ANOTHER MALAYSIA CAN DO SPIRIT

Happy Day to you,

I received this news and was shocked that it has not been published in our local press. As such, I decided publish it so as to inspire others to a life of greatness. 

US Secretary of State Hillary Clinton and first lady Michelle Obama present give away Secretary of State's Award for International Women of Courage to Malaysia's Ambiga Sreenevasan (Malaysian Bar Council) at the State Department in Washington , DC (AFP)

We, especially Malaysian, should feel very proud of our own Malaysian receiving an international award like this.  Do let me know her contact number, should anyone of you know her, so that I can blog about her success story here. Thank you in advance for your kind assistance. 

Please share with your contact of friends or direct them to this blog to read this inspiring story. 

To read more about her, please click the title of this post.


Happy reading,


James Oh

AMAZING AND UNIQUE BRIDGE 9

Hi! Folks,

This is another unique and amazing bridge, which I like to share with you, despite what I told you in my last post last year. 

The bridge is huge and I am not kidding either. It is located in China’s Hubei province and dubbed “Siduhe Grand Bridge“, this gargantuan suspension bridge (once completed) will smash the current record for highest deck-to-ground distance held by the Royal Gorge Bridge in Colorado (1, 053ft) and could fit the Empire State Building underneath it and still have 360 feet to spare - yikes! But there’s more…

So you’ve erected the enormous towers on each side of the deep valley, deeper than any valley previously bridged. How do you get a pilot cable from one tower to the next? Previous solutions have included: attaching the cable to a kite and flying it over (e.g. Niagara Falls suspension bridge), carrying one end by helicopter (e.g. Akashi Kaikyo bridge) and floating one end on a boat (e.g. Brooklyn Bridge). The brains behind the Siduhe Bridge decided to ignore all those options and break another record instead. They attached the 3,200ft cables to rockets and accurately fired them over the valley, becoming the first people to do so.

So, it tells us to be more innovative and creative to venture into new methods so as to have breakthrough record. Remember that there are always more than one path to success. Be brave and have a mission to set a new record and not indulge into unnecessary worry as the builder who constructs the above bridge. To create a remarkable new record, you must able to face the odds and take up the challenge to step into the uncharted zones. This is exactly like today's world we are living, where people are pushed to create precedents out of the uncharted zones. So, as the time is getting tougher, the tough gets going. Keep moving and you are rest assured that the reward is also equally high proportionate to its risk.

So, I hope you too enjoy its beauty and spirit as I did. Thanks and seeing you again. Wishing you success,

James Oh

 

History is made as the pilot cables are successfully fired across the valley.

HOW TO COPE WELL WITH JOB LOST

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With American economy facing financial tumult, the rest of world are no exception to experience adverse impact one way or the other. As a result, it is normal for you or someone close to you to have lost their jobs and are having difficulties to overcome their emotional feelings. Even if you are not affected, it is no harm for you to be equip and prepare yourselves. Due to rapid changes in the market place, no one is able to predict the future with certainty.  

STAGES OF GRIEF

Losing a job can cause complications because it involves several stages of grief subsequent to that occurrence. We need time to heal especially for those who regard their careers as second to death. With this in mind, Elizabeth Kubler-Ross devised stages of grief as follows:

1. At denial stage, we tend to think that there must have been a mistake. It could not be happening to us. 

2. In anger stage, we insist it is not fair. After all, we viewed ourselves as good and necessary workers who do not deserve this treatment. Why me will arise in the individual mindset? We tend to compare with others and conclude that other co-workers deserve to lose their jobs more than us. Such emotions will put us in the worst mood.

3. At bargaining stage, we try to get back in through the door in number of possible ways.

4. If you are not careful, depression might hit you. Sadness breeds sadness. Eventually, we see darkness everywhere. 

5. At Acceptance stage, we have processed adequately and we acknowledge that we should take care of what we are in control of and do the best we can.

Even though it is helpful to look at the above from five stages listed above, however, each individual may not necessarily go through from one to the next stage. Some might skip over one stage for a while and return back to an “earlier” stage at an even deeper level than before. In short, some might even go back and forth between the stages, deepening the process each time they return. Once, these stages are broken down, it can be used to help us have compassion for ourselves as we go through the difficulties. It tends to give a proven recipe to assist you to have a better understanding on how we are overcoming grief.

1. HAVE THE RIGHT PERSPECTIVE 

View it from a wider perspective and accept the fact that you are not alone. Take it as a challenge rather than a mis-fortune. Remember the saying "No pain, no gain." Turn it to an opportunity so that you can use this to help others become wiser, stronger, smarter and more humble. Trust me, the reward is far beyond its costs.

2. BE FAIR TO YOURSELF

Naturally, the very first thought that strike our mind when facing job loss is the loss of income. Worse still, if we are the  sole bread winner with dependents, this can be seriously frightening, devastating, and shameful loss. This is because many of us judge our competency and value by our work life.

3. LOSING MORE THAN YOUR JOB

There are adverse social implications during grieving. How will others look and feel about us especially we are no longer having our jobs. Will we lose touch with them? This will one way or the other lead us to wonder about our future work life. Will we fit in anyplace else?

4. FEAR OF SURVIVAL

If left unchecked, we will have the fear of survival along with these unhealthy thoughts. This will often lead to questions of your capability and competency. Depending on individual background and experience, certain old bondage return to be confronted and many self-worth questions will come to the forefront. This is a good time to get some support from a professional psychotherapist to help ease the sting and removed these wounds. View this as an opportunity to heal some of our old wounds once and for all. It will only set you free. It is also wise for you to take advantage of the support groups, available at your community.

5. TURN IT INTO AN OPPORTUNITY 

The good news is that once you have overcome this initial fear, you will find that the job loss is an opportunity for growing into something that suits you better. This in turn help you feel more stronger and successful in your life. Therefore, be kind to yourselves by eating and sleeping well, exercising, journaling and taking time to refresh yourselves to reflect on your various highly charged thoughts and feelings. If you have given time for yourself, you could have chance to look more closely at what is important to you. So, take your life as it comes and make the best with what you have. This is my sincere desire for all of you. In this instance, you may learn from the book author - Miss Lilou Mace - "I LOST MY JOB AND I LIKED IT".

6. LOOK AND MOVE FORWARD RATHER THAN HARP ON THE PAST

Never let the past hold you back, so look and move forward. That is life. This serve as my golden rule and hope you can use it for your benefit. Thanks and look forward to hearing from you,

Wishing you a great success,

James Oh

HOW TO HANDLE OBJECTIONS EFFECTIVELY

Hi! Everyone,

In life, we can never avoid facing all sorts of objections, be it a personal relationship, business, proposal, etc. What is more important to us now is to learn how to handle these objections well. For those who want to acquire this skill, I am sure it will create some excitement for you. If so, I write to congratulate you because I know you are trying to do a great favour for yourself. However, I can say that this is only first step to overcome them. You also need to put it into practice till you perfect it. Practice, practice and practice, the 3 Ps are the keys to master this skill.

Now sit back, read the following recommended tips and apply them to your daily life whenever you have the opportunity to do so. You have to practice until you perfect it should you want to do something great for yourself. Otherwise, you can stop reading this article. Hope you are not being offended. I am just stating the truth.

1. Choose to agree with their objections

It may sound odd to some of you. It is not an easy task especially when you are not happy with the objections. Pause for a while, think rationally what will happen if you choose otherwise. The chances that you destroy the rapport with your opponent are rather high. Ask yourself again why your opponent raise the objection in the first place. To me, he is just want to either protect himself from making a similar mistake or he just wanted to be heard.

Once, you see this distinction, it is much easier for you to say that you absolutely have the same concern as he did. So, you completely understand why he said all this.

Can you see the difference now? are you able to accept this rationale. If yes, practice it till it become part of you.

2. Listen to the objection attentively

Whatever negative objections said, listen to them attentively till they have finished. This is vitally important especially when your opponent is in angry mood or raised his voice to make himself heard. People are shouting because they want someone to listen to them. Simple. So, do them a favour by offering your ear should you want to be a winner at the end of the day.

I assured you that if you listen to them attentively, they will start to run out of stream. Best still, if you keep agreeing with them, the chances that they begin to trust you are much higher. Slowly and surely they will disclose the real reason behind their objection to you finally. Once, you can overcome this barrier, they will listen to you. This is part of the process. 

3. Understand where the objection came from

Always try to understand which direction the objection was coming from. It is of paramount importance for you to do so, so that you are able to see their concern first, follow by the act of listening to them fully. This will then assist you to raise appropriate question for clarification. Through these simple 3 steps, you are not only able to understand fully where the objection came from, but also the real reason behind their objections. Take up this challenge by giving yourself  a chance to work on it. Once you overcome it, you will understand the true picture completely by asking them material and significant question. Try it out and I assure you that you will enjoy doing it.

4. Clarify an objection completely

Before you respond to any objection, you need to clarify an objection fully and completely. This means that you need to be sure and understand fully what they mean, even if you have to repeat their phrases, do so by all means. Similarly, they need you to fully understand them before you can ask them more question relevant to their objection. Once, you break through this barrier, you will then be able to offer a solution which truly bring them benefits as the way they see them. Once they see these benefits, I won't see any reason why they don't take up the solution you offered to them.

The more you put them into practice, the better you will be. Once you have master this skill, you will able to predict what objections to be expected and how to overcome every one of them with full confidence and certainty. 

So, dance with the wave of your live today and enjoy every wave of your dances. Seeing you again, 

James Oh