,

“GONG XI FA CAI”

                                                                                                             

   
 

 James Oh

Moral story Part II

Happy day! Everyone,

NOW .......

Enough of that crap. The donkey later came back,
and bit the farmer who had  tried to bury him.
The gash from the bite got infected and
the farmer eventually died in agony from septic shock.



MORAL FROM TODAY'S LESSON:

When you do something wrong, and try to cover
your ass, it always comes back to bite you.

Bye and Gong Xi Fa Chai,

James OH

Moral for today Part I

Dear Everyone,

I am very pleased to share this meaningful story with you which I believe you will love it as I do :--

One day a farmer's donkey fell down into a
well. The animal cried piteously for hours as
the farmer tried to figure out what to do.

Finally, he decided the animal was old, and the
well needed to be covered up anyway;

it just wasn't worth it to retrieve the donkey.

He invited all his neighbors to come over and
help him. They all grabbed a shovel and began
to shovel dirt into the well. At first, the
donkey realized what was happening and cried
horribly. Then, to everyone's amazement he
quieted down.

A few shovel loads later, the farmer finally
looked down the well. He was astonished at what
he saw. With each shovel of dirt that hit his
back, the donkey was doing something amazing.
He would shake it off and take a step up.

As the farmer's neighbors continued to shovel
dirt on top of the animal, he would shake it
off and take a step up.

Pretty soon, everyone was amazed as the donkey
stepped up over the edge of the well and
happily trotted off!

*****

Life is going to shovel dirt on you, all kinds
of dirt. The trick to getting out of the well
is to shake it off and take a step up. Each of
our troubles is a stepping stone. We can get out
of the deepest wells just by not stopping,
never giving up! Shake it off and take a step up. 

Remember the five simple rules to be happy:
Free your heart from hatred - Forgive.

Free your mind from worries - Most never happen.

Live simply and appreciate what you have.

Give more (strokes in golf)

Expect less (strokes in golf)

That's all for today. Please stay tuned for Part II


Look forward to seeing you again,

Cheers,

James Oh

PROCRASTINATION AND ITS COMMON JUSTIFICATIONS

Hi! everyone.

I hope that my articles are serving you well and putting you in a better position to grow further.

In my previous article we have learned how Procrastination is a silent killer and ways to beat it.

Today's article, I am going to discuss in detail the common justifications for procrastination, which you should be aware of:-

1. I do it tomorrow

Some of you may have heard or used such an excuse for delaying the matter till tomorrow.  Tomorrow never ends because there is always tomorrow so long as we still stay alive. We can continue to postpone our action and use other reasons for to justify the delay. After all, waiting for just one more day won't upset too many people. I guess some of you are so familiar with this because this is the most frequently used justification for procrastination. To me, everyday brings a new batch of opportunities and things to do. If I were bogged down by uncompleted yesterday's tasks, how can I take myself in the running for today's prize.

2. I wait because I can't do it perfectly.

The person who has such an attitude has denied the reality that none of us will ever do anything perfectly. From my personal experience, I learned after I have began with it . Many times, when I start doing something new, I discover they are not as difficult as they initially appear. So, if you want to wait until a time where everything is perfect, then such a time will never arrive. Therefore, it is more sensible that we start doing and improving at the same time.

3. I wait because I don't have everything I need.

This statement also sounds familiar with some of you. The list of thing we don't have can be go on forever such as marketing brochure, new pricing lists and no written procedures. I believe that there is always something we can always begin with, regardless whether the list of things we need is complete or not. All we have to do is to be honest with it and look for what we can begin with.

4. I wait because someone else can do it better than me.

This excuse indicate lack of confidence. No doubt that there is always someone else who can do it better than you. But it is equally true that many of the best ones presently were not the best in the past or at the time they began with. They became the best because they tried and persistently improved on it.

Some people believe procrastination  is rooted in the fear of failure. Whereas, some, especially psychologists believe all procrastination is rooted in the fear of success. Many people do not want to look bad and are afraid to expose themselves to failures. Procrastination is a tool used by many people to shield themselves from failure, which they falsely believed in. But the real truth is that procrastination will guarantee failure.

5. I don't have time right now.

This is also another convenient way to justify your action. You may have experienced lots of things done not because of the right time, but rather when you take one step further. By accumulating and adding up the tasks your work remains incomplete. The crucial point is that having such a short amount of time is not a valid reason for permitting us not to do anything. We do not have to do it later if we can do it now. The result is that we will accomplish the project quicker and will not turn out to be a victim of procrastination. If we can do what we can when we can, the results will then speak for themselves.

Many of us may have encountered situations whare we failed to take action on things that offer good opportunities for us. We may have used the above excuses that caused us to miss these opportunities to achieve and grow. When you have the opportunity to do it, you need to do it and don't let someone else seize the opportunity. Be bold and take up the courage to take up the task. 

 Hope this article will give you the light and wish you success,

James Oh

EFFECTIVE PERSON AND THEIR CHARACTERISTICS

Happy day to everyone,

In today's information age, competitiveness is so great everywhere. In order to compete and survive, we need to be effective. What is the real meaning of effective?
Effective Person is  one who always make more things happen with least resources, in the shortest possible time. Sounds like magic and could this be possible? This is possible because effective people are consistently seeking new means to do things better i.e. to be more effective and efficient that is their secret. To them, getting things done and accomplishing results are the proof of success. As such, they always stay focus at their end results and continue to explore new and better ways to deliver more outputs.


How are they different from others.? Effective people account for their own  lives, and not to others. As such, they hold themselves accountable for their own actions and never give excuses for failure nor do they blame others. In doing so, they gain respect and admiration from others. Accepting responsibility demonstrates honesty, trustworthiness and courage. Their quality values naturally attract others who want to help them to succeed, which is a crucial necessity for consistent achievement.

On the other hand, people who deny responsibility often cannot see things as they really are and they refuse to admit their mistakes. Hence they cannot learn from their own mistakes and thus stunt further growth in their abilities.

Because of their open minded nature, they are eager to learn. They replace their flaw beliefs which hinder them from achieving their results effectively. These beliefs will be their rock, serving as foundation to build their plan and action to deliver more with less. They are more open to new concepts and ideas. Naturally, they will attract many trusted people to join them in incorporating new ways of doing things so as to achieve timely results. Here, we can see that change is a very natural thing in the eyes of effective people. They rather take the ride of the natural wave and not fight against it. Hence, they rather make necessary adjustments to gear themselves for new progress and continually look for faster and better means to get thing done.

To them, every issue has a solution. To be fruitful, they rather focus their attention, effort and time to seek improvement in every aspect to enhance their output. As such, they will  keep themselves busy with activities that produce results.
   
They are results oriented people, who take ownership to get the task done. They are interested in result and not meaningless activity. They are "can do" people who initiates action speedily and make sensible decision to resolve issues. They are proactive people who seek solutions to rectify issues so as to improve further.

Another great characteristics of effective people is that they are always full of energy and enthusiasm. They consistently generate output that is much higher than reasonably expected of them. They have all the necessary key ingredients such as persistence, determination, will power, stamina to accomplish long term objectives. In short, they have passionate, convinced and convicted commitment to make their dreams into reality. They enjoy every task with self motivation and they are able to set priorities according to their ultimate objectives.

Effective people also have the necessary required competence to get things done appropriately. They are the people who constantly polish their skill and explore new means of getting their things done effectively and efficiently. They are also improvement oriented and always explore further to enhance their track records. They are the people who constantly discharge their tasks diligently with full responsibility consistently with their beliefs system. They do what they preach because they know that this is the only way that can produce long lasting results.

Now, the choice is at your court whether you choose to cultivate some of the above proven characteristics that I have learned from those great masters who have a great impact on my life.

Thanks for your precious time and I hope that your time is well spent.

James Oh

LEFT OVER ONIONS ARE POISONOUS

Hi! everyone,

This is the message I received from my contacts, which I am more than happy to share with you. 

I have used an onion which has been left in the fridge, and sometimes I don't use a whole one at one time, so save the other half for later. 
Now with this info, I have changed my mind....will buy smaller onions in the future. 

I had the wonderful privilege of touring Mullins Food Products, Makers of mayonnaise. Mullins is huge, and is owned by 11 brothers and sisters in the Mullins family. My friend, Jeanne, is the CEO. 

Questions about food poisoning came up, and I wanted to share what I learned from a chemist. 

The guy who gave us our tour is named Ed. He's one of the brothers Ed is a chemistry expert and is involved in developing most of the sauce formula.  He's even developed sauce formula for McDonald's. 

Keep in mind that Ed is a food chemistry whiz. During the tour, someone asked if we really needed to worry about mayonnaise. People are always worried that mayonnaise will spoil. Ed's answer will surprise you.  Ed said that all commercially- made Mayo is completely safe. 

"It doesn't even have to be refrigerated. No harm in refrigerating it, but it's not really necessary.." He explained that the pH in mayonnaise is set at a point that bacteria could not survive in that environment. He then talked about the quaint essential picnic, with the bowl of potato salad sitting on the table and how everyone blames the mayonnaise when someone gets sick. 


Ed says that when food poisoning is reported, the first thing the officials look for is when the 'victim' last ate ONIONS and where those onions came from (in the potato salad?). Ed says it's not the mayonnaise (as long as it's not homemade Mayo) that spoils in the outdoors. It's probably the onions, and if not the onions, it's the POTATOES. 

He explained, onions are a huge magnet for bacteria, especially uncooked onions. You should never plan to keep a portion of a sliced onion.. He says it's not even safe if you put it in a zip-lock bag and put it in your refrigerator. 

It's already contaminated enough just by being cut open and out for a bit, that it can be a danger to you (and doubly watch out for those onions you put in your hotdogs at the baseball park!) 

Ed says if you take the leftover onion and cook it like crazy
you'll probably be okay, but if you slice that leftover onion and put on your sandwich, you're asking for trouble. Both the onions and the moist potato in a potato salad, will attract and grow bacteria faster than any commercial mayonnaise will even begin to break down.. 

So, how's that for news? Take it for what you will. I (the author) am going to be very careful about my onions from now on. For some reason, I see a lot of credibility coming from a chemist and a company that produces millions of pounds of mayonnaise every year.' 

Also, dogs should never eat onions. Their stomachs cannot metabolize onions .Please remember it is dangerous to cut onions and try to use it to cook the next day ,it becomes highly poisonous for even a single night and creates Toxic bacteria which may cause Adverse Stomach infections because of excess Bile secretions and even Food poisoning.

Please share it with all you love and care.

Wishing you a good health,

James Oh

 

 

 

EFFECTIVE WAYS TO STRENGTHEN YOUR RELATIONSHIP

Hi! everyone,

As the world is becoming more and more integrated, no man can live on his own. Therefore, integration and staying well connected become crucial and important in our lives. To be successful, you need to maintain good and lasting relationship with others. You can only grow further through this healthy relationship

1. Respecting each other is an absolutely fundamental pillar in establishing good relationship. This means that we have to accept who they are; caring and loving them for their uniqueness and differences. However, many people expect others to conform in ways they deem appropriate. This is more inclined to slavery than love! Bear in mind that others are not neither your private property, nor your slave. Needless to say, it is not conducive for you to have a happy relationship when you restrict their freedom by treating them in the above manner. Most human beings may want to grow in ways, not to your liking or your comfort,  but preventing their growth will stifle both you and them. Instead of restricting others' freedom, it is far better to encourage them to grow and become the persons they want to be. Indeed, the only way that can assure a person can  flourish is through true love.

2. None of us is perfect. Therefore to have successful relationships with others, we need to tolerate each other's imperfectness. Understanding others will help us to see things from their perspective, and not from ours. Through this, we will not only become wiser, but  will also reduce conflicts through better understanding of each other. This means tolerance will serve to maintain harmony and strengthen relationship. We must be aware that every one has his own belief, culture, liking and preferences. Therefore you need more than love to build a long lasting relationship. Without tolerance and compromise, there will be no true relationship. Extra care is required especially in the multi-racial environment. True harmony will not be achieve if any particular race remains more superior than the others because it acts against the profound human principle of equality. Good and sound relation will not take place if  there is no true acceptance of each other and no true equality in that sense. These will create hatred due to lack of trust among them.

3. Argument is the worst way to spoil relationship, if left unchecked, because the tendency is for the person is to win and to be right. So, watch out for this DEADLY trait. Argumentative people have a great tendency to argue until they "win" about everything and anything. They will not listen and consider others' viewpoints. This is because they are rarely compromise. You must bear in mind that any criticism, however fair and justified will be met with opposition. Therefore, it is wise to not indulge in silly futile arguments. Remember that winning arguments is not the objective, but what is more important is to establish truly good and lasting relationship.

4. Listening and learning are required. Relation is build through understanding  each other. As such, you need to listen and learn from others so as to avoid conflict. This serve as a double edge sword that can cut both sides. To ensure lasting and healthy relations, we cannot lack these skills. Without these, there is no true understanding.  We need to polish our listening and learning skill for us to grow beyond our personal capabilities.

5. Open minded. A fundamental prerequisite for learning is an open mind. No one can learn without doing so. The undeniable truth is that who we are is what we believe in. The things we believe control our lives. We pass judgment based on our beliefs and we perceive things from our own belief windows. How can we see others' perspectives if we are restricted by our own beliefs?  To accept change and new idea, we need to change our core belief that allow us to open our heart to listen to the new idea. Without doing so, there is no way we can acquire new ideas because our belief has rejected them in the first place prior to listening.

I challenge you to give the above serious thought and I hope that the proven recipes will not only assist you in strengthening your relationship with others, but also ensure that you enjoy long lasting happiness and a deeper loving bond.

Please do voice out your thoughts via comments so as we can enrich our discussion. Thank you in advance for your kind participation.

Wish you a success,

James Oh

SUCCESS ACCELERATION : HOW TO

Hi! everyone,



Before we discuss three main core elements in success acceleration process, we must first fulfill the requirement of willing to CHANGE. These main core elements are basically Basic fundamental, Right Strategies and Technique/Know how. In short, if a person know precisely what he is doing ( Basic fundamental), fully aware what he needs to do ( Right Strategies) and adapt his action accordingly (Right technique), then he is able to expedite his achievement.

I) Basic fundamental comprises of the following:-

a. Free from limiting beliefs
He must not be a captive of his limiting beliefs. To overcome this, he need to have an open mind and be willing to listen to new ideas so that existing limiting beliefs can be kept in check constantly. By doing so, he will be able to identify these limiting beliefs one by one and replace them with unlimited beliefs. Eventually he will set himself entirely free from these limiting beliefs. Hence, he will accelerate his success.

b. Skill
Those who lack overall wellness management skill will have difficulty in maintaining the discipline that produce continued success. For sustaining and continuous growth in success, he needs to manage all his time and resources effectively and efficiently by optimizing the overall wellness of his life be it spiritual, educational, financial, health, family and social. No matter how difficult his situation might be, he always give himself time to change. He always have hope so long as he is breathing.

c. Winning formula
To achieve anything, you need to have the necessary ingredients to achieve it. Similarly to success. Confidence, persistence and enthusiasm are key ingredients for this winning formula, which will form the driving force towards success. They serve as fertile soil which provide nourishment and yield crops.
All the above three are integrated and function as one so as to ensure optimal growth at all times. These three  continuously interact with each other and sharpen each other persistently so as to produce the highest possible result.

II) Right Strategies basically comprises of :-

a. Action
Here, action refers to continuous acts, which must be consistent with plans, objectives and beliefs. Every team member is well aware of them and constantly takes his best action working towards ultimate goals. As the foundation is well laid in each and every member's heart and mind, the entire team will function like one body well connected with the mind. As you are well aware that a well thought plan for success requires a tremendous amount of mental focus and emotional energy before action can be implemented.

b. Maximising effectiveness
To accelerate success, you need to constantly manage your time and resources effectively so as to reap the maximum outputs at all times. An opened mind, willingness to learn and listening skills are basic ingredients to obtaining maximum outputs. Hence,  continuous improvement in every possible aspect is always made possible.

c.Vision, Plan, Goal setting
Significant accomplishments always begin with a vision or dream. Plan and goal setting will be an effective tool for you to manage your resources towards your ultimate goal. To achieve accelerated success, you need to ensure that productivity and speed are the end results.


III) Technique/ know how

a. Leverage
No one has all the abilities, talents and competence in every aspect. No one is perfect either. As such, to accelerate success we need to use the strengths from every team member to function as a body. The body should be controlled by one brain to organise, co-ordinate and execute each plan accordingly to reap its best performance. Using the concept of leverage, we not only achieve more, but also achieve it  much faster. A very good illustration is comparing the pipeline builder and the bucket carrier. The pipeline builder only carries out the task once, but enjoy the fruit for a much longer period than the latter who has water only after the return trip from the well. You see the difference now.

b. Learning from the real experts
Learn to follow and benchmark successful people. You need to constantly observe and study from those who has made it. Through closely monitoring, you will also not only monitor your progress, but also raise your standards as you progress. You will benefit in two ways, - i) you will avoid disappointment over unrealistic targets, and ii) you will raise your standard to propel yourself in a better position. No doubt, you can't use  similar ways to achieve any breakthrough results, however you will have an unshakeable foundation to grow further. With such insight, you will give yourself a much better chance to reap more outstanding results.

c. Good relationship
By now, you should able to see that to stay well connected with others, you need to establish good relationship with others. To become successful, you need to be skillful in convincing and persuading other people to take your desired action on your behalf as a team. You need to gain self respect from others so as to ensure you are trusted and likeable person. Your daily action must be reflected consistently to what you preach. It is vitally important so that they are fully convicted and convinced.

d. Practise, practise and practise
Nothing can beat procrastination in causing failure. You must be fully aware that everything has to be just right or even perfect before one can begin the fundamental concept. Procrastination creates  a false belief that it can save one from failure. The truth is that it will guarantee failure. As such, practise, practise and practise is the answer. Through practise, you can perfect any skill or trade. It is interesting to note that parallel progress allows you to accomplish more things faster, rather than simply completing each task separately with chronological steps. As such, you need to go for parallel progress if you want to accelerate success.

I hope I have given you an insight of those key principles that can assist you to expedite your success. I am throwing the ball to your court and now it is up to you whether to accept the necessary changes. It is not too late to change and I am more than happy to work hand in hand with you to accomplish our mutual objectives. To me, each of us has his own strength and to accelerate our goals, we need to use our individual's strength to complement our individual's weakness so that we can achieve more.

As usual, please forward your ideas, experience, wisdom and thought through comments so as we can continue to learn from each other. Thank you in advance for your kind participation.

Thank you for your precious time and wish you success.

Get ready for an exciting life.


James Oh

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Hi! everyone,

Glad to see you again.



This is always nice to finding positive out of every negative thing, which we don't always manage to do. 
 

I am thankful...


13. For the alarm that goes off in the early morning hours because it means that I am still alive.


HAVE A NICE DAY !!!

Think Positive!!
Live happily,


James Oh

FIVE KEY WAYS TO IMPROVE YOUR LISTENING SKILLS

Hi! everyone,

Good listening is not only an essential ingredient of effective communication, but it also helps us to stay well connected  with others. Most of us aren't good listeners; however, listening is a skill that everyone can master,  if we choose to do so. You may find some of the tips below useful:-

1. Make it your mission to understand
To achieve anything successfully, you need to have a mission. Similarly in the mastery of the listening skill, a mission is required. We must always seek first to understand the speaker, what he intends to tell you, what is his intention. To be  a good listener, you have to listen attentively after you have acknowledged what he had said.

2. Acknowledge everything the speaker says
Acknowledging everything that the speaker says is totally in contrast to ignoring or disregarding the speaker. You need to respond positively by validating what he says. This will encourage him to tell you more since you show interest in listening to his story. You may acknowledge him through verbal and non-verbal response such as nodding your head, maintaining eye contact or other expression you deem fit. Counter response is important as it shows two ways of communication instead of one way.  To be effective, you must respond similarly to the speaker's action. If he whispers to you, whisper back to him. Flow with him is the answer.

3. Avoid interrupting.
I hate to say this - You cannot do both talking and listening simultaneously. You may do it directly or indirectly. Indirect way happens when you assume what the speakers are going to say before they say it, you  not only annoy them, but you will also miss the real message. Ask questions if you have doubts and try to see the other person's point-of-view. If you are unsure of the meaning ask for clarification and then if you are still not sure repeat it back to them, for instance, "So, what are you saying is, you don't like this article because this topic is not your cup of tea and it has nothing to do with its author, is that correct?"

4. Agree with everything you are told
Please don't get me wrong to mean that you have to agree exactly what they say. For the above example, you know the reason why he dislike this article. It is nothing wrong for you to agree with him if this article is also not your cup of tea. You are looking from his perspective, and not your perspective. Do you see the difference? Here, you are agreeing with the reason he told you. Can you see how the art of true listening operates.

5. Be patient
Especially when you don't understand what they say. Never get upset because it won't solve any issues but will only create more. Ask politely after the speaker has finished speaking what they wanted to say.

I trust the above is helpful to you. Please feel free to add in any other tips which you think is helpful. Thank you in advance for your kind participation. By now, you may able to see that to live happily, you need to stay well connected with others. Therefore, good listening skill is crucial in establishing good relationship.

James Oh

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Hi! everyone,


The best thing to do is to find positive out of every negative. 
 

I am thankful...

12. For weariness and aching muscles at the end of the day because it means I have been capable of working hard.  


Good sign and press on.



James Oh

HAPPY NEW YEAR 2010

DEAREST FRIEND,

WISHING YOU AND YOUR FAMILY

HAPPY NEW YEAR !!!

WITH ABUNDANT GOD BLESSING OF

GOOD HEALTH, JOY & WEALTH.

WARMEST REGARDS,

James Oh

LIVE HAPPILY IS THE SMART WAY

Hi, everyone,

Life is a choice. You either choose to be happy or unhappy. The choice is yours. You are the deciding factor, and not others . Why I say so? This is because to live happily, you need to look at  life from the right perspective. The secret of happiness does not lies ahead, but lies inside you.

Some may think that money will bring us happiness. Unfortunately, this is not the case and it is a common misconception. It depends very much  on its beholders. Why I say so? No doubt, money can buy lots of things. However, it cannot buy things such as peace, sleep, health and happiness. Sometimes, it brings more harm especially when you see siblings fighting for inheritance in the presence of their elderly parents who are in serious illness.

Accept people as they are and it will make you happy because we cannot deny the truth that everyone is unique and is distinct from others. You can't find two persons that are identical, even if they are twins.

Do not try be smart by exerting unnecessary force to lead others to behave the way you want. You may think it will make you happy. That is an illusion. Simply because those who behave in that manner may be trying to obtain your favours when you are of use to them. Once, he has such power, he will then treat you the same manner as you have trained him. Can you see that this way will not lead  to happiness in the long run? Instead it will lead you to a rat race situation which is stressful and creates more harm to you, if left unchecked.

Accepting differences in individual not only enhance our understanding and tolerance level of human relationship, but also assist us to master the skill. Hence, it  not only makes us wiser, but also turn us to be a more easily approachable person. You will find the key of being happy is to mix well with people, rather than indulge with unhealthy activities by comparing and competing.

In short, money does help, so does power that come from social status, however they are not permanent in nature. This is because there is always someone else  wealthier than you or have higher authority than you and  whose wants may be different form yours. The truth will then prevail, which will not make you happy.

However, this is not the case when you have  good and sincere relationship with people around you that makes you happy. This sort of relationship is more permanent in nature. Life is a relationship with others. It is through caring and sharing that true happiness is created. Sometimes you act as a giver of happiness to those who are in despair. And at other times you act as a receiver of happiness from others who sow upon you.

Relationship will help mould and sharpen your understanding in life. This social network will not only give you a more healthier environment to flourish your life, but also bring happiness to you. Health is also wealth.

I hope that this article paints you a right perspective for happy living  Let this smart way lead your life and you will live in a truly wealthy manner.

Thanks for your precious time and wish you every success,

James Oh

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Happy day! everyone,


This is nice - finding positive out of every negative - which we don't always manage to do.


I am thankful...

11. For the pile of laundry and ironing because it means I have
clothes to wear.

Please let us know if you find something positive out of any negative incident. We can always pool our minds together to work it out.

Thanks and stay tuned for more good news ahead.

James Oh

Merry Christmas and Happy New Year 2010

Hi! everyone,


May you and your family have a

Joyful Christmas, a fruitful New Year

And

wishing you all a Blessed Christmas.
 Hope the New Year will bring peace, health and success

to everyone…..

                                                                                                      

&        

 HAPPY   NEW   YEAR 2010 !!

                                                                                                                                                                                          

  

  

                    

           

 See you again,

James Oh