Merry Christmas and Happy New Year 2010

Hi! everyone,


May you and your family have a

Joyful Christmas, a fruitful New Year

And

wishing you all a Blessed Christmas.
 Hope the New Year will bring peace, health and success

to everyone…..

                                                                                                      

&        

 HAPPY   NEW   YEAR 2010 !!

                                                                                                                                                                                          

  

  

                    

           

 See you again,

James Oh

SIX KEY WAYS SELF DEFEATING BEHAVIORS THAT CAUSE FAILURE

Hi everyone,


Most people have a misconception that our rivals are our greatest enemies. In actual fact, we are our own greatest enemy. It is more often that our self-sabotaging behavior prevents us from achieving success. I cannot find any better phrases than that described by Jan Christian Smuts, a prime minister of South Africa,  "A man is not defeated by his opponents but by himself." Therefore, it is more important to learn how to overcome ourselves than overcome our rivals.


In this article, I am going to take you through these 6 key self -sabotaging behaviors that most of time cause failure.


1. EXPECTING FAILURE


If you are expecting failure then sooner or later you will get what you expect. This is because your subconscious mind will transmit to your subconscious mind and commands your conscious mind that you are going to fail. Expecting failure and preparing for failure are two different things. The latter is inclined to accept any outcome after all his hard work and preparation which he believes he has done his best whereas the former does not have any confidence and truly believe that he will not succeed whether he tries or not.


2. PROCRASTINATION


It is one of the major causes of failure. Life means risk. These people do not give themselves any chance, but keep waiting for opportunities even though they will  miss these opportunities most of times. They always wait for the right time and that "right" time never comes. As such, if you want to reach your potential, you have to take chances. We must be aware that there are more ways to be successful that do not involve any physical or violent exploitation than the past.


3. LETTING FAILURE DEFEAT THEM


Failure is the root of success. Everybody experiences losses. However, the successful person will not allow himself to be stopped by these failures. Therefore, we must prepare ourselves for failure. What is more important is not failure, but bouncing back from it when it occurs. This is the difference with people who have positive attitude, they will get up and keep on trying.




4. NO SPECIFIC PURPOSE


In life, you can not hope to succeed in anything if you do not have a specific purpose. If you are caught in this scenario, you will then jump from one activity to another with no success. Therefore, it is no surprise that statistics shows more than 90% of people think and act in this manner, and that is the major reason that caused them to fail.


5. LACK OF KNOW HOW


Most of the successful people are either "self educated" or "self made" jndividuals, who know precisely how to make use of  applied knowledge coupled with his plan of action to achieve  success. Here, we must know how to differentiate between tactics knowledge and applied knowledge. It is equally important to know that knowing is one thing and doing is totally different altogether


6. LACK OF FOCUS


This is a typical mistake by putting their energy and efforts on multiple causes rather than concentrating on one particular cause. Thereafter, they realize that they are not able to accomplish or not succeed any of them. Therefore, they quit.


Be honest and deal with it appropriately. The success will be yours. Try it out and share with us your personal experience. Thank you in advance for your kind participation.







James Oh

THINK POSITIVE : SIMPLE AND EFFECTIVE 10

Hi! everyone,
This is another good example, you can find positive out of negative circumstance which we don't always manage to do.

I am thankful...

10. For the noise I have to bear from my neighbours because it means that I can hear.

If you can tolerance and bear with that noise, it indicate well that you are stay in control of your emotion. Congratulation to you because you have achieved some success.

James Oh