So don't be afraid; you are worth more than many sparrows.
-- Matthew 10:31 --
Sparrows are one of the most commonest of birds in the world. There are a number of different sparrow species too. The one in Matthew 10:31 that Jesus was referring to is most likely the Dead Sea Sparrow and they are common in various continents in the world too.
Before I start to bore you with the various aspects of the sparrow and since I am not a sparrow expert myself, let us just consider in context what Jesus said about sparrows - two verses before Matthew 10:31.
Are not two sparrows sold for a penny?
Yet not one of them will fall to the ground apart from the will of your Father. (Matthew 10:29) From this verse, you would gather that sparrows are not considered an expensive item and are not exotic pets either. Everyone could probably afford to own one. Yet, Jesus is trying to derive an important principle here. Sparrows, though they lack in monetary worth and their lives seeming unimportant, is still important to God.
God provides for birds so that none of them would literally starve to death and fall to the ground. Birds neither have to worry nor toil. In the simplicity of their tiny brains, they know that they do not need to worry about life. Their lives are in the hands of God!
Now back to Matthew 10:31.
Jesus is saying that we are worth less than a sparrow. No, that is not what He said although we are, at times, tempted to think in that way. Jesus said, we are worth more than many sparrows. Many, many, many sparrows. In fact, you are beyond worth… so much so, that the Son of God is willing to die for your sins.
Can you see how precious you are to God? If so, why are we concerned with so many things in the world? Why are we concerned with the things that are beyond our control and yet they are within God’s control? Why do we consider ourselves less than sparrows?
So, have faith this day that God loves you and cares for you more than you can ever imagine. With this confidence, there is nothing in life that you need to be afraid of. So, don’t be afraid; you are worth more than many sparrows.
So, do not worry anymore. Pray, supplication and give thank to Him always.
Hearty welcome
Friday, October 31, 2008
1. Give God what's right.........
not what's left.
2. Man's way leads to hopeless end........
God's way leads to an endless hope.
3. A lot of kneelings will keep you in good standing.
4. He who kneels before God can stand before anyone.
5. In the sentence of Life, the devil may be a comma, but never let him be the period.
6. Don't put a question mark where God puts a period.
7. Are you winkled with burden?
Come to the church for a free-lift.
8. When praying, don't give God instructions.....
just report for duty.
9. We don't change God's message....
His message change us.
10. The Church is prayers-conditioned.
11 When God ordains, He sustains.
Think about the above and make part of your life.
not what's left.
2. Man's way leads to hopeless end........
God's way leads to an endless hope.
3. A lot of kneelings will keep you in good standing.
4. He who kneels before God can stand before anyone.
5. In the sentence of Life, the devil may be a comma, but never let him be the period.
6. Don't put a question mark where God puts a period.
7. Are you winkled with burden?
Come to the church for a free-lift.
8. When praying, don't give God instructions.....
just report for duty.
9. We don't change God's message....
His message change us.
10. The Church is prayers-conditioned.
11 When God ordains, He sustains.
Think about the above and make part of your life.
Singaporean Joke...Take a break
Story 1
Ah Lian ask shopkeeper: Eh Ah chek, u got sellstocking up to knee, boh?
Ah Chek : Lu siao ah! stocking wear up to 'yeo' (waist) only, where got upto the 'nee'(breast) one.
Story 2
Ah Beng bought a Honda VTI recently and drove to AhLian's place to show it to her. So there Ah Beng was bragging the various functions of his new car to his girlfriend. "This is ah, so fast even the Mata Chia cannot catch ah!""Ha! Really ah!!! Steady lah!" said Ah Lian."Some more hor, this is Automatic one, vely easy to drive!"
So Ah Lian said, "Let me try! I wan, I wan!" So Ah Lian took the driver's seat and shifted the gear and floored the & accelerator.The next moment, the car sped backwards and crashed into the lamp-post.
"Alamak! What u doing? U Siao Char Bo! U see lah! Wah Piang eh!" screamed Ah Beng."Solee, solee, pai sei lah! No lah, I tot hor,"R" for racing mah!"
Story 3
The Titanic was sinking, and there weren't enough lifeboats. So the captain had to persuade male passengers to jump into the icy waters to make room for women and children.
To the British he said. "You must act like gentlemen." They jumped.
To the Americans he said, "You can be heroes." They complied.
To the Germans he said, "It's the rule." They obeyed.
To the Japanese he said," It's the consensus." They obliged.
Then came the Singaporean and they just weren't budging until he came up with the appeal: "Free life jackets for those who jumped."
Story 4
3 recruits - Chinese, Malay & Indian are at the army supply base to collect underwear. The sergeant was there to aid the supplies.
Sergeant: Hei Ah Beng! How many underwear you need ah?
Ah Beng: (thinks a while) 7 sasen(sergeant)!
Sergeant: (puzzled) How come so many?
Ah! Beng: Mon, Tues, Wed, Thurs, Fri, Sat & Sun. One day one.
Sergeant: (Malay recruit) Eh Mat! How many underwear?
Mat: (without hesitation) 6 sargen!
Sergeant: (curious) How come six?
Mat: Mon, Tues, Wed, Thurs, Sat & Sun. Friday I wear sarong.
Sergeant: (Indian recruit) Dei Tambi. How many underwears dah dei?
Tambi: (very confidently) 12 Sarjen !!!!
Sergeant: (shocked & fell to the ground) Why you need so many for?
Tambi: January, February, March.....One month one.
Story 5
Once upon a time, a group of Ah Bengs stepped into a lounge and wanted the DJ to play the song "Ah Cheng Buey Ro Ti" (In Hokkien means Ah Cheng buys bread).
The DJ told them that they only have English songs and told them to re-select another song.
The Ah Bengs were very angry and kicked up a big fuss, claiming the DJ was insulting them.
The manager had to intervene in order to calm them down. Finally, after long talk with Ah Bengs, the manager found out that Ah Bengs actually asking for the song "Unchained Melody" by the Righteous Brothers.
Story 6
One day, two Ah Lians got into a lift from the 20th storey and want to get down to the ground floor. As they looked at the dial, they could see the number 20 down to number 2. It was then followed by a G. As they not English-educated, they were puzzled and had no idea what does the letter G mean. Suddenly one of them exclaimed excitedly and hit G. When they finally reached the ground floor, the other Ah Lian was so impressed and asked the first Ah Lian, "Wah low!!!, how you know one?" The first Ah Lian reply smugly, "Easy lah.. G for Gero mah..."
Ah Lian ask shopkeeper: Eh Ah chek, u got sellstocking up to knee, boh?
Ah Chek : Lu siao ah! stocking wear up to 'yeo' (waist) only, where got upto the 'nee'(breast) one.
Story 2
Ah Beng bought a Honda VTI recently and drove to AhLian's place to show it to her. So there Ah Beng was bragging the various functions of his new car to his girlfriend. "This is ah, so fast even the Mata Chia cannot catch ah!""Ha! Really ah!!! Steady lah!" said Ah Lian."Some more hor, this is Automatic one, vely easy to drive!"
So Ah Lian said, "Let me try! I wan, I wan!" So Ah Lian took the driver's seat and shifted the gear and floored the & accelerator.The next moment, the car sped backwards and crashed into the lamp-post.
"Alamak! What u doing? U Siao Char Bo! U see lah! Wah Piang eh!" screamed Ah Beng."Solee, solee, pai sei lah! No lah, I tot hor,"R" for racing mah!"
Story 3
The Titanic was sinking, and there weren't enough lifeboats. So the captain had to persuade male passengers to jump into the icy waters to make room for women and children.
To the British he said. "You must act like gentlemen." They jumped.
To the Americans he said, "You can be heroes." They complied.
To the Germans he said, "It's the rule." They obeyed.
To the Japanese he said," It's the consensus." They obliged.
Then came the Singaporean and they just weren't budging until he came up with the appeal: "Free life jackets for those who jumped."
Story 4
3 recruits - Chinese, Malay & Indian are at the army supply base to collect underwear. The sergeant was there to aid the supplies.
Sergeant: Hei Ah Beng! How many underwear you need ah?
Ah Beng: (thinks a while) 7 sasen(sergeant)!
Sergeant: (puzzled) How come so many?
Ah! Beng: Mon, Tues, Wed, Thurs, Fri, Sat & Sun. One day one.
Sergeant: (Malay recruit) Eh Mat! How many underwear?
Mat: (without hesitation) 6 sargen!
Sergeant: (curious) How come six?
Mat: Mon, Tues, Wed, Thurs, Sat & Sun. Friday I wear sarong.
Sergeant: (Indian recruit) Dei Tambi. How many underwears dah dei?
Tambi: (very confidently) 12 Sarjen !!!!
Sergeant: (shocked & fell to the ground) Why you need so many for?
Tambi: January, February, March.....One month one.
Story 5
Once upon a time, a group of Ah Bengs stepped into a lounge and wanted the DJ to play the song "Ah Cheng Buey Ro Ti" (In Hokkien means Ah Cheng buys bread).
The DJ told them that they only have English songs and told them to re-select another song.
The Ah Bengs were very angry and kicked up a big fuss, claiming the DJ was insulting them.
The manager had to intervene in order to calm them down. Finally, after long talk with Ah Bengs, the manager found out that Ah Bengs actually asking for the song "Unchained Melody" by the Righteous Brothers.
Story 6
One day, two Ah Lians got into a lift from the 20th storey and want to get down to the ground floor. As they looked at the dial, they could see the number 20 down to number 2. It was then followed by a G. As they not English-educated, they were puzzled and had no idea what does the letter G mean. Suddenly one of them exclaimed excitedly and hit G. When they finally reached the ground floor, the other Ah Lian was so impressed and asked the first Ah Lian, "Wah low!!!, how you know one?" The first Ah Lian reply smugly, "Easy lah.. G for Gero mah..."
Thursday, October 30, 2008
Kitchen on Fire
Please educate all your family members to avoid from making such a mistake at that critical point of time. Thank you.
Precaution is always better than cure.
Enjoy the movies.
11 PEOPLE ON A ROPE
11 people were hanging on a rope under a helicopter, 10 men AND 1 woman.
The rope was not strong enough to carry them all, so they decided that one had to leave, because otherwise they were all going to fall. They were unable to decide who would let go, until the woman gave a very touching speech.
She said that she would voluntarily let go of the rope, because, as a woman, she was used to giving up everything for her husband and kids and for men in general, and was used to always making sacrifices with little in return. (too true!)
As soon as she finished her speech, all the men started clapping......
TO ALL INTELLIGENT WOMAN
PLEASE READ SO THAT YOU HAVE SOMETHING TO SMILE ABOUT TODAY.
God bless you all,
The rope was not strong enough to carry them all, so they decided that one had to leave, because otherwise they were all going to fall. They were unable to decide who would let go, until the woman gave a very touching speech.
She said that she would voluntarily let go of the rope, because, as a woman, she was used to giving up everything for her husband and kids and for men in general, and was used to always making sacrifices with little in return. (too true!)
As soon as she finished her speech, all the men started clapping......
TO ALL INTELLIGENT WOMAN
PLEASE READ SO THAT YOU HAVE SOMETHING TO SMILE ABOUT TODAY.
God bless you all,
I am a Christian
"Christian"By Maya Angelou
When I say... "I am a Christian"
I'm not shouting "I'm clean living."
I'm whispering "I was lost,"
Now I'm found and forgiven.
When I say..."I am a Christian"
I don't speak of this with pride.
I'm confessing that I stumble and need CHRIST to be my guide.
When I say... "I am a Christian"
I'm not trying to be strong.
I'm professing that I'm weak and need HIS strength to carry on.
When I say... "I am a Christian"
I'm not bragging of success.
I'm admitting I have failed and need God to clean my mess.
When I say... "I am a Christian"
I'm not claiming to be perfect,
My flaws are far too visible but, God believes I am worth it.
When I say... "I am a Christian"
I still feel the sting of pain,I have my share of heartaches. So I call upon His name.
When I say... "I am a Christian"
I'm not holier than thou,
I'm just a simple sinner who received God's good grace, somehow.
When I say... "I am a Christian"
I'm not shouting "I'm clean living."
I'm whispering "I was lost,"
Now I'm found and forgiven.
When I say..."I am a Christian"
I don't speak of this with pride.
I'm confessing that I stumble and need CHRIST to be my guide.
When I say... "I am a Christian"
I'm not trying to be strong.
I'm professing that I'm weak and need HIS strength to carry on.
When I say... "I am a Christian"
I'm not bragging of success.
I'm admitting I have failed and need God to clean my mess.
When I say... "I am a Christian"
I'm not claiming to be perfect,
My flaws are far too visible but, God believes I am worth it.
When I say... "I am a Christian"
I still feel the sting of pain,I have my share of heartaches. So I call upon His name.
When I say... "I am a Christian"
I'm not holier than thou,
I'm just a simple sinner who received God's good grace, somehow.
CONTENTMENT
Have you ever, at any one time, had the feeling that life is bad, real bad, and you wish you were in another situation?
You find life make things difficult for you, work sucks, life sucks, everything seems to go wrong...
Read the following story... it may change your views about life:
After a conversation with one of my friends, he told me despite taking 2 jobs, he brings back barely above 1 thousand per month, he is happy as he is. I wonder how he can be as happy as he is considering he has to skimp his life with the low pay to support a pair of old parents, in-laws, a wife, 2 daughters and the many bills of a household.
He explained that it was through one incident that he saw in India.........that happened a few years ago when he was really feeling low and touring India after a major setback. He said that right in front of his very eyes he saw an Indian mother chop off her child's right hand with a chopper. The helplessness in the mother's eyes, the scream of pain from the innocent 4-year-old child haunted him until today.
You may ask why did the mother do so; had the child been naughty, had the child's hand been infected??
No, it was done for two simple words- - - TO BEG!
The desperate mother deliberately caused the child to be handicapped so that the child could go out to the streets to beg.
Taken aback by the scene, he dropped a piece of bread he was eating half-way. And almost instantly, a flock of 5 or 6 children swamped towards this small piece of bread which was covered with sand, robbing bits from one another.
The natural reaction of hunger. Stricken by the happenings, he instructed his guide to drive him to the nearest bakery. He arrived at two bakeries and bought every single loaf of bread he found in the bakeries.
The owner was dumb founded but willingly sold everything. He spent less than $100 to obtain about 400 loaves of bread (this is less than $0.25 per loaf) and spent another $100 to get daily necessities.
Off he went in the truck full of bread into the streets. As he distributed the bread and necessities to the children (mostly handicapped) and a few adults, he received cheers and bows from these unfortunate.
For the first time in his life he wondered how people can give up their dignity for a loaf of bread which cost less than $0.25.
He began to tell himself how fortunate he is. How fortunate he is to be able to have a complete body, have a job, have a family, have the chance to complain what food is nice and what isn't nice, have the chance to be clothed, have the many things that these people in front of him are deprived of...
Now I begin to think and feel it, too! Was my life really that bad? Perhaps... no, I should not feel bad at all... What about you?
Maybe the next time you think you are, think about the child who lost one hand to beg on the streets.
"Contentment is not the fulfillment of what you want, it is the realization of how much you already have."
When the door of happiness closes, another opens, but often times we look so long at the closed door that we don't see the one which has been opened for us.
It's true that we don't know what we've got until we lose it, but it's also true that we don't know what we've been missing until it arrives.
The happiest of people don't necessarily have the best of everything; they just make the most of everything that comes along their way.
The brightest future will always be based on a forgotten past, you can't go on well in life until you let go of your past failures and heartaches.
Please share this message to those people who mean something to you, to those who have touched your life in one way or another, to those who make you smile when you really need it, to those that make you see the brighter side of things when you are really down, to those who you want to let them know that you appreciate their friendship.
And if you don't, don't worry, nothing bad will happen to you, you will just miss out on the opportunity to brighten someone's day.
Carry the cross
Whatever your cross,
whatever your pain,
there will always be sunshine,
after the rain ....
Perhaps you may stumble,
perhaps even fall,
But God's always ready,
To answer your call ...
He knows every heartache,
sees every tear,
A word from His lips,
can calm every fear ...
Your sorrows may linger,
throughout the night,
But suddenly vanish,
in dawn's early light ...
The Savior is waiting,
somewhere above,
To give you His grace,
and send you His love...
Whatever your cross,
whatever your pain,
"God always sends rainbows .... after the rain ... "
To get out of difficulty,
To get out of difficulty,
one must usually go through it!
That's the way;
That's the way;
His way;
the righteous way and the perfect way;
so do follow His way.
Wednesday, October 29, 2008
God's art
God remind us to smile, which is good for us.
Smile more often so that your face is always shine.
Happy reading.
How smart the donkey is
One day a farmer's donkey fell down into a well. The animal cried piteously for hours as the farmer tried to figure out what to do. Finally, he decided the animal was old, and the well needed to be covered up anyway; it just wasn't worth it to retrieve the donkey. He invited all his neighbours to come over and help him. They all grabbed a shovel and began to shovel dirt into the well.
At first, the donkey realized what was happening and cried horribly. Then, to everyone's amazement he quieted down. A few shovel loads later, the farmer finally looked down the well. He was astonished at what he saw. With each shovel of dirt that hit his back, the donkey was doing something amazing. He would shake it off and take a step up. As the farmer's neighbours continued to shovel dirt on top of the animal, he would shake it off and take a step up. Pretty soon, everyone was amazed as the donkey stepped up over the edge of the well and happily trotted off!
MORAL :Life is going to shovel dirt on you, all kinds of dirt. The trick to getting out of the well is to shake it off and take a step up. Each of our troubles is a stepping stone. We can get out of the deepest wells just by not stopping, never giving up! Shake it off and take a step up.
Remember the five simple rules to be happy:
1. Free your heart from hatred - Forgive..
2. Free your mind from worries - Most never happen.
3. Live simply and appreciate what you have.
4. Give more.
5. Expect less.
The reward you will getting is far beyong your imagination. Sow it and you will reap it one day.
See you online again.
Cheers and have a blessed day,
James
At first, the donkey realized what was happening and cried horribly. Then, to everyone's amazement he quieted down. A few shovel loads later, the farmer finally looked down the well. He was astonished at what he saw. With each shovel of dirt that hit his back, the donkey was doing something amazing. He would shake it off and take a step up. As the farmer's neighbours continued to shovel dirt on top of the animal, he would shake it off and take a step up. Pretty soon, everyone was amazed as the donkey stepped up over the edge of the well and happily trotted off!
MORAL :Life is going to shovel dirt on you, all kinds of dirt. The trick to getting out of the well is to shake it off and take a step up. Each of our troubles is a stepping stone. We can get out of the deepest wells just by not stopping, never giving up! Shake it off and take a step up.
Remember the five simple rules to be happy:
1. Free your heart from hatred - Forgive..
2. Free your mind from worries - Most never happen.
3. Live simply and appreciate what you have.
4. Give more.
5. Expect less.
The reward you will getting is far beyong your imagination. Sow it and you will reap it one day.
See you online again.
Cheers and have a blessed day,
James
Tips for better life from Yoga
Tips for Better Life from ISHA YOGA (http://www.ishafoundation.org/)
1. Take a 10-30 minutes walk every day. And while you walk, smile.
2. Sit in silence for at least 10 minutes each day.
3. Sleep for 7 hours.
4. Live with the 3 E's -- Energy, Enthusiasm, and Empathy.
5. Play more games.
6. Read more books than you did in 2007.
7. Make time to practice meditation, yoga, and prayer. They provide us with daily fuel for our busy lives.
8. Spend time with people over the age of 70 and under the age of 6.
9. Dream more while you are awake.
10. Eat more foods that grow on trees and plants and eat less food that is manufactured in plants.
11. Drink plenty of water.
12. Try to make at least three people smile each day.
13. Don't waste your precious energy on gossip.
14. Forget issues of the past. Don't remind your partner with his/her mistakes of the past. That will ruin your present happiness.
15. Don't have negative thoughts or things you cannot control. Instead invest your energy in the positive present moment.
16. Realize that life is a school and you are here to learn. Problems are simply part of the curriculum that appear and fade away like algebra class but the lessons you learn will last a lifetime.
17. Eat breakfast like a king, lunch like a prince and dinner like a beggar.
18. Smile and laugh more.
19. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone. Don't hate others.
20. Don't take yourself so seriously. No one else does.
21. You don't have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.
22. Make peace with your past so it won't spoil the present.
23. Don't compare your life to others'. You have no idea what their journey is all about. Don't compare your partner with others.
24. No one is in charge of your happiness except you.
25. Forgive everyone for everything.
26. What other people think of you is none of your business.
27. No matter how good or bad a situation is, it will change.
28. Your job won't take care of you when you are sick. Your friends will. Stay in touch.
29. Get rid of anything that isn't useful, beautiful or joyful.
30. Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need.
31. The best is yet to come.
32. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.
33. Do the right thing!
34. Call your family often.
35. Your inner most is always happy. So be happy.
36. Each day give something good to others.
37. Don't over do. Keep your limits.
38. Please share this with everyone you care about.
" IF ONE CAN DO IT YOU TOO CAN DO IT, IF NONE CAN DO IT THEN YOU MUST DO IT "
" IF ONE CAN DO IT YOU TOO CAN DO IT, IF NONE CAN DO IT THEN YOU MUST DO IT "
Trust you have been enriched with all the right stuff. So, remember to remind and inspire others. Thnak you in advance.
Have a wonderful day,
James
献给所有未婚，将要结婚，和已婚的好朋友!!
(大家要看喔!很发人省思) =========================================
我的母亲是个非常好的人，自小，我就看到她努力地维持一个家。
她总是在清晨五时起床，煮一锅热腾腾的稀饭给父亲吃，
因为父亲胃不好，早餐只能吃稀饭。
然後，还要煮一锅乾饭给孩子吃，因为孩子正在发育，
需要吃乾饭，上学一天才不会饿。
每个星期，母亲会把榻榻米搬出去晒，晒出暖暖的太阳香。
每天下午，母亲总是弯着腰，刷着锅子，
我们家的锅子每一个都可以当镜子用，完全没有一点污垢。
晚上，她努力蹲在地上擦地板，一寸一寸仔细地擦拭，
家里的地板比别人家的床头还乾净，打着赤脚也找不到一丝灰尘。
我母亲是个认真辛劳的好女人。
然而，在我父亲的眼中，她却不是一个好伴侣。
我成长过程中，父亲不只一次地表示他在婚姻中的孤单，不被了解。
我的父亲是个负责的男人。
他不抽烟、不喝酒，工作认真，每天准时上下班，
暑假还安排功课表，安排孩子们的作息，
他是个尽责的父亲，督促孩子在功课上有所成就。
他喜欢下棋、写书法，沉浸在古书的世界。
我的父亲是个好男人，在孩子们眼中，他就像天一样大，保护我们、教育我们。
只是，在我母亲的眼中，他也不是一个好伴侣，
我成长的过程中，我经常看到母亲在院子的角落中，暗暗无声地掉泪。
父亲用语言，母亲用行动，表达了他们在婚姻中所面对的痛苦。
成长的过程中，我看到、也听到父亲与母亲在婚姻中的无奈，
也看到、感受到他们是如此好的男人与女人，他们值得一椿好婚姻。
可惜的是，父亲在世的岁月中，他们彼此的婚姻生活都在挫折中度过，
而我，也一直在困惑中成长，我问自己：「两个好人为什麽没有好的婚姻？」
自以为是的付出
我长大後，进入婚姻，渐渐了解这个问题的答案。
在婚姻的初期，我就像母亲一样，努力持家，努力地刷锅子、擦地板，
认真地为自己的婚姻而努力。
奇怪的是，我不快乐；看看我的先生，似乎他也不快乐。
我心中想，大概是地板不够乾净，饭菜烧得不够好，於是，
我更努力擦地板，用心做饭。
似乎，我们两个人还是不快乐。
直到有一天，我正忙着擦地板时，先生说：「老婆，来陪我听一下音乐！」
我不悦地说：「没看到还有一大半的地方没有擦！」
这句话一说出口，我呆住了，好熟悉的一句话，
在我父亲母亲的婚姻中，母亲也经常这样对父亲说。
我正在重演父母亲的婚姻，也重复他们在婚姻中的不快乐。
有一些领悟出现在我的心中。
你要的是？我停下手边的工作，看着先生，想到我父亲.....
他一直在婚姻中得不到他要的陪伴，母亲刷锅子的时间都比陪他的时间长。
不断地做家事，是母亲维持婚姻的方法，她给父亲一个乾净的家，
却从未陪伴他，她忙着做家事，她用她的方法在爱父亲，这个方法是「做家事」。
而我，我也用我的方法在爱着我的先生。
我的方法也是母亲的方法，我的婚姻好像也在走向同一个故事
「两个好人却没有好婚姻。」
我的领悟使我做了不一样的选择。
停下手边的工作，坐到先生的身边，陪他听音乐，
远远地看着地上擦地板的抹布，像是看着母亲的命运。
我问先生："你需要什麽？"
"我需要陪我听听音乐，家里脏一点没关系呀，
以後帮请个佣人，就可以陪我了！"先生说。
"我以为你需要家里乾净，有人煮饭给你吃，有人为你洗衣服....."
我一口气说了一串应该是他需要的事。
"那些都是次要的呀！"先生说。"我最希望陪陪我。"
原来我作了许多白工，这个结果实在令我大吃一惊。
我们继续分享彼此的需要，才发现他也做了不少白工，
我们都用自己的方式在爱对方，而不是对方的方式。
> 幸福的路径
自此以後，我列了一张先生的需要表，把它放在书桌前，
他也列了一张我的需求表，放在他的书桌前。
洋洋十几项的需求，像是有空陪对方听音乐、有机会抱抱对方、每天早上kiss拜拜。
有些项目比较容易做到，有些项目比较难，像是「听我说话，不要给建议。」
这是先生的需要。如果我给他建议，他说他会觉得自己像笨蛋。
我想，这真是男人的面子问题。
我也学着不给建议，除非他问我，否则我就只是倾听，顺服到底，连走错路时也一样。
这对我实在是一条不容易学习的路，不过，比擦地板要轻松多了，
而我们在需求的满足中，婚姻也愈来愈有活力。
在我累的时候，我就选择一些容易的项目做，像是「放一首放松音乐」，
自己有力气的时候就规划「一次外地旅游」这样的事情。
有趣的是，「到植物园散步」是我们的共同项目、共同需求，
每次婚姻有争吵，去到植物园，总能安慰彼此的心灵。
其实，这也可想而知，原本我们就是因为对植物园的喜爱而相知相惜，
一起走入婚姻，回到园子就会回到多年前彼此相爱的心情。
问对方：「你要什麽？」这句话开启了婚姻另一个幸福之路。
两个好人终於走上幸福之路。
现在，我也知道父母亲的婚姻为何无法幸福，
他们都太执着用「自己」的方法爱对方，而不是用「对方」的方式爱另一半。
自己累得半死，对方还感受不到，最後面对婚姻的期待，也就灰心而死了。
既然上帝创造婚姻，我想，每个人都值得拥有一个好婚姻，
只要方法用对，作「对方要的！」而非自己「想给的！」
好婚姻，绝对是可预期的。
(*^_^*)
“七件武器，七种完美” 立刻体验！
Since you have read about the secret of happiness, therefore you are advisable to act upon it when it is still fresh in your mind.
Wish you have a great success in your marriage.
Save your marriage and family.
Cheers and see you online again.
我的母亲是个非常好的人，自小，我就看到她努力地维持一个家。
她总是在清晨五时起床，煮一锅热腾腾的稀饭给父亲吃，
因为父亲胃不好，早餐只能吃稀饭。
然後，还要煮一锅乾饭给孩子吃，因为孩子正在发育，
需要吃乾饭，上学一天才不会饿。
每个星期，母亲会把榻榻米搬出去晒，晒出暖暖的太阳香。
每天下午，母亲总是弯着腰，刷着锅子，
我们家的锅子每一个都可以当镜子用，完全没有一点污垢。
晚上，她努力蹲在地上擦地板，一寸一寸仔细地擦拭，
家里的地板比别人家的床头还乾净，打着赤脚也找不到一丝灰尘。
我母亲是个认真辛劳的好女人。
然而，在我父亲的眼中，她却不是一个好伴侣。
我成长过程中，父亲不只一次地表示他在婚姻中的孤单，不被了解。
我的父亲是个负责的男人。
他不抽烟、不喝酒，工作认真，每天准时上下班，
暑假还安排功课表，安排孩子们的作息，
他是个尽责的父亲，督促孩子在功课上有所成就。
他喜欢下棋、写书法，沉浸在古书的世界。
我的父亲是个好男人，在孩子们眼中，他就像天一样大，保护我们、教育我们。
只是，在我母亲的眼中，他也不是一个好伴侣，
我成长的过程中，我经常看到母亲在院子的角落中，暗暗无声地掉泪。
父亲用语言，母亲用行动，表达了他们在婚姻中所面对的痛苦。
成长的过程中，我看到、也听到父亲与母亲在婚姻中的无奈，
也看到、感受到他们是如此好的男人与女人，他们值得一椿好婚姻。
可惜的是，父亲在世的岁月中，他们彼此的婚姻生活都在挫折中度过，
而我，也一直在困惑中成长，我问自己：「两个好人为什麽没有好的婚姻？」
自以为是的付出
我长大後，进入婚姻，渐渐了解这个问题的答案。
在婚姻的初期，我就像母亲一样，努力持家，努力地刷锅子、擦地板，
认真地为自己的婚姻而努力。
奇怪的是，我不快乐；看看我的先生，似乎他也不快乐。
我心中想，大概是地板不够乾净，饭菜烧得不够好，於是，
我更努力擦地板，用心做饭。
似乎，我们两个人还是不快乐。
直到有一天，我正忙着擦地板时，先生说：「老婆，来陪我听一下音乐！」
我不悦地说：「没看到还有一大半的地方没有擦！」
这句话一说出口，我呆住了，好熟悉的一句话，
在我父亲母亲的婚姻中，母亲也经常这样对父亲说。
我正在重演父母亲的婚姻，也重复他们在婚姻中的不快乐。
有一些领悟出现在我的心中。
你要的是？我停下手边的工作，看着先生，想到我父亲.....
他一直在婚姻中得不到他要的陪伴，母亲刷锅子的时间都比陪他的时间长。
不断地做家事，是母亲维持婚姻的方法，她给父亲一个乾净的家，
却从未陪伴他，她忙着做家事，她用她的方法在爱父亲，这个方法是「做家事」。
而我，我也用我的方法在爱着我的先生。
我的方法也是母亲的方法，我的婚姻好像也在走向同一个故事
「两个好人却没有好婚姻。」
我的领悟使我做了不一样的选择。
停下手边的工作，坐到先生的身边，陪他听音乐，
远远地看着地上擦地板的抹布，像是看着母亲的命运。
我问先生："你需要什麽？"
"我需要陪我听听音乐，家里脏一点没关系呀，
以後帮请个佣人，就可以陪我了！"先生说。
"我以为你需要家里乾净，有人煮饭给你吃，有人为你洗衣服....."
我一口气说了一串应该是他需要的事。
"那些都是次要的呀！"先生说。"我最希望陪陪我。"
原来我作了许多白工，这个结果实在令我大吃一惊。
我们继续分享彼此的需要，才发现他也做了不少白工，
我们都用自己的方式在爱对方，而不是对方的方式。
> 幸福的路径
自此以後，我列了一张先生的需要表，把它放在书桌前，
他也列了一张我的需求表，放在他的书桌前。
洋洋十几项的需求，像是有空陪对方听音乐、有机会抱抱对方、每天早上kiss拜拜。
有些项目比较容易做到，有些项目比较难，像是「听我说话，不要给建议。」
这是先生的需要。如果我给他建议，他说他会觉得自己像笨蛋。
我想，这真是男人的面子问题。
我也学着不给建议，除非他问我，否则我就只是倾听，顺服到底，连走错路时也一样。
这对我实在是一条不容易学习的路，不过，比擦地板要轻松多了，
而我们在需求的满足中，婚姻也愈来愈有活力。
在我累的时候，我就选择一些容易的项目做，像是「放一首放松音乐」，
自己有力气的时候就规划「一次外地旅游」这样的事情。
有趣的是，「到植物园散步」是我们的共同项目、共同需求，
每次婚姻有争吵，去到植物园，总能安慰彼此的心灵。
其实，这也可想而知，原本我们就是因为对植物园的喜爱而相知相惜，
一起走入婚姻，回到园子就会回到多年前彼此相爱的心情。
问对方：「你要什麽？」这句话开启了婚姻另一个幸福之路。
两个好人终於走上幸福之路。
现在，我也知道父母亲的婚姻为何无法幸福，
他们都太执着用「自己」的方法爱对方，而不是用「对方」的方式爱另一半。
自己累得半死，对方还感受不到，最後面对婚姻的期待，也就灰心而死了。
既然上帝创造婚姻，我想，每个人都值得拥有一个好婚姻，
只要方法用对，作「对方要的！」而非自己「想给的！」
好婚姻，绝对是可预期的。
(*^_^*)
“七件武器，七种完美” 立刻体验！
Since you have read about the secret of happiness, therefore you are advisable to act upon it when it is still fresh in your mind.
Wish you have a great success in your marriage.
Save your marriage and family.
Cheers and see you online again.
成功的定義 ( 好笑但貼切)
成功的定義 ( 好笑但貼切)
At age 4, success is...not peeing your pants.
在4歲時，成功就是不會尿在褲子上
At age 12, success is........having friends.
在12歲時，成功就是有朋友圍繞
At age 20, success is...........having sex.
在20歲時，成功就是擁有性生活
At age 35, success is..........making money
在35歲時，成功就是賺大錢
At age 60, success is............having sex.
在60歲時，成功就是擁有性生活
At age 70, success is.........having friends
在70歲時，成功就是有朋友圍繞
At age 80, success is..not peeing your pants
在80歲時，成功就是不會尿在褲子上
這就是人生?! ...........那麼, 人還有什麼好爭的?!
If this is life all about................what lead human to fight for?!
Please give it a serious thought.
Have a peaceful and joyful life.
Cheers and pray.
At age 4, success is...not peeing your pants.
在4歲時，成功就是不會尿在褲子上
At age 12, success is........having friends.
在12歲時，成功就是有朋友圍繞
At age 20, success is...........having sex.
在20歲時，成功就是擁有性生活
At age 35, success is..........making money
在35歲時，成功就是賺大錢
At age 60, success is............having sex.
在60歲時，成功就是擁有性生活
At age 70, success is.........having friends
在70歲時，成功就是有朋友圍繞
At age 80, success is..not peeing your pants
在80歲時，成功就是不會尿在褲子上
這就是人生?! ...........那麼, 人還有什麼好爭的?!
If this is life all about................what lead human to fight for?!
Please give it a serious thought.
Have a peaceful and joyful life.
Cheers and pray.
Tuesday, October 28, 2008
Please extend your gracious support to them
IT IS NOT WHAT HAPPENS TO THEM, BUT HOW THEY HANDLE WHAT HAPPENS TO THEM, THAT IS GOING TO MAKE THE DIFFERENCE. THEY ARE WELL DESERVE "I CAN" AWARD.The above illustrations are of the application of the 90/10 rules, which we have published earlier.
SO BUY THE IDEA, AND ADOPT THE "I CAN" ATTITUDE. THEN SUCCESS IS YOURS.
Monday, October 27, 2008
have a good laugh
Watching and waiting to catch speeding drivers, a Traffic Officer saw a car puttering along the highway at 22 MPH. He taught this driver is just as dangerous as a speeder. So, he decided to pull the driver over.
After approached the car, he noticed that there are five elderly ladies – two in the front and three at the back- eyes wide and white like ghosts.
The driver, obviously confused and said to him, “Officer, I don’t understand, I was doing exactly the speed limit! What seems to be the problem?”
“ Ma’am,” the officer replied, “You weren’t speeding, but you should know that driving slower than the speed limit can also be danger to other users.”
“Slower than the speed limit?’’ she asked. “No sir, I was doing the speed limit exactly… Twenty-Two miles an hour!” the old woman says a bit proudly. The Traffic officer, trying to contain a chuckle explains to her that “22” was the route number, not the speed limit. A bit embarrassed, the lady grinned and thanked the officer for pointing out her error.
“But before I let you go, Ma’am, I have to ask… Is everyone in this car ok? These ladies seem awfully shaken and they haven’t muttered a single peep this whole time.” The officer asked.
“Oh, they’ll be alright in a minute, officer. We just got off Route 119.”
After approached the car, he noticed that there are five elderly ladies – two in the front and three at the back- eyes wide and white like ghosts.
The driver, obviously confused and said to him, “Officer, I don’t understand, I was doing exactly the speed limit! What seems to be the problem?”
“ Ma’am,” the officer replied, “You weren’t speeding, but you should know that driving slower than the speed limit can also be danger to other users.”
“Slower than the speed limit?’’ she asked. “No sir, I was doing the speed limit exactly… Twenty-Two miles an hour!” the old woman says a bit proudly. The Traffic officer, trying to contain a chuckle explains to her that “22” was the route number, not the speed limit. A bit embarrassed, the lady grinned and thanked the officer for pointing out her error.
“But before I let you go, Ma’am, I have to ask… Is everyone in this car ok? These ladies seem awfully shaken and they haven’t muttered a single peep this whole time.” The officer asked.
“Oh, they’ll be alright in a minute, officer. We just got off Route 119.”
Patience is rewarding
Patience is one of the attributes of great leadership. Without it, enduring leadership is impossible. Persistence is enduring and stubborn. It does not mean sitting back and doing nothing. On the contrary, patience means always doing the very best you can do, while understanding that the results you seek will not come immediately.
Patience is the acknowledgement that the quality of life is much more important than the quantity of things to be filled in. Patience is the willingness to accept what is now while putting all you have into creating the best that can be.
Here, you can clearly see that it is not only saves you money. It also saves time, reduces stress, and improves your relationships. The rewarding is so great that you should not overlook this fine point.
With patience, you can understand thing much better and be understood as well as both work hand in hand. Therefore, the persistent man with a poor plan stands a better chance of winning than the man with a perfect plan who hesitates and wavers in carrying it out.
Looking at life with patience, you may discover rich treasures of it that you otherwise never would have known about. Living with patience, you develop the persistence to create great and valuable things.
Make use of the available opportunities in your life to practice patience so as you will live fully and richly.
Wish you a great success,
Patience is the acknowledgement that the quality of life is much more important than the quantity of things to be filled in. Patience is the willingness to accept what is now while putting all you have into creating the best that can be.
Here, you can clearly see that it is not only saves you money. It also saves time, reduces stress, and improves your relationships. The rewarding is so great that you should not overlook this fine point.
With patience, you can understand thing much better and be understood as well as both work hand in hand. Therefore, the persistent man with a poor plan stands a better chance of winning than the man with a perfect plan who hesitates and wavers in carrying it out.
Looking at life with patience, you may discover rich treasures of it that you otherwise never would have known about. Living with patience, you develop the persistence to create great and valuable things.
Make use of the available opportunities in your life to practice patience so as you will live fully and richly.
Wish you a great success,
Sunday, October 26, 2008
Neck exercise
Do some exercise is good for your health and trust you will enjoy reading it. Don't give up and I'm sure you can if you believe YOU CAN. It will prove I'm right and it is really worth your effort.
READ at least THREE TIMES A DAY to get the maximum profit of it that will keep you aways from doctor.
Have a very very good day. Happy Deepavali.
READ at least THREE TIMES A DAY to get the maximum profit of it that will keep you aways from doctor.
Have a very very good day. Happy Deepavali.
The wise thing you should do
An elderly man in Mumbai calls his son in New York and says, 'I hate to ruin your day son, but I have to tell you that your mother and I are getting a divorce; 35 years of marriage... and that much misery is enough!'
'Dad, what are you talking about?' the son screams.
'We can't stand the sight of each other any longer,' the old man says. 'We're sick of each other, and I'm sick of talking about this, so you call your sister in Hong Kong and tell her!'
Frantic, the son calls his sister, who explodes on the phone. 'Like heck they're getting divorced,' she shouts, 'I'll take care of this.' She calls Mumbai immediately, and screams at the old man, 'You are not getting divorced. Don't do a single thing until I get there. I'm calling my brother back, and we'll both be there tomorrow. Until then , don't do a thing, DO YOU HEAR??' and she hangs up.
The old man hangs up his phone and turns to his wife. 'Okay', he says, 'It's all set. They're both coming for Deepavali and paying their own airfare!!'
MORAL: No man / woman is busy in this world all 365 days. The sky is not going to fall down if you take few days LEAVE and meet your dear ones.
OFFICE WORK IS NOT EVERYTHING IN LIFE and MONEY MAKING IS NOT EVERYTHING IN LIFE.
Happy moments, praise God. Difficult moments, seek God. Quiet moments, worship God. Painful moments, trust God. Every moment, thank God.
This is the greatest thing you should do since all else fail to lift up to your life. So, spend times with your loved ones.
Good news
From my previous article you have been made to realize that Money can’t buy so many things in life.
Now, I have a good news for you - whatever money can’t buy, Jesus Christ gives you freely without charge if you believe in Him.
If Christ is your Savior, you need not be dominated by worry over earthly things. Instead, be ruled by Christ and His spiritual riches. You will experience a rare situation where money cannot buy as described in 1 Timothy 6:6 : Goodliness with contentment is great gain.
So, give God all your financial worries right now.
May I sum up with the following phrases:-
The contented person is never poor;
The discontented is never rich.
May God give you grace and peace forever. Amen
Now, I have a good news for you - whatever money can’t buy, Jesus Christ gives you freely without charge if you believe in Him.
If Christ is your Savior, you need not be dominated by worry over earthly things. Instead, be ruled by Christ and His spiritual riches. You will experience a rare situation where money cannot buy as described in 1 Timothy 6:6 : Goodliness with contentment is great gain.
So, give God all your financial worries right now.
May I sum up with the following phrases:-
The contented person is never poor;
The discontented is never rich.
May God give you grace and peace forever. Amen