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Dear sir/madam,

We are all fully aware that the world is facing a huge financial crisis now. It started from the US and outbreak to almost every part of the world. Many people get laid off. Many business from the SMEs to the global business are struggling for surviving. These bad news is just begun and we expect to see the real things this year.

We, at this blog, would like to invite you to visit this blog more frequently so as to assist you in every area or at least to make you feel relieve and positive enough to fight for tomorrow. Under the situation that nothing much you can do, moving things around will help you in many ways. So, we are convinced that to strengthen your mind and soul is the way/solution to make you stronger to overcome this challenges. By doing so, you will be lifted up at all times. You may need to use the formula of 90/10 and response to it and not react to it.


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regards,

FEARS

FEAR is something that can make you feel unpleasant, be it REAL or PERCEIVED.

FEAR is good and also bad to individual. You must fully understand it, deal with it and overcome it, so that you can use it for your good.

Fear may empower you from doing something that may be harmful to you, such as smoking or drinking. We called the healthy fear.

Similarly, it may dis-empowering you from doing something good for you, such as public speaking. We termed it as unhealthy fear.

Now, you can see that FEAR itself neither absolutely good nor absolutely bad to you. It is very much depend on how the individual deal and make use of it. Here, it is absolute right to say that it serves as two-edge sword.

It can either motivate you to achieve something your desired goal provided you use it correctly and for your advantage. Conversely, it may act as barrier stopping you from progressing towards your goal. Therefore, you must know precisely how to use it for your benefit.

There is not an absolute good or absolute bad and very much depend on the individual as how you manage with it. We are talking something relatively good or bad. It does not mean anything to you if really understand the true meaning of it.

It will bring benefit to you if you use it wisely. Similarly, it may bring disaster to you if you use it unwisely.

Therefore, it must be truly understood and assessed it correctly. No matter what you, most often than not, deal with it. You must always in control of it and do not let it control you. Saying is easy and doing is totally different, if you truly understand what I mean.

To deal and overcome it, you must be able to direct and redirect your mind / perception and stay control of yourself, focus on the right solution rather problem so that it can assist you to overcome it.

In this case, it is a good practice that you always focus on your goal rather than problem. Always stay focus on your pre-set objective/goal and never let your focus swing to other non pertinent issue such as the environment, or the audience or anything other than your objective/goal.

Always remember that our Lord has set you free and you can do everything through Him, who strengthen you. Philippians 4:13.

Trust the above explanation have convinced you now and we can see you online again.

FRIEND IS A GIFT

A friend is somebody
Who knows you and likes you
Exactly the way that you are...

Someone who's special
And so close in thought
That no distance can ever seem far.

A friend understands you without any words,
Stands by you when nothing goes right.

And willingly talks over problems with you
Till they somehow just vanish from sight.

And whether you're neighbors
or live miles apart,
A word from a friend gives a lift!

To your heart and spirit
that shows you once more
Why friendship is life's dearest gift!

I asked God

I asked God to take away my pain.
God said, No
- It is not for me to take away,
but for you to give it up.

I asked God to make my handicapped child whole.
God said, No
- Her spirit was whole,
her body was only temporary.

I asked God to grant me patience.
God said, No
- Patience is a by-product of tribulations;
it isn't granted, it is earned.

I asked God to give me happiness.
God said, No
- I give you blessings.
Happiness is up to you.

I asked God to spare me pain.
God said, No
- Suffering draws you apart from worldly cares
and brings you closer to me.

I asked God to make my spirit grow.
God said, No
- You must grow on your own,
but I will prune you to make you fruitful.

I asked for all things that I might enjoy life.
God said, No
- I will give you life
so that you may enjoy all things.

I ask God to help me LOVE others,
as much as he loves me.
God said...
Ahhhh, finally you have the idea.

YOU MAY NOT LIKE TO LISTEN,
BUT GOD SAYS NO
FOR YOUR BENEFIT
HE SHOWS THAT HE CARES FOR YOU
IT IS NO EASY FOR HIM TO SAY NO
BECAUSE HE IS TRULY CARE ABOUT YOU
BY SAYING NO FOR YOUR GOOD

SO TRUST HIM WHOLEHEARTEDLY AND LET HIM REVEAL THE TRUTH TO YOU.
WALK BY FAITH, AND NOT BY SIGHT


JAMES

SLOW DANCE

This is a poem written by a teenager with cancer.

She wants to see how many people get her poem.

It is quite the poem

Please pass it on.

This poem was written by a terminally ill young girl in a New York Hospital.

It was sent by a medical doctor -

Make sure to read what is in the closing statement
AFTER THE POEM.


SLOW DANCE

Have you ever watched kids

On a merry-go-round?

Or listened to the rain

Slapping on the ground?



Ever followed a

butterfly's erratic flight?



Or gazed at the sun into the
fading night?


You better slow down.



Don't dance so fast.

Time is short.



The music won't last.


Do you run through each day

On the fly?


When you ask How are you?


Do you hear the reply?

When the day is done

Do you lie in your bed



With the next hundred chores


Running through your head?

You'd better slow down

Don't dance so fast.



Time is short.



The music won't last.



Ever told your child,



We'll do it tomorrow?



And in your haste,



Not see his sorrow?


Ever lost touch,



Let a good friendship die

Cause you never had time

To call and say,'Hi'



You'd better slow down.



Don't dance so fast.



Time is short.



The music won't last.



When you run so fast to get somewhere



You miss half the fun of getting there.



When you worry and hurry through your day,



It is like an unopened gift.....



Thrown away.



Life is not a race.


Do take it slower



Hear the music



Before the song is over.



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COUNT.



Dear All:
PLEASE pass this mail on to everyone you know -
even to those you don't know! It is the request of a special girl who will soon
leave this world due to cancer.



This young girl has 6 months left to live, and as her dying wish, she wanted to send a letter telling everyone to live their life to the fullest, since she never will.




She'll never make it to prom, graduate from high school,
or get married and have a family of her own.



By you sending this to as many people as possible, you can give her and her family a
little hope, because with every name that this is sent to, The American
Cancer Society will donate 3 cents per name to her treatment and recovery
plan. One guy sent this to 500 people! So I know that we can at least send
it to 5 or 6. It's not even your money, just your time!



PLEASE PASS ON AS A LAST REQUEST.



Dr.

Dennis Shields, Professor
Department of Developmental and
Molecular
Biology
1300
Morris Park
Avenue
Bronx , New York
10461

Every explanation or statement is never absolute right or absolute wrong. Therefore it is always subject to argument. The truth will never be surfaced and it is usually be subject to interpretation of the individual.

Whoever is wise and fear of God, will interpret accordingly based on his individual honest belief, without being tainted or influenced or suppressed by any other authority higher than him.

Hence, whether you say or don’t does not make any difference. It is because your statement, gesture, tone or behavior will suggest or reflect your true answer. For instance, if you provide an answer, the answer will raise more questions if the circumstances evidence or events may suggest otherwise. The answer may not be consistent or tally or reconcile or make sense to the event or hearers.

Under such situation, the speaker may either fool around the listeners/audiences or alternatively he foolish himself. Of course, the speaker may not agree with it, but he can’t lie to himself or God.

The great or wise man will be able to see the invisible. Let us pray hard and let God reveals the truth to us. Have faith in Him ; walk by faith and not by sight. His grace and blessings will make us have peace, joy, happiness and all blessings. You shall able to walk straight with Him, so long as you allow Him to guide you along.

NOTHING IS IMPOSSIBLE OR CAN'T

Jessica has an American father and a Filipina mother.



Oxford and Cambridge should now remove the words CAN'T and IMPOSSIBLE from their dictionary


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Jessica Cox, 25, a girl born without arms, stands inside an aircraft. The girl from Tucson, Arizona got the Sport Pilot certificate lately and became the first pilot licensed to fly using only her feet.

Jessica Cox of Tucson was born without arms, but that has only stopped her from doing one thing: using the word "can't."

Her latest flight into the seemingly impossible is becoming the first pilot licensed to fly using only her feet.

With one foot manning the controls and the other delicately guiding the steering column, Cox, 25, soared to achieve a Sport Pilot certificate. Her certificate qualifies her to fly a light-sport aircraft to altitudes of 10,000 feet.

"She's a good pilot. She's rock solid," said Parrish Traweek, 42, the flying instructor at San Manuel's Ray Blair Airport.


Parrish Traweek runs PC Aircraft Maintenance and Flight Services and has trained many pilots, some of whom didn't come close to Cox's abilities.


"When she came up here driving a car," Traweek recalled, "I knew she'd have no problem flying a plane."


Doctors never learned why she was born without arms, but she figured out early on that she didn't want to use prosthetic devices.

Jessica Cox, 25, earned a license to fly airplanes on October 10, 2008. Jessica also has two black belts in Tae Kwan-Do, a college degree in Psychology, and a thriving career as a motivational speaker. What doesn't Jessica Cox have? Arms.A bilateral congenital limb deficiency doesn't stop Ms. Cox from achieving and surpassing her goals. From birth on, her feet became her hands. She can drive a car, type 25 words per minute, and fly an airplane using her feet, without any special adaptations. She is the first woman without arms to earn a license to fly.

"I highly encourage people with disabilities to consider flying," Cox said. "It helps reverse the stereotype that people with disabilities are powerless into the belief that they are powerful and capable of setting high goals and achieving them."

Jessica earned her Sport Pilot certificate after training with Able Flight, a North Carolina flight training company that specializes in helping people with disabilities learn to fly. Ms. Cox won an Able Flight scholarship and was able to train with instructor Parrish Traweek free of charge.

I am very inspire by the above real story, so do you.

God bless and have a wonderful day,

James

HAVE FAITH

Have Faith, My Friend

Whenever there's a problem,
Wherever there's despair
Just bow your head in prayer and know
That God will always be there.

When things look bleak and dreary,
When it seems that no one cares,
Have faith, my friend, in our Lord
And he will answer all your prayers.

I know sometimes it's hard,
Things don't seem to work out right,
But it truly is quite pointless
To kick or scream or fight.

When you really need an answer,
On HIM you can depend.
Only FAITH can move a mountain -
So, have FAITH in God, my friend!

價值

最有價值的事物不是眼睛能夠看到的事物

最價有值的事物不是眼睛能夠看到的事物.....

在從紐約到波士頓的火車上，我發現我隔壁座的老先生是位盲人。
我的博士論 文指導 教授是位盲人，因此我和盲人談起話來，一點困難也沒有，
我還弄了一杯熱騰騰的咖啡給他喝。
當時正值洛杉磯種族暴動的時期，我們的談話因此就談到了種族偏見的問題。

老先生告訴我，他是美國南方人，從小就認為黑人低人一等，他家的佣人是黑人，
他在南方時從未和黑人一起吃過飯，也從未和黑人上過學。
到了北方念書，他有次被同學指定辦一次野餐會，他居然在請帖上註明
「我們保留拒絕任何人的權利」。
在南方，這句話就是
「我們不歡迎黑人」的意思，當時舉班譁然，他還被系主任抓去罵了一頓。
他說有時碰到黑人店員，付錢的時候，
總將錢放在櫃台上，讓黑人拿去，而不肯和他的手有任何接觸。

我笑著問他：
「那你當然不會和黑人結婚了！」
他大笑起來：
「我不和他們來往，如何會和黑人結婚？
說實話，我當時認為任何白人和黑人結婚都會使父母蒙辱。」

可是，他在波士頓唸研究所的時候，發生了車禍。
雖然大難不死，可是眼睛完全失明，什麼也看不見了。
他進入一家盲人重建院，在那裡學習如何用點字技巧，如何靠手杖走路等等。
慢慢地也終於能夠獨立生活了。

他說：「可是我最苦惱的是，我弄不清楚對方是不是黑人。」
我向我的心理輔導員談我的問題，他也儘量開導我，我非常信賴他，什麼都告訴他，將他看成自己的良師益友。

有一天，那位輔導員告訴我，他本人就是位黑人。
從此以後，我的偏見就慢慢完全消失了，我看不出人是白人，還是黑人。
對我來講，我只知道他是好人，還是壞人，至於膚色，對我已毫無意義了。

車子快到波士頓，老先生說：
「我失去了視力，也失去了偏見，多麼幸福的事！」

在月台上，老先生的太太已在等他，兩人親切地擁抱。
我赫然發現他太太是一位滿頭銀髮的黑人。
我這才發現，我視力良好，因此我偏見猶在，多麼不幸的事！

這讓我想起讀過的小王子...
小王子的狐狸送給小王子的秘密是:
『最有價值的事物不是眼睛能夠看到的事物,你必須要用你的心去感受.』

聽到,看到的,都不能盡信,
用心去感受,去思考.....

…。…。…。…。…。…。…。 …。…。…。…。…。…。

…。…。…。…。…。…。…。 …。…。…。…。…。…。

這是個好故事

等您〝老了〞才明白…

人到老年，會突然 〝醒悟〞：生命是有盡頭的。
這種感悟會使他們行動起來，去做一些他們很想做但以前總也沒有做的事情，有時，他們甚至用他們〝意料不到〞的方式。

人到老年，才真正〝認識自己〞：
也才真正屬於自己，並且用一種寬容、舒適和誠實的方式接受自己。

人到老年，方才〝明白〞：
東奔西走竭力想去改變的不是別的，恰是他們自己。幾十年的時光換來的不是別的，而是〝心靜如水。〞

人到老年，才真正 〝領悟〞到：
什麼叫百川歸海，什麼叫萬物歸一。
人到老年，開始明白，老年自有老年的風景。
青春雖然美麗，但它會隨時間的流逝而褪色，
而青春的〝心境〞才是生命中一道〝不變〞的風景

人到老年，能〝冷靜〞 地去看待婚姻和家庭。
他們知道……
世上沒有〝完全合乎〞男人心意的女人，
也沒有〝完全合乎〞女人心意的男人。

人到老年，〝已懂得安慰自己〞：
並且學會了在似乎無盡的黑暗中…
為自己點〝一盞〞希望的燈。

人到老年，看人看事不像過去那麼簡單。
因此，不必非得按別人的主意行事。

人到老年，開始明白，世事並非黑白分明，在黑白之間往往有〝 一 系! ! ! 列的中間色 〞。

人到老年，開始明白：
人生一世，無論成功與失敗，歡樂與痛苦，盛衰與榮辱，都如自然流水，從哪裡來還將到哪裡去。于是，寧靜致遠。


人到老年，開始明白，〝衰老〞不是從中年開始，而是從對生活的〝厭倦〞開始的。

人到老年，開始明白：孤獨、寂寞、痛苦、失敗，是人生不可缺少的調味品，因此，〝善待〞它們，就是〝善待〞真實的人生。

人到老年，不再有少年的狂妄、青年的浪漫，
更多的則是對生活的 …感悟和理解。

人到老年，不再擁有童年的笑臉和青春的美麗，卻常常在…午夜夢回。

人到老年，能坦然地面對自己的平凡。
他們明白，並非人人都能成功，人人都能大有作為；但做人也是一生的事業，〝只要自己奮鬥過〞、追求過，失敗了又何妨？

人到老年，〝胸懷〞開始變得像〝大海〞一樣，
裝得下…四海風雲，容得下…千古恩怨。

人到老年，可以〝領悟〞到人生最實質、最內在、最主體的內容，可以把美麗的花朵和豐收的果實糅進生命的脈絡，滋養人生 ，豐富人，實現人生。


寫信是快樂的..... 收信是幸福的.....
每一次的寄信..... 代表著每一次緣份的傳遞
掌握當下的緣......

I BELIEVE IN YOU

I BELIEVE IN YOU

WHEN THE WORLD PULLS YOU DOWN
WHEN YOU'RE FEELING LOW
WHEN NOTHING SEEMS RIGHT
I WANT YOU TO KNOW

I BELIEVE IN YOU

I BELIEVE IN YOUR ABILITY
TO TURN THINGS AROUND
TO GET YOURSELF UP
WHEN YOU HIT THE GROUND


I BELIEVE IN YOUR CAPACITY
FOR GIVING AND SHARING
FOR KINDNESS AND GOOD
FOR LOVING AND CARING


I BELIEVE IN YOUR STRENGTH
TO SEE EVERYTHING THROUGH
WITH ALL OF MY HEART
I BELIEVE IN YOU

GOD HAS AMAZING THINGS IN STORE FOR YOU

God Has Amazing Things in Store for You
(This is a powerful prayer)

Stars do not struggle to shine; rivers do not struggle to flow, and you will never struggle to excel in life, because you deserve the best. Hold on to your dreams and it shall be well with you.. Amen.

The eyes beholding this message shall not behold evil, the hand that will send this message to others shall not labor in vain, the mouth saying Amen to this prayer shall laugh forever, and remain in God's love.

Good DAY, your dream will not die, your plans will not fail, your destiny will not be aborted, and the desires of your heart will be granted in Jesus' name. Say a big Amen and if you believe it, SHARE it WITH all your friends. Money will know your name and address before the end of this month. None goes to the river early in the morning and brings dirty water. As you are up this morning, may your life be clean, calm and clear like the early morning water. May the grace of the Almighty support, sustain and supply all your needs according to His riches in glory. Amen.

Love the Lord AND Have a wonderful day in Jesus' name.

The will of God will never take you where the grace of God will not protect you. I see something good happening to you, something that you have been waiting to experience. This is not a joke; you are going to receive a divine visitation that will move your life forward mightily by the outworking of God's unstoppable Power.

Happy Valentine Day

A friend sent an early 'Valentine' to see if it will make it around the world by Feb. 14th.

For God so lo V ed the world,
That He g A ve
his on L y
Begott E n
So N
T hat whosoever
Believeth I n Him
Should N ot perish,
But have E verlasting life.'

John 3:16

Share it around the World

一生中最重要的人

事情發生在美國的一所大學。
在快下課時教授對同學們說?'我和大家做個遊戲，誰願意配合我一下。'
一女生走上台來。
教授說?'請在黑板上寫下你難以割捨的二十個人的名字。'
女生照做了。有她的鄰居、朋友以、親人等等。
教授說 ?'請你劃掉一個這裏面你認為最不重要的人。'
女生劃掉了一個她鄰居的名字。
教授又說?' 請你再劃掉一個。'
女生又劃掉了一個她的同事。
教授再說?'請你再劃掉一個。 '
一生中最重要的人
女生又劃掉了一個。 .....
最後，黑板上只剩下了三個人，她的父母、丈夫和孩子。
教室非常安靜，同學們靜靜的看著教授，感覺這似乎已不再是一個遊戲了。
教授平靜的說 ?'請再劃掉一個。'
女生遲疑著，艱難的做著選擇.....
她舉起粉筆，劃掉了父母的名字。
'請再劃掉一個。' 身邊又傳來了教授的聲音。
她驚呆了，顫巍巍地舉起粉筆緩慢而堅決的又劃掉了兒子的名字。
緊接著，她哇的一聲哭了，樣子非常痛苦。
教授等她平靜了一下，問道?'和你最親的人應該是你的父母和你的孩子，因為父母是養育的人，孩子是你親生的，而丈夫是可以重新再尋找的，為什麼丈夫反倒是你最難割捨的人呢？ '
同學們靜靜地看著她，等待著她的回答。


女生平靜而又緩慢地說道?'隨著時間的推移，父母會先我而去，孩子長大成人後肯定也會離我而去，真正陪伴我度過一生的只有 我的丈夫

A Valentine Prayer

I pray you have
All the love you need and want

Whether it be the romantic kind
The kind we know comes and goes
Sometimes ebbs & flows
Burning in newness
But hopefully simmering into
A lasting comfort
As it ages over time

Or the love of family
The warmth of blood
Of the bonds of kinship
Of belonging
With those whom you travel life
From the dawn of birth
To the dusk of death

Or the love of friends
That caring of people
With whom you choose
To spend your days
For they voluntarily love you
Just for being
Exactly who you are

And the love of God
Our blessed Creator
Who will love you
His unique creation,
Unconditionally love you,
Warts, quirks and all,
Every single minute of your life.

While the other loves
May let you down
May pass you by
Know that you are
God's Valentine
And His heart is yours
On Valentine's Day
And every other day
Of your never-unloved life.

Prayer for those growing older

Lord, You know that I am growing older.

Keep me from becoming talkative and possessed
with the idea that I must express myself
on every subject.

Release me from the craving to straighten out
everyone’s affairs.

Keep me from the recital of endless detail.
Give me wings to get to the point.

Seal my lips when I am inclined to tell of my
aches and pains. They are increasing with
the years and my love to speak of them
grows sweeter as time goes by.

Teach me the glorious lesson that occasionally
I may be wrong.

Make me thoughtful but not nosey;
helpful but not bossy.

With my vast store of wisdom and experience it
does seem a pity not to use it all. But You know,
Lord, that I want a few friends at the end.

LOVE FOUND A WAY

Wonderful love that rescued me, sunk deep in sin,
Guilty and vile as I could be--no hope within;
When every ray of light had fled, O glorious day!
Raising my soul from out the dead, love found a way.

Love found a way, to redeem my soul,
Love found a way, that could make me whole.
Love sent my Lord to the cross of shame,
Love found a way, O praise His holy Name!

Love brought my Savior here to die on Calvary,
For such a sinful wretch as I, how can it be?
Love bridged the gulf 'twixt me and heaven, taught me to pray,
I am redeemed, set free, forgiven, love found a way.


Love found a way, to redeem my soul,
Love found a way, that could make me whole.
Love sent my Lord to the cross of shame,
Love found a way, O praise His holy Name!


Love opened wide the gates of light to heaven's domain,
Where in eternal power and might Jesus shall reign.
Love lifted me from depths of woe to endless day,
There was no help in earth below; love found a way.

Love found a way, to redeem my soul,
Love found a way, that could make me whole.
Love sent my Lord to the cross of shame,
Love found a way, O praise His holy Name!

St. Bernadett Body after 122 years.


This one of the 200+ miracle facts of incorruptible bodies can only be trace to most of the declared saints of the Roman Catholic Church.





'Delight yourself also in the Lord, and He will give you the desires and secret petitions of your heart.' Psalm 37:4




Body after 122 years.!!!

These are the pictures of St.Bernadette who died 122 years
ago in Lourdes , France and was buried; her body was only discovered 30 years ago. After church officials decided to examine it they discovered Her body is still fresh until today and if you ever go to Lourdes , France you can see in the church in Lourdes .. Her body isn't decomposing because during her lifetime, the mother of Jesus would always appear to her and give messages and advice to all mankind on the right way to live on this earth. Many miracles have taken place in this place of Lourdes an still do until today.

These pictures show her body after 122 years.!!!

touching story

送給我所有已婚及未婚的朋友們
心打開，才會遇見對的人
拿掉他所有條件，你還願意跟他，就表示他是值得你愛的人。

陳月卿
星座：巨蟹座
婚姻：已婚，婚齡19年
資歷：前華視新聞主播，曾經主持《華視新聞雜誌》《天涯若比鄰》《放眼看天下》等節目，得過五座金鐘獎。
著作：《全食物密碼》《全食物再發現》
現職：作家、電視節目主持人、婦女救援基金會董事、新健康飲食推廣義工


「我們到桃源街吃晚飯，飯後散步到中山堂附近，坐在人行椅上，他會靠在我的肩膀上休息，」陳月卿柔柔地說著，她和夫婿──國安局秘書長蘇起的生活點滴。

明年是他們步上紅毯後的第二十個年頭，由陳月卿來回答「如何嫁對老公」，最適合不過了。

嫁對人很重要，經營婚姻更重要

蘇起是否符合陳月卿心目中白馬王子的條件呢？「我從不去想會嫁什麼樣的人，緣分到了，自然就會出現。重要的是選擇妳所愛，愛妳所選擇的。」

她認為找到好老公很難，每個人的好都不一樣，要選合適的人才重要。她引述作家羅蘭的話：「婚姻就像鞋，有的明明是雙好鞋，可是會打腳。穿上去舒不舒服才是重點。」

「嫁對人很重要，經營婚姻更重要，」一位是衝鋒陷陣的新聞工作者，一位是服膺「定、靜、安、慮、得」儒家思想的官員、學者，他們的家庭生活是什麼光景？

一九八七年，陳月卿和蘇起因相親而認識，兩年後結婚，這次婚姻是兩人的第二春。當時也有人介紹其他異性朋友，而陳月卿情歸蘇起，是因兩人有相同的價值觀、興趣，同樣都是政大畢業、外省第二代的背景，更重要的是，「我們聊得來，很能溝通。」

吵架三原則不可犯，夫妻謹守底線

她為自己找到可以談心的對象而高興，她的老師卻潑她冷水，「男人結了婚就會變的，」陳月卿信誓旦旦地說，「蘇起不一樣，他不會變。」

婚後，他們就和一般夫妻一樣進入磨合期，「誰該倒垃圾、誰該洗碗、我也上班，為何我做比較多，」這樣的問題常常出現。

不出老師所料，他們也不溝通了，蘇起認為該說的話在婚前都說完了，「沒問題就不用溝通，『我愛妳』說多了就不值錢，」陳月卿卻認為「不溝通就會有問題，而且愛要說出來，我才知道你在想什麼啊。」

後來陳月卿發現，蘇起不說甜言蜜語，並不是不愛她，而是他認為說出口的話都是承諾，不可隨便說說。

他們約法三章，吵架有三原則不可犯：不能掛電話、不能摔盤子、不能說離婚。結婚以來，不管吵得多兇，他們謹守這條底線。不過，通常是蘇起冷靜的離開吵架現場。

蘇起誠心讚美，陳月卿甘心下廚

「我的居家本性是被蘇起誘發的，」雖然陳月卿的星座是以居家著稱的巨蟹座。

蘇起喜歡待在家裡，堅持在家吃飯。交往時，蘇起曾經問她：「會不會做飯？」陳月卿回他：「聰明的人學什麼都快。」

婚後第二天，蘇起「示範」了一桌好菜，讓陳月卿感受在家吃飯的溫暖，「不過，他就做那麼一次，」她笑著說如何被哄下廚，而且是心甘情願，因為不管她煮得如何，即使半生不熟、味道不對，蘇起都是面帶微笑吃下去，然後說「在家吃飯最幸福了」。

蘇起告訴陳月卿最希望回家時有一盞燈是亮的。結果點那盞燈的人經常是蘇起，等著晚歸的陳月卿回家，「有人點燈等我回家，感覺好好。」從此她喜歡往外跑的個性漸漸收斂。

「不要怕付出，不要以為下一個男人會更好，」這是陳月卿的婚姻經營之道，「要常常讚美另一半，」就像她無論做什麼，蘇起永遠給予讚美。即使不做飯上館子吃飯，也會稱讚她很會點菜。早上起床還沒刷牙、洗臉，蘇起會讚美她，「老婆，妳好迷人。」

婚姻只有雙輸或雙贏，不可能單方勝利

夫妻之間要彼此尊重。陳月卿說，如果要請老公做事，不要用命令的口氣。她以自己為例，有一天，她告訴蘇起，「我好喜歡接送小孩，在車上和小孩獨處時，我們講好多好多話喔。」結果隔天，蘇起早早起床，他說要送小孩上學。
信任是婚姻的基石。蘇起給陳月卿最大的信任和安全感。他們每天會定時通電話，有了孩子以後，還是會營造兩人世界，一個月約會一次。

夫妻角色也會因狀況而調整。當陳月卿忙著出書、演講，蘇起對她說：「我會好好照顧家庭的。」而當蘇起入閣忙於公事，她就會擔起大部份家事，讓他無後顧之憂。

在這段婚姻，蘇起的最大貢獻，就是讓她愛上運動、喜歡居家生活，改變急躁的脾氣，腳步開始放慢，生命不再只是工作而已。有時候，陳月卿在家用新聞人急迫的口氣說話時，蘇起會提醒她，不要把工作情緒帶回家。「把我安定下來，是他最大成就。」

她的豁達、開朗是從蘇起身上學到的。「我看到他真誠的一面，他的言行都符合佛家思想，原來佛家所說的是行得通的，」雖然蘇起不是佛教徒，陳月卿卻因他而信佛。

難怪，眼前這位曾經拿過五座金鐘獎，訪問過無數名人的昔日華視當家主播，眼神不見犀利，只有溫柔與詳和。

而個性內斂的蘇起，在陳月卿「調教」之下，現在每天都要和家人親親抱抱，而且是用力擁抱，他要讓家人感受到他的愛。

「婚姻應該是1加1大於2，讓雙方變更好，在婚姻裡只有雙輸或雙贏，不可能單方勝利的。」這是陳月卿的肺腑之言，因為她的幸福得來不易。

蘇起罹患肝癌，陳月卿人生大轉彎

時間要回到一九九一年五月。當時兩年的婚姻磨合期加上流產的打擊，陳月卿到美國短期進修時，開始思索婚姻的意義。然而蘇起的一通越洋電話，打亂了她的行程，自稱患有「工作上癮症」的陳月卿，人生順位重新排序。

「我得到肝癌，」電話那頭蘇起的語氣平靜，也叫陳月卿不必趕回家，繼續完成行程，「他是體貼我才這麼說的」。

為了確定病情，她打電話回台灣問醫生，「肝臟上的腫瘤很少是良性的，」聽到醫生的回答，她當下決定回台，放棄到美國哥倫比亞廣播公司「六十分鐘」節目、CNN實習，為工作生涯加分的大好機會。

在紐約機場，她和送行同伴相擁而泣，為了蘇起的病，也為了人生這個突然出現的轉彎。

天天喝精力湯，拾回全家人健康

陳月卿回台後，辭去忙碌的電視節目製作人工作，以家庭為重，展開夫妻倆的抗癌大作戰。為了養生抗癌，她開始發揮新聞工作者的精神，研讀國內外健康飲食書籍，也當起神農，嘗試各種飲食方法。

《食物是最好的醫藥》一書是她的聖經，她相信「食物就是你的藥，藥物並不能帶來健康，心靈喜悅會帶來身體的健康……」而《用營養擊退癌症》一書裡所提的「全果汁」營養概念，讓她從此埋頭研究「精力湯」。

妳會常常在電視上看到陳月卿賣力介紹精力湯，那是他們全家人每天飲用的聖品，讓蘇起的肝癌不再復發，連原本是藥罐子的她，做身體檢查時，醫生都告訴她，腸胃漂亮得像嬰兒。那麼好的東西，當然要告訴更多人。

從電視主播，變成養生達人

人生的每個轉彎，都是新的起點。她感謝二○○四年逼她離開工作崗位的人，因為他們的逼退，陳月卿才能擁有現在的一片天。

二○○五年及二○○七年，她集結自身的體驗，出版兩本養生暢銷書，從主播變成養生達人。

在二○○五年的新書發表會上，蘇起上台致詞感謝妻子為他所付出的一切時大哭，令在場人士為之動容。「假如她生病的話，我恐怕沒有辦法花那麼多力氣來照顧她，她的事業也在高峰啊，說放開就放開。」

一心只想生孩子，讓蘇起有求生意志

樂觀的陳月卿，從沒想過會失去蘇起，只想到如何讓他活下去。除了改變飲食，在蘇起還沒度過肝癌復發危險期，一九九四年，她生女兒，一九九七年，她生兒子，「我一心只想生個孩子，讓我先生有求生意志。」

如果妳聽到有人在丈夫罹癌後，不離不棄，還生下兩個孩子，只為了激起他的求生意志，這是笨女人，還是真愛？

人有時候好像必須藉由老天給的考驗，才知愛的深度。曾在紐約思索婚姻意義的陳月卿，原來愛蘇起如此深。「當你拿掉他所有條件，你還願意跟他，就表示他是值得你愛的人。」

該如何像陳月卿覓得良緣、嫁對的人呢？「心打開，才會遇見對的人；選合適的人，不是最好的人；女性要獨立，無論是情緒上還是經濟上，自己的喜怒不要依附在別人身上，不要因為對方沒讚美妳就生氣；要有能力付出，不能只是一味要求；給自己一個角落，也給別人空間；不要想改變別人，不要以為婚後他會為妳改變……」陳月卿不吝惜地告訴大家她的秘訣。

採訪尾聲，問她蘇起是什麼類型的老公？「他EQ高，有智慧，成熟穩健，有愛心，有責任感，孝順顧家，具有專業、人文素養……」陳月卿的答案多到超出選擇範圍，看她談到蘇起時的眼神，你會以為她是熱戀或新婚的女人。

誰說婚姻是戀愛的墳墓呢？

Let us have a laugh

An elderly gentleman...
Had serious hearing problems for a number of years. He went to the doctor and the doctor was able to have him fitted for a set of hearing aids that allowed the gentleman to hear 100%

The elderly gentleman went back in a month to the doctor and the doctor said, 'Your hearing is perfect. Your family must be really pleased that you can hear again.'
The gentleman replied, 'Oh, I haven't told my family yet.

I just sit around and listen to the conversations. I've changed my will three times!'



Two elderly gentlemen from a retirement center were sitting on a bench under a tree when one turns to the other and says: 'Slim, I'm 83 years old now and I'm just full of aches and pains. I know you're about my age. How do you feel?'
Slim says, ' I feel just like a newborn baby.'
'Really!? Like a newborn baby!?'
'Yep. No hair, no teeth, and I think I just wet my pants.'



An elderly couple had dinner at another couple's house, and after eating, the wives left the table and went into the kitchen.
The two gentlemen were talking, and one said, 'Last night we went out to a new restaurant and it was really great. I would recommend it very highly.'
The other man said, 'What is the name of the restaurant?'
The first man thought and thought and finally said, 'What is the name of that flower you give to someone you love?
You know... The one that's red and has thorns.'
'Do you mean a rose?'
'Yes, that's the one,' replied the man. He then turned towards the kitchen and yelled, 'Rose, what's the name of that restaurant we went to last night?'


Hospital regulations require a wheel chair for patients being discharged. However, while working as a student nurse, I found one elderly gentleman already dressed and sitting on the bed with a suitcase at his feet, who insisted he didn't need my help to leave the hospital.
After a chat about rules being rules, he reluctantly let me wheel him to the elevator.
On the way down I asked him if his wife was meeting him.
' I don't know,' he said. 'She's still upstairs in the bathroom changing out of her hospital gown.'



Couple in their nineties are both having problems remembering things. During a checkup, the doctor tells them that they're physically okay, but they might want to start writing things down to help them remember.

Later that night, while watching TV, the old man gets up from his chair. 'Want anything while I'm in the kitchen?' he asks.
'Will you get me a bowl of ice cream?'
'Sure.'
'Don't you think you should write it down so you can remember it?' she asks.
'No, I can remember it.'
'Well, I'd like some strawberries on top, too. Maybe you should write it down, so's not to forget it?'
He says, ' I can remember that. You want a bowl of ice cream with strawberries..'
'I'd also like whipped cream. I'm certain you'll forget that, write it down?' she asks.
Irritated, he says, ' I don't need to write it down, I can remember it! Ice cream with strawberries and whipped cream - I got it, for goodness sake!'
Then he toddles into the kitchen. After about 20 minutes,
The old man returns from the kitchen and hands his wife a plate of bacon and eggs. She stares at the plate for a moment.
'Where's my toast ?'



A senior citizen said to his eighty-year old buddy:
'So I hear you're getting married?'
'Yep!'
'Do I know her?'
'Nope!'
'This woman, is she good looking?'
'Not really.'
'Is she a good cook?'
'Naw, she can't cook too well.'
'Does she have lots of money?'
'Nope! Poor as a church mouse.'
'Well, then, is she good in bed?'
' I don't know.'
'Why in the world do you want to marry her then ?'
'Because she can still drive!'




Three old guys are out walking.
First one says, 'Windy, isn't it?'
Second one says, 'No, it's Thursday!'
Third one says, 'So am I. Let's go get a soda.'



A man was telling his neighbor, ' I just bought a new hearing aid. It costs me four thousand dollars, but it's state of the art. It's perfect.'
'Really,' answered the neighbor . 'What kind is it?'
'Twelve thirty.'



Morris, an 82 year-old man, went to the doctor to get a physical.
A few days later, the doctor saw Morris walking down the street with a gorgeous young woman on his arm.
A couple of days later, the doctor spoke to Morris and said, 'You're really doing great, aren't you?'
Morris replied, 'Just doing what you said, Doc: 'Get a hot mamma and be cheerful.''
The doctor said, ' I didn't say that. I said, 'You've got a heart murmur; be careful.'


One more. . .!


A little old man shuffled slowly into an ice cream parlor and pulled himself slowly, painfully, up onto a stool.. After catching his breath, he ordered a banana split.
The waitress asked kindly, 'Crushed nuts?'
'No,' he replied, 'Arthritis.'

Like those?

Now, before you 'forget', send them on to some other folks you know who could use a good laff

Hope you have a perfect day everyday

I hope you woke up this morning with a big smile on your face
I hope the sun is shining just for you
and the birds are singing their very best songs…

I hope your coffee is hot and tastes just right
and the cats are purring contentedly, and the mailman waves a
cheery hello and there are no bills in the mailbox…

I hope just everything goes your way …
I hope everything is well with your world,
a place for everything and everything in it’s place…

I hope you can enjoy all you do and you are
complimented on the way
you look and you can laugh
and talk and share to your heart’s content

I hope you have all you wish for yourself and those dear to you,
and all your dreams come true…

At the end of the day
I wish you a perfect moon shining just for you,
a snug and cozy bed with the softest of pillows
and I hope you sleep like a lamb with a smile on your face…

I hope you have a perfect end to the perfect day
and I hope that every day is just as wonderful in it’s own way
I hope your day is … filled with love!