EFFECTIVE WAYS TO STRENGTHEN YOUR RELATIONSHIP

Hi! everyone,

As the world is becoming more and more integrated, no man can live on his own. Therefore, integration and staying well connected become crucial and important in our lives. To be successful, you need to maintain good and lasting relationship with others. You can only grow further through this healthy relationship

1. Respecting each other is an absolutely fundamental pillar in establishing good relationship. This means that we have to accept who they are; caring and loving them for their uniqueness and differences. However, many people expect others to conform in ways they deem appropriate. This is more inclined to slavery than love! Bear in mind that others are not neither your private property, nor your slave. Needless to say, it is not conducive for you to have a happy relationship when you restrict their freedom by treating them in the above manner. Most human beings may want to grow in ways, not to your liking or your comfort,  but preventing their growth will stifle both you and them. Instead of restricting others' freedom, it is far better to encourage them to grow and become the persons they want to be. Indeed, the only way that can assure a person can  flourish is through true love.

2. None of us is perfect. Therefore to have successful relationships with others, we need to tolerate each other's imperfectness. Understanding others will help us to see things from their perspective, and not from ours. Through this, we will not only become wiser, but  will also reduce conflicts through better understanding of each other. This means tolerance will serve to maintain harmony and strengthen relationship. We must be aware that every one has his own belief, culture, liking and preferences. Therefore you need more than love to build a long lasting relationship. Without tolerance and compromise, there will be no true relationship. Extra care is required especially in the multi-racial environment. True harmony will not be achieve if any particular race remains more superior than the others because it acts against the profound human principle of equality. Good and sound relation will not take place if  there is no true acceptance of each other and no true equality in that sense. These will create hatred due to lack of trust among them.

3. Argument is the worst way to spoil relationship, if left unchecked, because the tendency is for the person is to win and to be right. So, watch out for this DEADLY trait. Argumentative people have a great tendency to argue until they "win" about everything and anything. They will not listen and consider others' viewpoints. This is because they are rarely compromise. You must bear in mind that any criticism, however fair and justified will be met with opposition. Therefore, it is wise to not indulge in silly futile arguments. Remember that winning arguments is not the objective, but what is more important is to establish truly good and lasting relationship.

4. Listening and learning are required. Relation is build through understanding  each other. As such, you need to listen and learn from others so as to avoid conflict. This serve as a double edge sword that can cut both sides. To ensure lasting and healthy relations, we cannot lack these skills. Without these, there is no true understanding.  We need to polish our listening and learning skill for us to grow beyond our personal capabilities.

5. Open minded. A fundamental prerequisite for learning is an open mind. No one can learn without doing so. The undeniable truth is that who we are is what we believe in. The things we believe control our lives. We pass judgment based on our beliefs and we perceive things from our own belief windows. How can we see others' perspectives if we are restricted by our own beliefs?  To accept change and new idea, we need to change our core belief that allow us to open our heart to listen to the new idea. Without doing so, there is no way we can acquire new ideas because our belief has rejected them in the first place prior to listening.

I challenge you to give the above serious thought and I hope that the proven recipes will not only assist you in strengthening your relationship with others, but also ensure that you enjoy long lasting happiness and a deeper loving bond.

Please do voice out your thoughts via comments so as we can enrich our discussion. Thank you in advance for your kind participation.

Wish you a success,

James Oh

SUCCESS ACCELERATION : HOW TO

Hi! everyone,



Before we discuss three main core elements in success acceleration process, we must first fulfill the requirement of willing to CHANGE. These main core elements are basically Basic fundamental, Right Strategies and Technique/Know how. In short, if a person know precisely what he is doing ( Basic fundamental), fully aware what he needs to do ( Right Strategies) and adapt his action accordingly (Right technique), then he is able to expedite his achievement.

I) Basic fundamental comprises of the following:-

a. Free from limiting beliefs
He must not be a captive of his limiting beliefs. To overcome this, he need to have an open mind and be willing to listen to new ideas so that existing limiting beliefs can be kept in check constantly. By doing so, he will be able to identify these limiting beliefs one by one and replace them with unlimited beliefs. Eventually he will set himself entirely free from these limiting beliefs. Hence, he will accelerate his success.

b. Skill
Those who lack overall wellness management skill will have difficulty in maintaining the discipline that produce continued success. For sustaining and continuous growth in success, he needs to manage all his time and resources effectively and efficiently by optimizing the overall wellness of his life be it spiritual, educational, financial, health, family and social. No matter how difficult his situation might be, he always give himself time to change. He always have hope so long as he is breathing.

c. Winning formula
To achieve anything, you need to have the necessary ingredients to achieve it. Similarly to success. Confidence, persistence and enthusiasm are key ingredients for this winning formula, which will form the driving force towards success. They serve as fertile soil which provide nourishment and yield crops.
All the above three are integrated and function as one so as to ensure optimal growth at all times. These three  continuously interact with each other and sharpen each other persistently so as to produce the highest possible result.

II) Right Strategies basically comprises of :-

a. Action
Here, action refers to continuous acts, which must be consistent with plans, objectives and beliefs. Every team member is well aware of them and constantly takes his best action working towards ultimate goals. As the foundation is well laid in each and every member's heart and mind, the entire team will function like one body well connected with the mind. As you are well aware that a well thought plan for success requires a tremendous amount of mental focus and emotional energy before action can be implemented.

b. Maximising effectiveness
To accelerate success, you need to constantly manage your time and resources effectively so as to reap the maximum outputs at all times. An opened mind, willingness to learn and listening skills are basic ingredients to obtaining maximum outputs. Hence,  continuous improvement in every possible aspect is always made possible.

c.Vision, Plan, Goal setting
Significant accomplishments always begin with a vision or dream. Plan and goal setting will be an effective tool for you to manage your resources towards your ultimate goal. To achieve accelerated success, you need to ensure that productivity and speed are the end results.


III) Technique/ know how

a. Leverage
No one has all the abilities, talents and competence in every aspect. No one is perfect either. As such, to accelerate success we need to use the strengths from every team member to function as a body. The body should be controlled by one brain to organise, co-ordinate and execute each plan accordingly to reap its best performance. Using the concept of leverage, we not only achieve more, but also achieve it  much faster. A very good illustration is comparing the pipeline builder and the bucket carrier. The pipeline builder only carries out the task once, but enjoy the fruit for a much longer period than the latter who has water only after the return trip from the well. You see the difference now.

b. Learning from the real experts
Learn to follow and benchmark successful people. You need to constantly observe and study from those who has made it. Through closely monitoring, you will also not only monitor your progress, but also raise your standards as you progress. You will benefit in two ways, - i) you will avoid disappointment over unrealistic targets, and ii) you will raise your standard to propel yourself in a better position. No doubt, you can't use  similar ways to achieve any breakthrough results, however you will have an unshakeable foundation to grow further. With such insight, you will give yourself a much better chance to reap more outstanding results.

c. Good relationship
By now, you should able to see that to stay well connected with others, you need to establish good relationship with others. To become successful, you need to be skillful in convincing and persuading other people to take your desired action on your behalf as a team. You need to gain self respect from others so as to ensure you are trusted and likeable person. Your daily action must be reflected consistently to what you preach. It is vitally important so that they are fully convicted and convinced.

d. Practise, practise and practise
Nothing can beat procrastination in causing failure. You must be fully aware that everything has to be just right or even perfect before one can begin the fundamental concept. Procrastination creates  a false belief that it can save one from failure. The truth is that it will guarantee failure. As such, practise, practise and practise is the answer. Through practise, you can perfect any skill or trade. It is interesting to note that parallel progress allows you to accomplish more things faster, rather than simply completing each task separately with chronological steps. As such, you need to go for parallel progress if you want to accelerate success.

I hope I have given you an insight of those key principles that can assist you to expedite your success. I am throwing the ball to your court and now it is up to you whether to accept the necessary changes. It is not too late to change and I am more than happy to work hand in hand with you to accomplish our mutual objectives. To me, each of us has his own strength and to accelerate our goals, we need to use our individual's strength to complement our individual's weakness so that we can achieve more.

As usual, please forward your ideas, experience, wisdom and thought through comments so as we can continue to learn from each other. Thank you in advance for your kind participation.

Thank you for your precious time and wish you success.

Get ready for an exciting life.


James Oh

THINK POSITIVE : SIMPLE AND EFFECTIVE 13

Hi! everyone,

Glad to see you again.



This is always nice to finding positive out of every negative thing, which we don't always manage to do. 
 

I am thankful...


13. For the alarm that goes off in the early morning hours because it means that I am still alive.


HAVE A NICE DAY !!!

Think Positive!!
Live happily,


James Oh

FIVE KEY WAYS TO IMPROVE YOUR LISTENING SKILLS

Hi! everyone,

Good listening is not only an essential ingredient of effective communication, but it also helps us to stay well connected  with others. Most of us aren't good listeners; however, listening is a skill that everyone can master,  if we choose to do so. You may find some of the tips below useful:-

1. Make it your mission to understand
To achieve anything successfully, you need to have a mission. Similarly in the mastery of the listening skill, a mission is required. We must always seek first to understand the speaker, what he intends to tell you, what is his intention. To be  a good listener, you have to listen attentively after you have acknowledged what he had said.

2. Acknowledge everything the speaker says
Acknowledging everything that the speaker says is totally in contrast to ignoring or disregarding the speaker. You need to respond positively by validating what he says. This will encourage him to tell you more since you show interest in listening to his story. You may acknowledge him through verbal and non-verbal response such as nodding your head, maintaining eye contact or other expression you deem fit. Counter response is important as it shows two ways of communication instead of one way.  To be effective, you must respond similarly to the speaker's action. If he whispers to you, whisper back to him. Flow with him is the answer.

3. Avoid interrupting.
I hate to say this - You cannot do both talking and listening simultaneously. You may do it directly or indirectly. Indirect way happens when you assume what the speakers are going to say before they say it, you  not only annoy them, but you will also miss the real message. Ask questions if you have doubts and try to see the other person's point-of-view. If you are unsure of the meaning ask for clarification and then if you are still not sure repeat it back to them, for instance, "So, what are you saying is, you don't like this article because this topic is not your cup of tea and it has nothing to do with its author, is that correct?"

4. Agree with everything you are told
Please don't get me wrong to mean that you have to agree exactly what they say. For the above example, you know the reason why he dislike this article. It is nothing wrong for you to agree with him if this article is also not your cup of tea. You are looking from his perspective, and not your perspective. Do you see the difference? Here, you are agreeing with the reason he told you. Can you see how the art of true listening operates.

5. Be patient
Especially when you don't understand what they say. Never get upset because it won't solve any issues but will only create more. Ask politely after the speaker has finished speaking what they wanted to say.

I trust the above is helpful to you. Please feel free to add in any other tips which you think is helpful. Thank you in advance for your kind participation. By now, you may able to see that to live happily, you need to stay well connected with others. Therefore, good listening skill is crucial in establishing good relationship.

James Oh

THINK POSITIVE : SIMPLE AND EFFECTIVE 12

Hi! everyone,


The best thing to do is to find positive out of every negative. 
 

I am thankful...

12. For weariness and aching muscles at the end of the day because it means I have been capable of working hard.  


Good sign and press on.



James Oh

HAPPY NEW YEAR 2010

DEAREST FRIEND,

WISHING YOU AND YOUR FAMILY

HAPPY NEW YEAR !!!

WITH ABUNDANT GOD BLESSING OF

GOOD HEALTH, JOY & WEALTH.

WARMEST REGARDS,

James Oh

LIVE HAPPILY IS THE SMART WAY

Hi, everyone,

Life is a choice. You either choose to be happy or unhappy. The choice is yours. You are the deciding factor, and not others . Why I say so? This is because to live happily, you need to look at  life from the right perspective. The secret of happiness does not lies ahead, but lies inside you.

Some may think that money will bring us happiness. Unfortunately, this is not the case and it is a common misconception. It depends very much  on its beholders. Why I say so? No doubt, money can buy lots of things. However, it cannot buy things such as peace, sleep, health and happiness. Sometimes, it brings more harm especially when you see siblings fighting for inheritance in the presence of their elderly parents who are in serious illness.

Accept people as they are and it will make you happy because we cannot deny the truth that everyone is unique and is distinct from others. You can't find two persons that are identical, even if they are twins.

Do not try be smart by exerting unnecessary force to lead others to behave the way you want. You may think it will make you happy. That is an illusion. Simply because those who behave in that manner may be trying to obtain your favours when you are of use to them. Once, he has such power, he will then treat you the same manner as you have trained him. Can you see that this way will not lead  to happiness in the long run? Instead it will lead you to a rat race situation which is stressful and creates more harm to you, if left unchecked.

Accepting differences in individual not only enhance our understanding and tolerance level of human relationship, but also assist us to master the skill. Hence, it  not only makes us wiser, but also turn us to be a more easily approachable person. You will find the key of being happy is to mix well with people, rather than indulge with unhealthy activities by comparing and competing.

In short, money does help, so does power that come from social status, however they are not permanent in nature. This is because there is always someone else  wealthier than you or have higher authority than you and  whose wants may be different form yours. The truth will then prevail, which will not make you happy.

However, this is not the case when you have  good and sincere relationship with people around you that makes you happy. This sort of relationship is more permanent in nature. Life is a relationship with others. It is through caring and sharing that true happiness is created. Sometimes you act as a giver of happiness to those who are in despair. And at other times you act as a receiver of happiness from others who sow upon you.

Relationship will help mould and sharpen your understanding in life. This social network will not only give you a more healthier environment to flourish your life, but also bring happiness to you. Health is also wealth.

I hope that this article paints you a right perspective for happy living  Let this smart way lead your life and you will live in a truly wealthy manner.

Thanks for your precious time and wish you every success,

James Oh

THINK POSITIVE : SIMPLE AND EFFECTIVE 11

Happy day! everyone,


This is nice - finding positive out of every negative - which we don't always manage to do.


I am thankful...

11. For the pile of laundry and ironing because it means I have
clothes to wear.

Please let us know if you find something positive out of any negative incident. We can always pool our minds together to work it out.

Thanks and stay tuned for more good news ahead.

James Oh

Merry Christmas and Happy New Year 2010

Hi! everyone,


May you and your family have a

Joyful Christmas, a fruitful New Year

And

wishing you all a Blessed Christmas.
 Hope the New Year will bring peace, health and success

to everyone…..

                                                                                                      

&        

 HAPPY   NEW   YEAR 2010 !!

                                                                                                                                                                                          

  

  

                    

           

 See you again,

James Oh

SIX KEY WAYS SELF DEFEATING BEHAVIORS THAT CAUSE FAILURE

Hi everyone,


Most people have a misconception that our rivals are our greatest enemies. In actual fact, we are our own greatest enemy. It is more often that our self-sabotaging behavior prevents us from achieving success. I cannot find any better phrases than that described by Jan Christian Smuts, a prime minister of South Africa,  "A man is not defeated by his opponents but by himself." Therefore, it is more important to learn how to overcome ourselves than overcome our rivals.


In this article, I am going to take you through these 6 key self -sabotaging behaviors that most of time cause failure.


1. EXPECTING FAILURE


If you are expecting failure then sooner or later you will get what you expect. This is because your subconscious mind will transmit to your subconscious mind and commands your conscious mind that you are going to fail. Expecting failure and preparing for failure are two different things. The latter is inclined to accept any outcome after all his hard work and preparation which he believes he has done his best whereas the former does not have any confidence and truly believe that he will not succeed whether he tries or not.


2. PROCRASTINATION


It is one of the major causes of failure. Life means risk. These people do not give themselves any chance, but keep waiting for opportunities even though they will  miss these opportunities most of times. They always wait for the right time and that "right" time never comes. As such, if you want to reach your potential, you have to take chances. We must be aware that there are more ways to be successful that do not involve any physical or violent exploitation than the past.


3. LETTING FAILURE DEFEAT THEM


Failure is the root of success. Everybody experiences losses. However, the successful person will not allow himself to be stopped by these failures. Therefore, we must prepare ourselves for failure. What is more important is not failure, but bouncing back from it when it occurs. This is the difference with people who have positive attitude, they will get up and keep on trying.




4. NO SPECIFIC PURPOSE


In life, you can not hope to succeed in anything if you do not have a specific purpose. If you are caught in this scenario, you will then jump from one activity to another with no success. Therefore, it is no surprise that statistics shows more than 90% of people think and act in this manner, and that is the major reason that caused them to fail.


5. LACK OF KNOW HOW


Most of the successful people are either "self educated" or "self made" jndividuals, who know precisely how to make use of  applied knowledge coupled with his plan of action to achieve  success. Here, we must know how to differentiate between tactics knowledge and applied knowledge. It is equally important to know that knowing is one thing and doing is totally different altogether


6. LACK OF FOCUS


This is a typical mistake by putting their energy and efforts on multiple causes rather than concentrating on one particular cause. Thereafter, they realize that they are not able to accomplish or not succeed any of them. Therefore, they quit.


Be honest and deal with it appropriately. The success will be yours. Try it out and share with us your personal experience. Thank you in advance for your kind participation.







James Oh

THINK POSITIVE : SIMPLE AND EFFECTIVE 10

Hi! everyone,
This is another good example, you can find positive out of negative circumstance which we don't always manage to do.

I am thankful...

10. For the noise I have to bear from my neighbours because it means that I can hear.

If you can tolerance and bear with that noise, it indicate well that you are stay in control of your emotion. Congratulation to you because you have achieved some success.

James Oh

Best Blog Award

Hi, everyone,

I have a good news for you.

I am very pleased to inform you that the above lovely award is given by my lovely friend, Sashindoubutsu. Her blog Snapping Panda is one of my favorites. She has explained why she gave me such an award and I am deeply touched by her thought and action.

As the rule goes, the recipient should pass the award to 15 others who deserve it. After serious consideration, I decided to pass this Best blog award to all of you who share your thoughts with me. I love to hear your feedback, which sharpen my thoughts and I learn more and more from you here, because you teach me. I have also always loved different opinions and thoughts. To me, you all are the most interesting persons in my life.

I hope that you will continue to give me your feedback and we can always stay connected forever.

With love,

James Oh

CHANGE

Hi! everyone,

Change is the natural phenomenon and it is the truth. One good news is that we are designed to adapt to daily changes due to aging, climate, environment whether you like it or not. We are not exempted from changes because our body is changing every minute. We are naturally designed to respond automatically to all these changes. As such, we should have the courage to celebrate this truth rather than resist change. 

It is a big lie if anyone claims that he resists changes. Why I dare to say so? Simply because whoever truly resist  change must be willing to restore to his initial position. You can not have both. Everything changes through time. It comes with package of pros and cons. We can't running a car with petrol at the same time not polluting the air. You can't be selective and keep the changes that bring good to you and refuse to accept those bad changes that come along with it -  that is the truth. In short, sometime you gain, sometime you learn.

As such, if you prepare and accept this truth, you are already set free and not living as the slave of limited beliefs. In reality, these limited beliefs have been ingrained in the system and have a strong influence on us causing us to be deceived. This illusion was planted so that we continuously believe it to be the truth without realising it. Consequently, we create a false "comfort zone" . Once this comfort zone disappears,  we will face reality as we have seen in the recent financial crisis in America.

Therefore, it is vitally important to accept this truth that changes are inevitable and good. It makes life more colourful and more meaningful. We have to realize that there is no progress without change.

Once you understand this truth, you will agree with me that it is true to say that people resist change. To illustrate my point further, may I allowed to ask you the following questions:-

a. Does any adult wants to keep his child born brain intact throughout his whole life ?

b. Does any adult wants to crawl with their hands and legs instead of walking with their legs?

c. Are you happy to reclaim your hunter role in the jungle that humans initially began with?

d. Are you happy to return to live in the jungle as humans began with?

If all these answers are in the resounding No. Then, it proves the points we all are agree unanimously that we are in favour of changes. Then what make you to argue that people refused changes? truly inconsistent with our findings. 

In this article I am going to explore why such a lie is planted into our belief system:-

1. For those who argue that people resist change because they are afraid of their personal loss. In reality, you gain some, you loss some. For those who can't see the whole picture clearly wanted to keep themselves status quo. They are unrealistic and do not have the courage to accept the truth. As a result, they have created unnecessary stress or pressure on themselves to suppress this  truth. Be wise, do not fight against the wave, but ride the wave of change that gives you new hope.

2. Because they are afraid of losing "false" control over their dominion. They forget that whatever their greatest strength is also their greatest weakness. The higher the suppression, the higher the rebellion will be. It is very sad that they refused to accept that the false control are in a way exposing them to higher risks. If it is left unchecked, it may drive them insane. Very good example is the Emperor Qin Shi Huang.

3. To argue that people feel awkward to change does not hold water. We are exposed to the truth that we are designed for changes. We begin with crawling, walking and running. It is a law of nature, how can we argue otherwise.

4. It is never up to us to say " Timing is not right for change" if we are not prepared for change. Are we ready for climate change? Is the timing ever right for the climate change? It illustrates the point that it is also another big lie if we say that timing is not right for change.

5. To argue that tradition is against change is not appropriate because tradition also evolves over time. Very good example is that wearing coat and tie is an universally accepted formal dress today regardless whether in the west or east. It is very clear that this does not hold water anymore.

By now, you should able to see clearly that people who tend to choose what to keep intact and what to change  actually look from their own perspectives and not from the truth sense. However, the truth is that  truth will  be ultimately revealed. I like to let the song "the wind of change"  sum up our discussion on changes. 

James Oh

HOW TO ACQUIRE SPEEDY READING SKILL

Hi! everyone,

Nice to see you again.

In today's information society, we need to read and digest information  daily as information can change by the minute. However, most of us do not have the luxury of time to read whatever information that come to our hands. Therefore, as we are pressed for time, speed reading is no longer a luxury, but a necessity. Equally essential is that readers must be able to grasp and fully understand the message that come out from the reading materials.

To expedite the process of retaining information, we may need to use some of the tips listed below:-

1. Stay focus on what you need

You don't need to read every word from the piece of information you have. Stay focus on what you need, skipping process may be useful here. Take an bird's eye view at the table of contents. Look at the specific topics that can provide you with the specific information you need. Alternatively, you can make a quick assessment on how you can relate it with the specific topic you have in  mind. If the information is not relevant and currently not required, then drop it. 

2. Retain peace of mind

Stay cool and try not to be in a stressful state, it would not help you, but  will make it more difficult to concentrate in reading that material. As such, the information will not sink into your mind and heart.

Retaining peace is a skill and you need to master the skill to empower your concentration power, just like the dried sponge merge into water.

3. Repetition is the key of mastering

To master any skill of trade, you need to keep on repeating the process. Same as in speed reading. Setting a goal and consistently raising your bar  to the best you can cope with will keep you out of disappointment. Don't set unrealistic targets. No doubt, this takes time and practice, but it is worth your effort. Raise the bar as you progress and after you have gained confidence.

4. Sustaining your progress

Reaching the top is very much easier than staying on top. The same analogy can be drawn between making decision and managing decision. Once the decision is made, monitoring and managing that decision is more crucial to lead us to success. That's why you see lots of good and sound decisions fail to bear fruit.

5. Have faith in it

In life, you will get what you expect. As such, it is important for you to understand that you can't obtain something you do not believe in. So, you must have the right perspective and keep on moving towards your goals. No doubt, you will face with some challenges along the way, which will mould and shape you accordingly, before you can move to the next level of success. The higher the level of success you have, the stronger the strength you need to sustain it. This is the law of nature which has been proven in mankind's history.

I hope you find the above tips useful and beneficial. I am sure you may have other useful tips which I may not know about. In this regard, I appeal to you to forward it either through comments, or email to me at jamesoh2003@yahoo.co.uk. I look forward to hearing from you,

Thank you for your precious time and wish you success,

James Oh

THINK POSITIVE : SIMPLE AND EFFECTIVE 9

Hi! everyone,


Let this positive sink into our minds and hearts:-

I am thankful...

9. For the parking spot I find at the far end of the parking lot because it means I am capable of walking and that I have been blessed with transportation.



and it is also a blessing that I am able to see thing in this light.


James Oh

HOW TO PROFIT FROM FAILURE

Hi! everyone,


Failure  is a relatively and loosely used term without a precise meaning. Why I say so? This is because in reality, every thing is not stationary at any particular point permanently. Therefore, what we see is at a particular point of time during our journey.

If we are not careful, we may let this powerful negative vocabulary manipulate our mind to believe that we have truly failed and that may lead us to give up.

Therefore, we need to stay in control and conquer failure. In short, how can we profit from failure?

1. Accept the true fact
Doing is the first step towards failure. The truth is that doing does not guarantee success. However not doing anything definitely means no success. How to ensure success? My answer is keep on doing and doing it better the next time. Then the success will be yours. Simple, right?

On the other hand, laziness is the companion of failure. Often, people give up or are lazy to try harder to find a better solution than what was done. It is insane to expect something different when we continue doing something in the same manner. Here, I love to make a comparison between carrying water bucket and building a pipeline. For the former, he is working successfully because he has water daily after his return trip from the well.

Whereas the pipeline builder may appear to be not working, from the planning stage, preparation work till completion of the pipeline from the bystander's point, who does not have any clue as how the pipeline looks like. The builder can not claim success until water really flows from his pipeline.

2. Prepare to pay for the price
The bigger the success the higher the risk. It is more likely proportionate to the rate of its gravity. Anyone who desire to achieve something significant had to overcome the odds. For successful person, what they really care is the success itself, and not the odds. Always remember that if you don't succeed, then you should realize that you are running on average speed. So, what is important is that you have to accelerate your speed.

3. Let failure shape you
Failure is the root of success. So, do not feel hurt when you failed. What you should do is to let  failure lead you to success. From failure, you will know that this is not the right way. you should eliminate it and try other ways until your plan really works. Here, you can only profit by adjusting or altering your approach until you achieve your destination.

Alternatively, you may stick to the cause and find different products which suit other communities. As society grows more diverse, it is also right to say that the chances of achieving  success is even higher.

4. Never quit
Quitting is the easiest way to ensure failure. Otherwise, failure does not mean that you will not succeed. It simply means that you will take longer time to succeed. For further illustration of the above example, so long as you have not seen water flowing out from the pipeline, you have not achieve success despite the fact that you are on the way to claim the success.

5. Have the right perspective
Success is a journey, rather than a destination. So is failure. No one, no matter how successful he is, is exempted from failure. As such, it is a daily process, and not a one time event. In reality, it reflects how you deal with life along the way. True, everyone makes mistakes, but it is too early to conclude that you are a failure until you breathe your last breath. Truth will prevail in time. So long as you are still in the process, there is still time for you to turn events around. To have the right perspective, always remember that it is not the end yet.  Do not submit to it and never give up and permanently rest in the house of failure.

Give the tips a serious thought and please share through comments or email me at jamesoh2003@yahoo your experience as how you overcome it. I  love to learn from you and look forward to hearing from you.

Thanks for your precious time and wish you success,

James Oh

THINK POSITIVE : SIMPLE AND EFFECTIVE 8

Hi! everyone,


This time I am thankful...

8. For all the complaining I hear about the government because it means that we have freedom of speech. 

Give it a serious thought. It still apply to those countries with both OSA and ISA. But the freedom is a very limited one.


But it does not mean that you are not doing anything about it.






James Oh

HOW TO HAVE BREAKTHROUGH HEALTH RESULTS

Hi! everyone,

In this article,  I am going to discuss how to have breakthrough results. This  automatically triggers our minds that we need to make drastic changes to produce it. That is not wrong at all.  Why I say so? It is a lengthy process that not only requires a strong and unlimited mindset, but also a winning formula to deliver that remarkable result. Most of the past proven cases illustrate well this precarious point when you have to act against conventional wisdom. A very good illustration is when people at one time believe that the earth is flat. It needed very strong courage and determination to prove otherwise. However, conventional wisdom is equally important for a strong foundation. That foundation cannot be ignored at all.

1. PICTURE THE BREAKTHROUGH RESULTS

To achieve anything, you must be able to visualise your breakthrough results in your mind first. Iit is crucial to begin with a vision and then use the ends to justify your means. For instance, if you want to fly, you must able to see how to fly and let the vision stick in your mind and heart. Then you will make use of the available means to make the end. Throughout the history of new inventions, we learned that the inventors always use means to facilitate their end. No doubt, the end may become clearer and clearer during the processes. In the flying example, the inventor learned that birds need wings to fly. That's how the aircraft was made. Over the years, they persistently improve with additional features to make the aircraft fly at higher altitude and faster speed. 

An interesting point to note is that every creation must begin from our mind first. Similarly, to achieve breakthrough results, you need to know your goal and picture the end in your mind. In this regard, you need mental and spiritual qualities to overcome the physical defects.

2. BUILD UP APPROPRIATE AND EFFECTIVE APPROACH

To achieve the end result, an appropriate and effective approach is needed to carry out our task. Through your observations and testings, you are able to incorporate the changes, approaches, plans and actions so as to give you your desired results. Through elimination of the wrong paths, you will finally find the correct path leading to breakthrough results. Deep understanding of the means, system and approach are still relevant and equally important because you still need all these existing means to achieve breakthrough results. By now, you should able to see clearly how your approach need to be modified for desired results.

3. CREATIVE THINKING

You also need to think creatively to find new solution. Here, you need to  think out of the box to deliver that result. You need to use your whole brain - i.e the logical and the creative parts to work out the plan and action to generate breakthrough results. Therefore, creative thinking demands more than imagination that will plough through logic to seek for new means. In short, you need to stretch your mind to the maximum and play within the stipulated boundaries, instead of  working within the box, which can only produce small incremental improvement.

Hence, creative thinking is really required to explore new ideas that could likely produce results. Needless to say that you can't repeat the same thing to produce different results. Innovative or modified solutions should be used. Change is the answer.

4. APPROPRIATE ACTION

Vision alone is not sufficient. You need to put into action, your brillianct vision and integrate them well with the ultimate objective. Decisons and actions may not guarantee such breakthrough result.  You need to stay focused on your ultimate goals, review the mistakes, learn from them and adjust the plan and your next act accordingly, until that remarkable result is achieved.  You need a skill that will help you  manage in a manner that, constantly produce the best possible results. It is crucial to note that adequate and rightful thinking will produce such results. Open mindset will help you  review the feedback objectively and adjust your plan when you have thought more deeply or when things become clearer.

5. POWERFUL AND DYNAMIC MINDSET

Our mindset mould us to have a fixed way of looking at things. So, to have  breakthrough results, we need a powerful and dynamic mindset , which has unlimited beliefs. Our mindsets can range from a judgment to a strongly held opinion all the way to a bias or a prejudice.  It is not suffice for us to learn or adopt a new mindset for the future, but we need to substitute those limiting ones and grow further.

6. RECHARGE YOURSELF

To stay alert and active, you need time to have adequate and proper rest for your body, mind and soul. This is a skill, rather than an act. To reap maximum benefits, we need to acquire and master this skill. Do not confuse it with idling or inaction. A real relaxation will give us a refreshing feeling. To enhance our understanding, you may draw the same analogy with the performance of batteries after being recharged. This is crucial because your goal need to stay  afresh in your mind while you are persistently working towards your end.

7. LEVERAGE

You can't do it alone. You need a system which can empower you to do far more than your own capability. We need to stay connected with others so that we can function as a united force to carry out that specific task. Human beings need connection with others. We especially need people for psychological and emotional support. Other scientific research has accumulated overwhelming evidence that having strong, supportive relationships is good for our mental and physical health.

Trust the above tips are helpful to you to build your path to healthy living. Remember that health, wellness and beauty are integrated issues and not separated as commonly believes.

Wishing you  success,

James Oh

THINK POSITIVE : SIMPLE AND EFFECTIVE 7

 Hi! everyone,


As usual, this is always nice  to find positive out of every negative - which we don't always manage to do. 
 

I am thankful...


7. For a floor that needs mopping, and windows that need cleaning because it means I have a home.

I hope this will serve to remind us to cultivate such healthy habit, which is good for us.


James Oh

A GOOD ONE INDEED!

Hi ! everyone,

Lately I received the mail below from my friends and I find it very interesting. As such, I like to share it with you and perhaps it can give you another perspective. Please read it and give it a serious thought and appreciate if you could share your thoughts. Thank you in advance for your kind participation.  

A GOOD ONE INDEED!

...appreciate what you have, keep it simple. Chasing dreams often end going in circles.

Interesting perspective…

"Life" explained by an MBA graduate

A boat docked in a tiny Mexican fishing village.
A tourist complimented the local fishermen on the quality of their fish and asked
how long it took him to catch them.

"Not very long." they answered in unison.
"Why didn't you stay out longer and catch more?"
The fishermen explained that their small catches were sufficient to meet their needs and those of their families.

"But what do you do with the rest of your time?"

"We sleep late, fish a little, play with our children,
and take siestas with our wives.
In the evenings, we go into the village to see our friends,
have a few drinks, play the guitar, and sing a few songs.
We have a full life."

The tourist interrupted,
"I have an MBA from Harvard and I can help you!
You should start by fishing longer every day.
You can then sell the extra fish you catch.
With the extra revenue, you can buy a bigger boat."

"And after that?"

asked the fisherman.

"With the extra money the larger boat will bring,
you can buy a second one and a third one
and so on until you have an entire fleet of trawlers..
Instead of selling your fish to a middle man,
you can then negotiate directly with the processing plants
and maybe even open your own plant.

You can then leave this little village and move to Mexico City,
Los Angeles, or even New York City!

From there you can direct your huge new enterprise."


"How long would that take?" asked the fisherman.

"Twenty, perhaps twenty-five years." replied the tourist.

"And after that?" asked the fisherman.

The tourist answered
" Afterward? Well my friend, that's when it gets really interesting, "
answered the tourist, laughing. "When your business gets really BIG,
you can start buying and selling stocks and make Millions of DOLLARS!"

"Millions? Really? And after that?"

asked the fisherman.


"After that you'll be able to retire,
live in a tiny village near the coast,
sleep late, play with your children,
catch a few fish, take a siesta with your wife
and spend your evenings drinking and enjoying with your friends."

"That’s what I am doing now!!”

Replied the fisherman

The moral of this story is:
Know where you're going in life....
you may already be there!!

Wake up. Do not chase after your shadow. Vanity is the answer.

James Oh